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8 Terrifying Texts From Online Dates

Frightening Text Messages
He looks normal. He acts normal. You guys are totally hitting it off. So you give him your number. . . and then, you deeply regret it. Whether they’re over-eager, obnoxious or downright creepy, there are a lot ways your online date can ruin his chances with a strange text. Naturally, we have got a whole lot of examples for these “what is wrong with him?” moments. Read them all on Your Tango…

Dating Don’ts: Choose To Be Available

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Dating Don'ts: 6 Tips For Managing Your First Ex Run-In
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Dating Don'ts: Alone
Dating Don'ts: Why You Should Choose To Be Alone
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Life as we know it is a series of small, careful choices that we make day in and day out. We choose to watch television, to go to yoga, to eat that last piece of cake, to go the long way home instead of taking a cab. We make these choices as a part of life with little thought and a decided lack of consideration. If you’re single, and decidedly so, that’s a choice — an easy choice to make for some, a difficult choice for others, but what does it mean when you decide that you want to choose to date, but aren’t sure how to go about doing it?

The concept of making yourself available is a notion that is more difficult to put into practice than it sounds. We spend so much of our time being available only to ourselves — choosing what we want to read next, or where we want to go on vacation, or whether or not to eat Chipotle two days in a row for lunch. These are choices that come like second nature to us. To make the decision to let your delicate, quivering soul out into the universe is a terrifying one, but it is necessary if you choose to be available. Keep reading »

Life After Dating: 6 Unsung Benefits Of Spending The Holidays With Your Partner’s Family

Life After Dating: 6 Unsung Benefits Of Spending The Holidays With Your Partner's Family

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our new weekly column, Life After Dating, we’ll discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

You’ve barely worked your way through your stash of Halloween candy, and already the world is asking you to reserve your free-range turkey at the grocery story and buy your plane ticket for Christmas before the rates triple. If you and your significant other have been avoiding the Where We’ll Spend The Holidays convo, you can avoid it no longer. You may be at a stalemate over where you’re going to go depending on whose families give bigger guilt trips and how much you’re gonna have to cough up to get there and of course, tons of other considerations. We’ll leave that to you to sort out. (Good luck!) As you’re in the final throes of the holiday decision making frenzy, may we recommend (if your parents won’t disown you) forgoing the Where We’ll Spend The Holidays war and offering to spend it with your partner’s family. Not because you don’t love your family. Just because, well, what we’ve started to realize is that a holiday at your SO’s house is a holiday where you’re kind of off the hook — even if his family is a bit high maintenance. There is a beauty to not being expected to make the plans, do the grocery shopping or entertain asshole relatives. There are epiphanies to be had from watching your SO interact with their family members. Here are a few unexpected benefits to heading over the river and through the woods to a holiday celebration with your partner’s family… Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: 6 Tips For Managing The First Ex Run-In

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Dating Don'ts: It's You
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Dating Don'ts: 6 Tips For Managing Your First Ex Run-In

You’re on your way to your local watering hole one evening and you spot something familiar in the gait, the walk, the hand gestures of a person heading your way on the street. You realize with sudden, sinking dread that it’s your ex who you haven’t seen since the breakup. You grab your best friend’s elbow and hiss in her ear, “That’s him.” You stay in place, paralyzed and unable to move, until she grabs you by the back of the arm and steers you across the street. You think yourself invisible while you stand in between two parked cars, waiting for him to pass.

Later, when you get a text that says, “Did I just see you outside that bar?” you wait two hours and numerous drinks before texting back in all caps “NOPE.” Near the end of the night, as you sit on top of a bar stool with your best friend like imperious, drunk queens, you blatantly ignore him when he enters the bar to retrieve his forgotten credit card. Likely story. Even with his sudden ambush, you manage to avoid contact. At the end of the night you collapse into bed with a glass of water in hand, and think to yourself, Crisis averted!

But really, was it? Keep reading »

Harry Potter And The Chamber of Love Lessons

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Merlin’s beard, we’re old! It is the 12th anniversary of the Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone premiere, but Potterdom is as alive today as ever. One of my favorite things (of many) about the Harry Potter book and film series is that it’s not a cheesy romantic story on the outside — hello mystery, adventure, and strong female heroines — but at the heart of it, it is a love story. There are various romantic pairings that slowly develop over the course of the series, and there is, of course, the love of Harry’s mother that steers the entire plot. So using GIFs and quotes from the movies and books, I’m sharing some of the best love lessons J.K.’s series has taught us about the magic of love. Read all 27 love lessons on Tres Sugar…

Dating Don’ts: Embracing Wabi-Sabi

Dating Don'ts: Control
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Dating Don'ts: To Date
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Dating Don'ts: Fatigue
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Dating Don'ts: Embracing Wabi-Sabi

Here is a example of something that happens to people in relationships: we strive for perfection at all costs. Things go well, things are proceeding according to the path you created in your head. Things feel perfect. Your relationship is a glorious jewel of correctness, shining in a world where nothing is right. There have been no arguments, you disagree on nothing and appear to have everything in common. The success of your relationship is a kick in the teeth to all your other problems, it’s the one thing that you can really and truly do right. It’s a contact high of the best kind and you never want it to go away.  The problem with this feeling? The first crack in the veneer sends you into a roiling, spiraling panic. The truth: Perfection is impossible, it is unfeasible, and the struggle to achieve it will be the death of the relationship. Instead of striving for it, try infusing your relationship with some wabi-sabi. Keep reading »

14 Non-Scary Things She Might Mean When She Says “We Need To Talk”

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14 Non-Scary Things She Might Mean When She Says "We Need To Talk"

It’s a universal truth that men get freaked the fuck out when a woman utters the phrase, “We need to talk.” (It freaks women out as well, but not to quite the same extent.) If you want to get a guy quivering in his boots, those four words will always do the trick. But WHY? From what men tell me, “we need to talk” signifies extreme relationship danger. To a guy, it’s the verbal equivalent of being hunted by a bear. It’s talk of marriage, babies, cheating or whatever thing you know he doesn’t want to talk about. It makes a guy feel trapped. Boxed in. In trouble. It sends him into an automatic anxiety spiral. I’ve personally retired the phrase at the behest of my boyfriend. “Don’t announce the major convo, just get into it,” he requested. Noted. Keep reading »

Psoriasis & 14 Other Unacceptable Reasons To Dump Someone

According to some new research, the unknown enemy of many a relationship is psoriasis (that skin disorder that Kim Kardashian has). Who knew? I mean, once a guy canceled a date by telling me he “was itching all over.” But I’m pretty sure that was just lie because he ghosted after that. And he definitely didn’t have psoriasis.  Anyhow, the research found that a staggering 25 percent of all psoriasis sufferers claim they were dumped at some point because of their scabby, scaly skin. Of course, the dumpers could have been trying to sugar-coat things when they said: “It’s not you, it’s your psoriasis,” but it’s such an dick-ish things to say that it seems unlikely.

With all the perfectly good reasons to dump someone — they’re untrustworthy, they bore you to tears, they’re life dream is to become a nudist and live off the grid — psoriasis is not anywhere near acceptable. Emotional incompatibility. Fine. Different visions for the future. Sure. Psoriasis. You suck, psoriasis shamers. This gets me thinking, if so many people are getting canned over a totally treatable auto-immune disorder, others must be getting dumped for even stupider reasons. Below, I’ve started a running list of some reasons that are NOT valid for breaking up because I feel like we ought to have one. You’re gonna have to come up with something more substantial, people… Keep reading »

Ask A Professional Matchmaker! (You Know You Want To…)

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Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match! But seriously…

The Frisky wants nothing more than to help the searching singles of the world find their soul mates and coupled folks navigate choppy relationship waters, so who better to team up with than Professional Matchmaker, Exclusive Matchmaking! Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Why Control Is The Enemy Of Love

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Dating Don'ts: Fighting
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Dating Don'ts Why Control Is The Enemy Of Love

Say you’re in a new relationship, and things are going well. There are dinners, there is coffee in bed when you want it, there is sparkling conversation and wit and banter, there are all-consuming exchanges of emotion that leave you revitalized and ready to seize the rest of your lives together. You’ve reached a state of happiness that leaves other relationships in the dark. Finally! A thing that works for me, the way I want it, the way I need it. What have I done to deserve this giant treasure from the universe?

Then, the change comes, like it does in all new relationships. Sun-soaked afternoons in bed are slowly replaced by tense mornings in which every conversation is a power struggle. What was once light and sunshine and butterfly kisses is now a relationship fraught with calculated moves to gain the upper hand. What happened here? How did something that seemed so easy become so complicated? Keep reading »

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