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We’re Looking For The Next Dater X!

The original Dater X is happily married to the Young One, while Dater X 2.0 just ended her run after making things official with Tim — so who will be Dater X 3.0? Hopefully one of you! We’re officially looking for our next anonymous dating blogger, and while the ability to form thoughts and feeling…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / February 19, 2015

Dater X: Over And Out

Laying in bed watching “Grey’s Anatomy” last week, I started wondering, as I have during nearly every episode recently, why the show has continued for so many seasons. All of the characters we originally knew and loved (big shoutout to the “Grey’s” OG, George O’Malley) have come and gone, the plot has become so farfetched…

By: Dater X / February 18, 2015

Dater X: V-Day & The L-Word

Valentine’s Day is juuuuust around the bend, and in unusual circumstances for me, I can actually celebrate it this year with, GASP,  a man. I’ve always been a fan of Valentine’s Day, even at my most miserably single, because as a person who loves a lot (and always really, really hard), I bask in any…

By: Dater X / February 11, 2015

Dater X: Jumping Head First Into Head-Shrinking

I’m happy to report that I went to my first successful therapy session this week. When I walked into Lauren’s cozy New York City office, I felt immediately at home. Her couch was draped with one of those super-soft, faux fur blankets that’s just begging you to get naked and roll around in (I didn’t,…

By: Dater X / February 4, 2015

Dater X: A Penny For Your Thoughts

It’s been a few years since I’ve seen a therapist, but with the new year comes new self-discovery. Just last week, I bit my ring fingernail down to a three-centimeter stub and decided it would probably be in my best interest (and my fingernails’ best interest) to tackle some of the anxiety I’ve been having…

By: Dater X / January 29, 2015

Dater X: Love Is About Choice, Not Chance

I’m convinced that 2015 is going to be a year of learning for me. We’re only a few weeks into the new year, and I like to think I’ve already discovered quite a few things about myself, big and small, both in life and in love. But it wasn’t until I got together with my…

By: Dater X / January 21, 2015

Dater X: Conducting A Love Experiment

After returning from a much-needed vacation, I got back into my daily groove of hitting the snooze button, rushing out the door at 8am in a haphazard, almost Kramer-like fashion and finally settling in on my commute into work. Usually I skim through Instagram and Twitter during my ride, a thoughtless way to ease into…

By: Dater X / January 13, 2015

Dater X: My Relationship Goal For The New Year Is To Be Secure With Me

In my last post, I shared with you a comprehensive list of guys I’ve dated, slept with, or come in contact with over the last year, and the lessons I learned from each. Some of them were men I’d met only once or twice, and others were guys who I actually had feelings for, but…

By: Dater X / January 2, 2015

Dater X: The Men Of 2014 And What They’ve Taught Me

When I tried to recall all the men who’ve come and gone in my love life over the last year, I wasn’t surprised to find myself staring at a list of names and anxiously tapping my pen, knowing there were a couple I’d forgotten. 2014 was most certainly The Year Of The Dudes. With almost…

By: Dater X / December 24, 2014

Dater X: I’m Going To Have To Say No To “Fuck Yes Or No”

Earlier this week, a friend of mine sent me an article by Mark Manson titled “Fuck Yes or No,” with a simple directive: “Read this.” Since it had the word ‘fuck’ in it, I was obviously sold, considering the F-bomb has been my favorite word since I was old enough to pronounce consonants.

By: Dater X / December 17, 2014

Dater X: Is Success A Turn-Off For Some Men?

Last Friday, I was hanging out with two of my girlfriends and our pals Jack and José (Daniels and Cuervo, that is), when I heard myself uttering the words, “He’s obviously intimidated by your success.” Though a cliche, I actually meant it. I was trying to console my friend Bree, who had just been ghosted…

By: Dater X / December 10, 2014

Dater X: Short Stacks With A Side Of Self-Reflection

“So what’s the deal with that dude you’ve been seeing?” my friend asked, chowing down on a massive pile of chocolate pancakes and scrambled eggs. “You guys still good?”

I hadn’t seen Darius in a couple of years, but it was like no time had passed at all. We’ll usually talk on the…

By: Dater X / December 3, 2014

Dater X: Timing Is Everything

We both knew we needed to have a talk, but neither of us were saying anything. Over the past couple of weeks, ever since Baby Face and I agreed to slow down our relationship, I’ve done a lot of thinking. My feelings for Baby Face hadn’t faltered one bit and our communication had actually become…

By: Dater X / November 26, 2014

Dater X: 10 Red Flags & Warning Signs That I Look For When I’m Dating

Every new relationship comes with its own bag of possibilities and pitfalls. We approach new romance hopefully, keeping our eyes peeled for warning signs and red flags that might tip us off about a character flaw or mismatch, and determine an outcome accordingly. But everybody’s past is different, and depending on what you want and…

By: Dater X / November 19, 2014

Dater X: Pumping The Brakes

It’s no secret I’ve been hurt in the past. Patrick Bateman broke my heart and left me with some serious trust issues and therapy bills to show for it, which is why it’s imperative I end up with someone who’s open and honest about his intentions and feelings. Last week, Baby Face proved to me…

By: Dater X / November 12, 2014

Dater X: Finding The Love My Mother Lost

I’ve been writing Dater X for almost a year now, and can honestly say that putting everything out there about my love life hasn’t been easy. Writing this column is therapeutic in a way, because it allows me to reflect on my relationships, both good and bad, and figure out how to move forward with…

By: Dater X / November 5, 2014

Dater X: On “Transparency Sex” & What’s Different This Time Around

To me, sex is much more than just a biological need. Humanity relies on sex for procreation, but the vast majority of the world also turns to sex for pleasure and release. Some people have sex simply to fulfill their physical needs, others see it as a sacred act that should only be shared betwee…

By: Dater X / October 29, 2014

Dater X: An Ex Returns To Stir The Pot

Update: Baby Face and I are moving full steam ahead, getting together as often as possible and still having amazing sex (with only a brief hiatus during Aunt Flo’s visit), which is why it’s so typical that one of my exes resurfaced— looking all handsome like he popped right out of a J.Crew catalogue— and…

By: Dater X / October 22, 2014

Dater X: “Can I Ask You A Serious Question?”

Life is full of surprises: maybe you get pregnant without trying, win the lottery, find faith or cheat death. Other times, it’s the small, simple unexpectancies (I’m aware that “unexpectancies” isn’t a real word, but it should be) that make all the difference. Over the last few weeks, Baby Face has been my pleasant “unexpectancy.”…

By: Dater X / October 15, 2014

Dater X: The Best Sex Of My Life

Excuse me while I wander around the lovely landscape of cloud nine, because I had the best sex of my life this weekend and I’m still up here enjoying the high.

So, let’s bring it back a week. After my grandma passed away, my communications with Baby Face became more and more frequent.

By: Dater X / October 8, 2014
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