Tag Archives: dating advice

Why You Should Date More Than One Guy At A Time

YourTango.comSeptember 12, 2012 //

So many of my clients ask me whether they should date more than one man at a time. As their search for love heats up, suddenly there are a few guys who are interested and they don’t know how to handle it. The other scenario is that they fall in love too quickly with one guy and end up heartbroken time after time. Have either of these situations happened to you?

When I was looking for love, I often dated up to three guys simultaneously. I wasn’t trying to hit some number in the Guinness Book of World Records. Rather, my goal was simple: to find a guy I could date more than three times, hoping this would lead to a relationship.

Frequently, men would drop out after one, two or three dates. Since there was no way to know who would stick around, I dated as many guys as I was interested in at the same time. That’s why I’m an advocate for “volume dating.” I dated 30 men in 15 months in order to eventually meet my husband. Read more …

8 Myths About Dating Older Men Debunked

Jennifer KuhnSeptember 12, 2012 //

Dating Advice

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When I met the older man I briefly dated, I’d been drinking. And being that we all make bad decisions once we’ve had a few, I gave him my number. My real number. If I’d known that he was two years younger than my (gasp!) mother, I probably would have given him fake digits digits instead. But I was deceived. This dude was incredibly well-preserved and rolling with some friends who appeared to be about my age. There was no way I could have guessed how much older he was.

He bought me a beer and asked me my age.

“Twenty-six,” I answered. And at that moment, it seemed appropriate to ask his age. So I did, and I got a mysterious answer: “Guess.”

I guessed. “Thirty-one?” No. “Thirty-four?” No. “Twenty-five?” No. Keep reading »

Older Men, Younger Women

Do all older men want a much young girlfriend? Read More »

Celebs Who Date Older

These celeb men love an older woman. 8 Photos »

Dating Dont's:Age

How not to handle an age difference. Read More »

Guy Talk: The Real Reason Women Shouldn’t Make The First Move

Dennis HongSeptember 5, 2012 //

Guy Talk: First Date

There was a reason he never called you after that great first date. Read More »

Guy Talk: Romantics

Guys can be hopeless romantics too. Read More »

Guy Talk: First Kiss

One guy talks about making the first move. Read More »

Maybe you catch him standing at the other end of the bar, slyly checking you out. Maybe you met him before and flirted with him, but he never asked for your phone number. Or, maybe you’ve already hung out with him a few times, but a casual arm flung over your shoulders is about the extent of the physical contact he’s made so far.

So, you saunter over to him and say hi.

Or, the next time you see him, you say, “So, are you ever going to ask for my phone number?”

Or, as you’re sitting on the couch next to him, streaming yet another movie on Netflix, you turn to look him in the eyes, and you decide to just go for it and kiss him.

Like that daydreaming moron you’re stuck behind at the busy intersection, these are the guys who make you throw your arms up in the air and yell, “You’ve got the green light! Just go already!”

Yes, there are a lot of timid guys out there.

But now, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: Timid guys aren’t as numerous as you may think. In fact, that cute guy who flirts with you and acts interested, but never actually does anything about it, can turn out to be a totally different breed of guy. He’s not timid, or awkward, or nervous. He’s manipulating you.

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Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It

YourTango.comAugust 18, 2012 //

Texting Dangers

The dangers of being a flirty texter. Read More »

Ask Me Out

Ask us out on a damn date! Read More »

Ways He Says ...

I love you. Guys have their own special ways. Read More »

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. He was easy to talk to, had a good sense of humor and had good answers to your questions. You feel tentatively positive. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend.

Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. “Are you free tonight?” he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, “Yes”. You go out and have another great date. It is so nice to talk to a man who you can have a great conversation. You smile, laugh and share similar ideas about life.

Then, you don’t hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can’t take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can’t stand this waiting game. You assume, of course, you will have a date. Read more …

Dating Don’ts: Love Adages NOT To Live By

Ami AngelowiczAugust 14, 2012 //

Dating Don'ts: Kisses

Women fear these types of first kisses. Read More »

Dating Don'ts: Baggage

We all have it. Read More »

Dating Don'ts: He's Back!

Why you should be wary when you hear from him unexpectedly. Read More »

One of the more annoying things about dating is being given unsolicited advice by the smug couples of the world, the most offensive kind being played out platitudes about love. Thanks. I’m sure “my time will come” but when? How? At least say something helpful if you’re going to shove your advice down my throat. And by the way, just because I’m not currently in love doesn’t mean I’ve never experienced it before. I have, thank you very much. And here’s what I learned from my experiences: Falling in love is a wonderful, mystical, magical thing, but it’s complicated and nuanced and rare. Every time you fall in love it’s as unique as a snowflake, so it’s absolutely impossible to generalize with some stale old saying. I humbly request a ban on the following love adages on the grounds that they’re stupid and untrue. Oh, and I give you permission to close your ears the next time you hear these phrases … Keep reading »

Guy Talk: Why I’ll Act Like A Jerk If I Break Up With You

Dennis HongAugust 7, 2012 //

How To Dump

There is a proper way to dump someone you're dating. Read More »

Guy Talk: First Date

There was a reason he never called you after that great first date. Read More »

Get Over A Breakup

How to get over a breakup, according to John DeVore. Read More »

In the 2007 remake of “3:10 to Yuma,” Christian Bale’s character loses his leg while fighting in the Civil War. As compensation, the government gives him a sum of money, which he uses to attempt to forge a new life. After he fails miserably, he realizes that the government never actually cared about helping him. They just wanted to erase any obligation they had. He sums up his disillusionment more cynically than anything Batman ever came up with: The government didn’t give him the money so he could walk away. They gave him the money so they could walk away.

Recently, I discovered that the same idea applies to dating. Keep reading »

Essential Tips For Traveling As A Couple

YourTango.comJuly 31, 2012 //

Taking your first vacation as a couple is a huge relationship milestone. Travel is stressful, no matter where you’re going or how many margaritas you’ve had. Will your relationship survive the journey or will it get left behind in paradise? Here are three ways to ensure your love will outlast your vacation:

1. Plan the trip together. It might be tempting to tell your boyfriend that he can plan the trip, but you’ll only end up disappointed when he reveals his plans include diving with sharks or visiting every sports museum in a 100 mile radius. Read more …

Dating Don’ts: Quit Trying So Hard (As Demonstrated By Two Contestants On Last Night’s Episode Of “Bachelor Pad”)

Ami AngelowiczJuly 31, 2012 //

Dating Don'ts: Baggage

We all have it. Read More »

Dating Don't: Bunny Boiler

How to recover if you've acted insane. Read More »

Dating Don'ts: 5 Minutes

We are instating the 5-minute rule. Read More »

Do not sketch your date's face!

While watching last night’s episode of “Bachelor Pad,” I had two distinct thoughts: 1) Michael Stagliano is the only normal person on this show and 2) the worst thing you can do on a date is try too hard. I have been so, so guilty of this. I’m sure all of us have. But this was like my dating self’s tragic flaw. As a former actress, the instinct to impress was ingrained in me, and this extended to my love life. I thought I had to give ‘em a little extra flair to make them cast me as the part of “girlfriend.” Wrong.

I didn’t do this physically. I brought gifts. This is as embarrassing for me to talk about as it is for you to read. There were cookies baked, mixed CDs made, a copy of The Unbearable Lightness of Being with a hand-written inscription presented. All before the third date. As you can probably guess, these guys ran for the hills. They were probably frightened. Just as frightened as Jamie was when Ryan over-celebrated her birthday — spelling her name out in licorice on her bed, giving her flowers and balloons, and getting her sushi. Or as uncomfortable as Michael was when Donna presented him with a sketch of his face during their date one-on-one time. Cringe. Keep reading »

Advice Needed: How Do You Make The Transition From Friends To More Than Friends?

Josephine LedgerJuly 30, 2012 //

He Sucks In Bad

How should you deal with a man who sucks in the sack? Read More »

Friendship Turned Love

One writer talks about how she fell in love with her best friend. Read More »

The Friend Zone

A guy's view on being in the friend zone. Read More »

Help This Dater!

I have stumbled upon a dating conundrum that I cannot figure out on my own. I don’t need to consult an advice columnist, or my friends or therapist. I need to hear from the people of the world at large who have been through this and have practical pearls of wisdom to bestow upon me.

So here’s the dilemma: The other night I was out with some friends … wait let me back up. Here’s what you should know: This dinner bunch is a tight circle of friends. We work in the same field and our bond is not only personal, it’s professional. One of the members of this group is a guy that has been a close friend of mine for the last two years. I have always sensed some attraction on both of our ends at different times throughout our friendship, but neither of us have ever acted on it at all. Never in any overt way, at least. Over the past couple of years, we’ve become really, really close, sharing stuff about our families, dating lives, professional lives and personal lives. This guy probably knows more about me than most of my closest friends. Keep reading »

5 Things Guys Need To Stop Doing If They Want To Have Better Luck Online

Ami AngelowiczJuly 25, 2012 //

Avoid Online Dating!

Here are some suggestions. Read More »

Show Your Profile

Why you should show your online profile to your friends. Read More »

Online Exaggerations

A few of the silly exaggerations in Amelia's online dating profile. Read More »

Online Dating Don'ts

Kicking and screaming, dragging my feet all the way, after more than four years offline, I finally joined an online dating site. I was trying to avoid it, but I decided that, while I was was meeting guys in person, I wanted meet a wider variety of guys. I am happy to say, that so far, it’s not so bad. But I’ve noticed a few things that guys are consistently doing wrong in my humble opinion. After the jump, some things dudes need to stop doing if they want to improve their luck online. Keep reading »