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Dater X: Wish Fulfillment

We’ve come a long way, baby.

This week’s title refers not just to the many commenters who have called – nay, pleaded – for the search for Dater X 4.0 to begin. It also refers to the surprising path that my life has taken since I started writing this column.

Looking… More »


Dater X: Moving Right Along

With things mostly calm here in my world, I thought this week might be a good one for a recap, and with it, some additional stories that haven’t always fit into my weekly columns since I started seeing The Bartender.

I noticed that there seem to be some misunderstandings about how much time… More »


Dater X: Face Value

It’s about time I admitted something that you probably already knew or guessed: This column has an undeniable impact on my dating life. More »


Dater X: Me Time

This week’s trip to The Bartender’s city has been a little more fraught than most.

As we work on settling into “normal” life, despite one of us more or less always being “on vacation” in the other’s city when we see each other, we’ve both started trying to build some personal time into… More »


Dater X: The Password

Passwords mean trust, or at least they do in 2016. More »


Dater X: Compromising Position

As things continue to progress with The Bartender, I find myself thinking a lot about compromise.

More specifically: I’m a person who has been on her own, for better or for worse, for most of my life. That’s not to say that I don’t have a strong support system, but rather, that I’m… More »


Dater X: In My Element

After several weeks and one very disruptive snowstorm, The Bartender finally made his way to my city this weekend.

I was, of course, thrilled to host him, but I was also a bit apprehensive: having spent no more than a delirious New Year’s Eve night here together, I had no frame of reference… More »


Dater X: The Queen Mother

It’s February, I’m in…love? More »


Dater X: No Kidding

Time to talk about kids? More »


Dater X: Bad Words

Sometimes, it can be hard to see a line until you’ve crossed it. More »


Dater X: The Ringmaster

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Dater X: Abridged

Happiness! A novel concept. More »


Dater X: A Long December

Slow and steady wins the race. More »


Dater X: A New Long Distance Plan

Long-distance relationships aren’t actually the devil, if the’re with the right person. More »


Dater X: Raising The Bar

Hold on to your hats, kids: The Bartender is the real deal.

Since I left town almost two weeks ago, he has texted occasionally – in other words, often enough to seem sweet, but not so frequently as to be annoying. Our iBanter has been as strong as it was in person, though… More »


Dater X: A Tale Of Two Cities

 

Despite taking a few weeks off, I still can’t quite muster any enthusiasm for the endless swiping of Tinder or the dead-end, one-way conversations of OKStupid, so this week, I resolved to be open to meeting someone in real life. That looked a little daunting, scheduled as I was to spend the… More »


Dater X: I Told You So

Greetings from the road! As I told you last week, I’ve been spending an unusual amount of time traveling for work, and with the holiday, I only ended up spending one night in my home city this week. Not great for my dating life, but then, lately, what is? I did, however, spend a good amount… More »


Dater X: Questionable Decisions And Unmitigated Disasters

Having resolved to return to the fray this week, I did so with a vengeance – to decidedly mixed results. I’ll tell you all about my latest contender for Worst First Date Ever (which, given my track record, is no small feat) in a minute; first, let’s discuss the fact that I slept with a… More »


Dater X: Looking Vs. Waiting

You know what?  I’m exhausted.

After the past few weeks of aggressive Tindering, aggressive OKStupiding, aggressive first-dating with no second dates, I’ve been having trouble mustering any enthusiasm for yet another evening of probing questions with a relative stranger. I’ve progressed from Tinder to text with a few promising specimens, but the schedule… More »


Dater X: A Sunday Kind Of Love & A Bizarro Type Of Date

I want a Sunday kind of love. No, really, and not just because I could listen to that song every single morning.

Allow me to explain. This Sunday, I had a full day that was unapologetically mine. Really, I had a whole weekend that was unapologetically mine, including a visit with El Guapo… More »


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