Tag Archives: dating advice

Dating Don’ts: The 5-Minute Rule

Beth AmesJune 27, 2012 //

Don't screw everything up the morning after. Read More »

Dating Don'ts: Vag Killers

These things kill a vagina. Read More »

Dating Don'ts: Negging

Just say no to negging! Read More »

I am officially, unofficially implementing a new rule for coupled people everywhere. Please, please, please if you are spoken for, you must mention it within five minutes of having a flirty conversation with me. I am forever meeting men in social situations (I’m sure ladies do this too, so feel free to chime in guys) who will sit and talk to me for 15 minutes, half hour, sometimes even longer, will go so far as to get my number or give me theirs and wait until the very last second that we’re saying good bye to inform me that they are in a relationship or even married. On occasion, these guys have neglected to mention said girlfriend/fianceé/ wife until our first — what I believed to be — date! Come on now, people! Not cool. Keep reading »

How To Deal When Your Friend’s Husband Hits On You

Claudia Maittlen-HarrisJune 26, 2012 //

Is He Cheating?

How to tell if he's runnin' around on you. Read More »

Official Girl Code

We've got the official Frisky girl code of conduct. Read More »

Toxic Friendships

15 toxic friends you need to dump ASAP. Read More »

When my friend’s husband hit on me, I wish I could say I slapped his face, told him to f**k off and stormed away. Instead, I stood there in shock. After a really awkward goodbye, I got into my car and cried. A lot. It wasn’t just the fumbling attempt at a cheap thrill. No, it was his full revelation he had newfound “sexual feelings for me.” How cringe-worthy is that statement?

His confession started with details about how long he’d been attracted to me, dirty thoughts he’d had about me and ended with him grabbing my face and trying to kiss me. All I could think about was his wife, a dear friend, and what it would mean for our friendship. In the end, it ruined it. Because when a married man hits on one of his wife’s friends, it is an altogether horrid situation. Should you ever find yourself with this problem, here are some suggestions for how to deal with it with as much dignity as possible.   Keep reading »

11 Signs He’s Really Falling For You

College CandyJune 15, 2012 //

Last week we did a post called ’11 Signs You’re Really Falling For Him.’ We thought it only fitting to follow that up with the signs that he’s definitely falling for you. Maybe you’ve just met this guy, been friends with him for years or been dating for a a few weeks– regardless, there are telling signs that will let you know he’s really into you. Some of these seem incredibly obvious, and when they’re happening to you, there is no doubt in your mind that your man has fallen hard. However, sometimes when you’re not experiencing them, you manage to convince yourself that he’s more into you than he actually is. We’ve all been guilty at some point. Let this be your reality check. If you’re not getting the following behavior from your guy, you may want to think about where your relationship is going and if that’s a direction you’re okay with! Read more …

Dating Advice From My Dad

Ami AngelowiczJune 13, 2012 //

Father's Day!

Everything you need for a happy Father's Day. Read More »

Father Figures

Any man can be a father figure. Read More »

I Love My Dad, But...

...I don't want him to walk me down the aisle. Read More »

My dad is a very wise man. He knows when to keep his mouth shut, which is pretty much whenever it comes to my love life. On other fronts he is and always has been very vocal — even a little bit hot headed. It’s the Brooklyn in him. In high school, when I got into a kerfuffle with one of my teachers, he showed up at her office and told her to “pound sand.” He did this without my permission and I was mortified. In college, when the storage unit where I was housing my stuff for the summer tried to swindle me, he called up the owner and threatened to hang the guy “from a flagpole by his underwear.” This is my dad’s favorite threat. Apparently, he actually did this to one of his campers when he was a counselor back in high school. He’s very proud of this.

But throughout my life, while meeting various boyfriends or hearing about them, he hasn’t given a single opinion. He hasn’t told any of them to pound sand or threatened to hang a single man who screwed me over from a flagpole by his underwear (although there were probably a few who deserved it). He has remained miraculously neutral. This is why I remember the three times he offered up dating advice. And I shall recount them for you… Keep reading »

5 Dating Habits To Keep In Your Relationship

Winona Dimeo-EdigerJune 12, 2012 //

Bad Dating Patterns

10 Unhealthy Dating Patterns And How To Break Them

Break these 10 unhealthy dating patterns. 11 Photos »

Old Time Dating Rituals

Sweaty apples, dance cards, and dainty gloves, oh my! 10 Photos »

After The Move-In...

...couples should stop doing these 20 things! Read More »

I’ve been in a relationship for a really long time, which means I haven’t technically “dated” since George W. Bush was president. Sometimes I feel a little nostalgic and curious about the dating lifestyle, but the other day, when I asked my boyfriend if it hurt when he fell from heaven, I realized there are a lot of things about dating that can — and should — translate to long-term relationships. Corny pick-up lines, for example. Here are a few more dating habits and rituals to keep in your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together… Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: 13 Signs That He’ll Be A Bad Partner

Ami AngelowiczJune 5, 2012 //

Reasons To Watch

Five reasons we're excited about Season 2 of "Love In The Wild." Read More »

Dating Don'ts: Negging

Just say no to negging! Read More »

Dating Don'ts: Criticism

It's time to put a moratorium on beating yourself up. Read More »

If there’s any deeper message to be extracted from “Love In The Wild,” which premieres tonight 9/8c on NBC, it’s that you don’t want to get stuck in a snake pit with a crap ass partner. Teamwork is key on the dating competition show, in which single men and women pair off into couples and compete for a trip around the world – finding a partner that can be trusted to be loyal is the best chance they have to at achieving victory in the end (and finding love to boot). The same can be said of long-term relationships in the real world. The nice thing about competing in life-threatening challenges is that a person reveals their true colors right away. These things are not quite as easy to discern at a wine bar as they are when bungee jumping off a mountain. But there are clues that you can pay attention to that will let you know if he’s the kind of guy you’d want to go kayaking through the rain forest with … or endure a weekend at his parents’ together. Equally as dangerous! After the jump, some signs that he won’t be a great partner — “Love in the Wild” contestants, take notes! Keep reading »

Post-Breakup Rebound? Why Men Move On So Fast

YourTango.comJune 4, 2012 //

When I use the words “men” and “rebound” in the same sentence, male minds might quickly conjure up thoughts of their favorite NBA teams. Women, however, understand that I am addressing the phenomenon of rushing into a new relationship after the dissolution of an old one. And while men aren’t the only ones guilty of this relationship ricochet, they are, by far, the most-likely to engage in this particular type of reactionary behavior.

So, what causes men to so quickly move from a break-up with you to the arms of another woman? Read more …

15 Signs It’s Time To Walk Away

College CandyJune 3, 2012 //

There comes a time in most relationships when you must decide to, excuse my Texan, ‘shit or get off the pot.’ Relationship milestones are no mystery. There’s the “getting to know one another and going on dates” phase, the “okay, we’re more than casual but not calling each other boyfriend or girlfriend (you know, because it’s really trendy to have commitment issues these days)” phase, followed by the “I mean, it’s obvious that we’re together exclusively, but we haven’t really talked about it” phase, and finally the “yeah, we’ve been dating for years” phase. Maybe there are a few I overlooked, but at each intersection of relationship stages, a moment of decision arises. To stay or not to stay? That is the question. Progressing through each stage requires a deeper level of compatibility and the willingness to make a larger commitment. Do you have it? Read more …

8 Classic Commitmentphobic Lines Decoded

The StirJune 2, 2012 //

Ladies, you know when you meet a guy you really like, and you think, “This could be the one!” But something feels off. It feels sort of like you are single-handedly dragging the relationship up a mountain, or kind of pushing it up a hill with one finger? Because it seems like the guy gives mixed signals. One day he is so into you, and the next day, you’re not quite so sure, and then you’re all confused and like, “Should I stay or should I go?” Yeah, when you’re quoting The Clash, it’s a bad sign. Well, take heart, you’re not crazy. You could merely be dealing with a Commitmentphobe. Commitmentphobes can be found anywhere; however, they tend to congregate in urban areas where men outnumber women. These guys look like every other guy, but they talk differently.

So how to tell if you’ve got one of these slithery specimans? You need a translator. You need a Commitmentphobic Dictionary of Terms and Phrases.

Here are 8 classic lines commitmentphobic dudes say, and what they really mean (can also be used for commitmentphobic women):

Let’s take things slow. Meaning: Let’s sleep together really fast but take everything else really slow. Read more …

The Good, The Bad & The WTF: Dating Advice “Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger Dispenses Over Twitter

Jessica WakemanJune 1, 2012 //

Debunking Patti

Patti has some stupid theories -- we prove them wrong. Read More »

Patti Stanger Q&A

Patti talks to The Frisky about life, love, and BJs. Read More »

Keep The Ring?

Patti Stanger and other celebs who did. Read More »

One afternoon this week, I was putzing around on Twitter, procrastinating on work, when a tweet from Patti Stanger, the star of “Millionaire Matchmaker,” caught my eye. “Part of acting like a lady involves allowing him to be a gentleman,” she tweeted.

Hmmm, I thought. That’s just good advice. Then I thought about it for a second. Wait. What does that even mean? It sounds like a riddle. The more I thought about it, the less it made sense and the more it seemed to be zen koan-like thought farts.

Patti Stanger’s Twitter feed is filled with these thought farts. Like her Bravo show ”Millionaire Matchmaker,” she offers a melange of useful observations on dating and relationships, mixed with some truly reactionary, fucked-up advice that seeks to corral both men and women into normative gender role behavior. (In fact, we’ve debunked some of this fucked up-edness before.) Let me be clear: if people want to choose that normative gender role behavior himself or herself, that’s great. I choose it a lot of the time myself, in fact. But it’s not ethical to teach people their most successful strategy for finding love is to squeeze yourself into a box and follow the sexist script.

After the jump, let’s debunk some of Patti Stanger’s advice over Twitter … the good, the bad, and the truly WTF. Keep reading »