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10 Things Guys Shouldn’t Do On The First Date

They don’t say, “First impressions are the best impressions,” for nothing. It’s very true! How a person behaves with us the first time we meet them definitely sets the tone for our future interactions, especially if it’s a first date.

I feel like I am always being bombarded with magazine articles about what women shouldn’t do on the first date, so today, I decided to turn the tables around. I have compiled a list of 10 things guys shouldn’t even think about doing on their first dates.

Checking Your Cellphone. This is our first date. Your attention should be on me. Not on your phone. Actually, this is a pet peeve of mine in general. Even when I am just with my friends at dinner, it annoys me to the millionth power when we make all this effort to have dinner plans and all my friends spend doing during dinner is checking their phones!  Read more on College Candy…

Are You Dating A Cat Or A Dog?

A lot of people think of acts of romance as being gender-specific. Men should bring home bouquets of long-stemmed roses and women should wear naughty lingerie to keep the fire burning in their relationships. The problem with this kind of thinking is that it perpetuates false gender roles and actually misleads people into following a set of rigid sex-centric guidelines that ends up hurting the relationship — and disregards your uniqueness as a couple. I have a solution.

So here’s my secret technique: consider romance from the perspective of a cat or a dog.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “What’s the difference between thinking in male/female terms and cat/dog terms?” Bear with me for a moment. Read more on Your Tango…

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Not Have A Travel Romance

Dating Don'ts: Functions
How open should you be about poop and stuff? Read More »
Wanderlust Week
It's time for a vacay! The Frisky can help you find the perfect destination. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Cleaning
Simple ways to spring clean your love life. Read More »

I’m an avid backpacker/compulsive traveler. I’m an overly optimistic dreamer who has quite seriously hypothesized that (a) mermaids exist, and (b) if you run fast enough and cry hard enough, Bradley Cooper just might chase you around a street corner and scream “I love you.” I tend to believe that smiley face emoticons in emails are one step away from a marriage proposal. For the most part, my world view serves me well, except perhaps, when it comes to travel romances. From my personal experiences, I would like to share with you some helpful DONT’s and DO’s of flinging while abroad. Keep reading »

10 Kind Of Annoying Pieces Of Dating Advice That We Hate To Admit Are True (In GIFs)

Dating Don'ts: Bad Advice
The most unhelpful dating advice Ami ever received. Read More »
Relationship Advice
This is the advice Julie would give you if she were your friend. Read More »

I hate both giving and receiving dating advice, mostly because it isn’t a one-size-fits-all endeavor. But when a younger lady, wet behind the ears on the dating scene, comes to me and asks questions, I feel obligated to share my hard-learned relationship truthisms. Even if they’re harsh. I’m not going to make it all fluffy unicorns. Dating is more like an unpredictable mastodon. Yes, I know she’ll probably ignore me, the young, irreverent laddess that she is, and go do exactly what the hell she wants to do just like I did when I was 19. And she’ll learn on her own, the hard way, the way all of us did, by getting kicked out of the guy-you-think-you’re-in-love-with’s birthday party and then vomiting in a gutter at 5 a.m. Or was that just me? But ohhh, if I can spare her the unnecessary heartache, the unnecessary vomit, the time spent composing unnecessary revenge emails, then dammit, I will give my most valiant effort! If someone had told me these things back then– when I had no idea how shit worked — I would have plugged my ears. So here goes, the things I know are true about dating, even though I wish they weren’t. Take heed. Or feel free to ignore and enjoy the GIFs. You’re going to do what you want to anyone. That’s the truth. Keep reading »

8 Lessons From Pickup Artists That Guys Should Actually Use

Dating An Ex-PUA
pickup artist
She dated an ex- Pickup Artist. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Negging
Just say no to negging! Read More »
Woman Marries PUA
This woman married a well-known PUA. Read More »

“Excuse me, why do you have the sour bug?”

That’s what a guy once said to me in a bar. I know, I know;  you’re totally swooning. If you’re a woman and you’re alive, chances are you’ve been hit on by a Pickup Artist (commonly known as PUAs), by this method known as “negging.”

I always thought of PUAs as nightclub prowlers, dressed like they rummaged through a clown’s closet, decked out in Ed Hardy, looking like a cross between Steven Tyler and The Situation from “Jersey Shore.” I often wondered, Who are these supposed women who found men donning sparkly scarves, multiple rings, and fingerless, leather gloves attractive? I imagine they are the same types of women who still think George Michael is straight. I thought of PUAs as full of canned come-ons, the smell of desperation wafting off of them like bad cologne. Their core problem, I analyzed, was lack of confidence. Common sense would dictate that secure men don’t need a script to approach women. Can you imagine Bill Clinton or Don Draper using PUA methods?  I don’t think so.

As you may have deduced from my tone, I always looked down on PUAs and their slimy methods. Which is why I couldn’t stop myself from signing up for a class entitled “Pickup a 10 in the Streets of NYC.” At first I was just curious; I wanted to know what makes these guys tick. I imagined myself as a spy on a reconnaissance mission, collecting information from the enemy. Or like Sigourney Weaver in “Gorillas in the Mist,” studying the species’ every move. Keep reading »

9 Things Spock Would Say About Dating

I must admit, as much as I adored both options presented in last week’s “You Choose It, We Write It” — and would have and will happily write both — I was especially eager to write one in particular. So thank you to all of you who voted, especially the 55 percent who voted for the winner, “9 Things Spock Would Say About Dating.” I am, after all, a bit of a Trekkie and was sure that the Content Idea Generator was on to something with this idea. And boy, was I right. Spock is officially my dating guru. Click on to read some of his completely logical pearls of relationship wisdom, and may your dating life live long and prosper.

Dating Don’ts: How Not To Be That Annoying, Love-Crazed Person

Dating Don'ts: Just One
All it takes is one good date. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Fatigue
When dating fatigue sets it, it's a bitch. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: The L Word
There are certain times when "I love you" doesn't count. Read More »

I keep blinking my eyes. Splashing cold water on my face. Waiting to wake up from the cinematic dream sequence which has been my life for the last three weeks. It all started when I ran into an old friend from college on the subway and the next thing I knew, my love life went from black and white to technicolor in a poof, like when Dorothy landed over the rainbow. So. Yeah. Hi! Greetings from over the rainbow. Colors are brighter here. Food tastes better. Dogs and babies and munchkins all have secret messages just for you. Time is measured in hand holds and kisses and the breeze decides which direction you walk.

I’m trying desperately to make sense of it all. But I fear I have become one of those people: the love-crazed fool who you want to punch in her stupid, shmoopy face. Even in my state of euphoria, I recognize that my type can be terribly annoying. Should you ever find yourself over the rainbow, A) Enjoy it! and B) Try to keep it together so the rest of the world doesn’t want to murder you. Here are some thoughts about how to do that… Keep reading »

15 Dating Don’ts Worth Reading Again

Our Year In Dating
As told in pop culture GIF form. Read More »
The Frisky Turns 5!
Happy 5th birthday to The Frisky! Read More »

I was having dinner with a friend the other night and I was in the middle of a rant about dating fatigue when our waitress, a beautiful and statuesque 20-something women, strode over to our table and said, “I hear you. It just never ends.”

We all nodded at each other, wordlessly, exchanging sympathetic I feel your pain looks.

Dating is so complicated it’s a wonder that people continue to do it. Navigating through all the awkwardness and nuances of romantic, human interactions requires a compass, or at the very least, a forum to vent.This is why our Dating Don’ts column is important. We could probably write dating how-not-to’s for another ten and never run out of topics to discuss. For The Frisky’s 5th birthday, I’ve rounded up some of the best dating tips we’ve given. It never hurts to brush up. Share your favorite Dating Don’ts moments in the comments or suggest some topics you’d like to see covered. And keep on keeping on, daters. We’re here for you. Keep reading »

25 Date Night Ideas That Aren’t Cheesy

Getting bored of the usual dinner and a movie date? Us too.There’s plenty of other ways to get to know each other and strengthen your bond. That’s why we came up with these fun date night ideas you and your guy will both enjoy.

From wine and beer tours to volunteering, these are exciting adventures you and your guy will remember forever.

Hot Springs. Visiting hot springs is a sexy, therapeutic means by which you can relax together. Take a day trip and visit the closest one to you for an all-natural spa day (that will cost a fraction of the price!). Read more…

15 Ways Guys Say “I Love You” Without Really Saying It

Has your guy been fairly silent in the 4-letter-word department, and you’re trying to figure out other ways to tell if he loves you? Sometimes, this can be hard; not everybody is vocal or obvious about their feelings, and many may feel it is difficult to voice those deeper emotions whether it’s for fear of rejection, commitment or simply never having said “I Love You” before.

Here are some subtle, silent ways to tell if he’s thinking it.

1. Passionate, Long-Lasting Kisses. Who doesn’t love an excellent, lengthy kiss? When he’s continuously initiating these and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he’s more than just a little excited to be around you. Read more…