Posts tagged "date rape"

Girl Talk: Why Being Drunk Is A Feminist Issue

Last weekend, I stood on the subway platform, thumbing through a magazine and grumbling about how the next train wouldn’t arrive for another 11 minutes. As I waited, more and more feet descended the stairs. Two pairs caught my attention — one was manicured with bright red polish and strapped into a sky high silver…

YWCA’s “Safety Siren” iPhone App Sends An S.O.S. Message For Help On A Sketchy Date

Ten years ago, when I was 17, I got into a car with a young guy I barely knew who was a customer at my job. We drove deep into the woods, parked his car, and got stoned. Bryan* eventually became my boyfriend, but I often think back to that night when I went off…

Jessica Wakeman / May 20, 2011

How USC Frat Boys Are Silently Judging You (And Plotting To Rape You)

The barfy things that frat boys do know no bounds. Fellow ladyblog Jezebel obtained an email yesterday which was allegedly written by a brother in USC’s Kappa Sigma fraternity instructing his brethren on how to “rate” their conquests. There’s a numbered scale, people. Oh, and rape jokes.

Jessica Wakeman / March 9, 2011

Pop Star Brian McFadden Pens New Ode To Date Rape

You would think that a song called “Just the Way You Are” would be about loving and accepting a person with all their faults and foibles and so on and so forth. But it turns out that the full title of Irish pop singer Brian McFadden’s new song is “Just the Way You Are…

Chloe Angyal / March 1, 2011

Rape Victim Was “Inviting” Sexual Assault With Provocative Dress, Flirting

Watch out, because I am going to throw things. A judge in Manitoba has ruled that a 2006 rape victim who was wearing a tube top, high heels, makeup and no bra was sending “mixed signals” that “sex was in the air” to her rapist, Kenneth Rhodes, who was merely insensitive to the fact the…

Jessica Wakeman / February 25, 2011

Why Are Politicians Attempting To Redefine Rape?

The “No Taxpayer Funding For Abortion Act” redefines “real” rape as only that which is “forcible” and has been co-sponsored by 173 mostly Republican legislators and was called a “top priority” by Speaker of the House John Boehner. Likely knowing that fully criminalizing abortion is impossible, politicians are going after the funding of abortions i…

Jessica Wakeman / January 31, 2011

11 Women Hospitalized For Spiked Drinks At Washington College Party

Scary times: 11 women were hospitalized after being possibly drugged with “roofies,” the date rape drug, at a Central Washington University college party on Saturday night in Washington state.

Police said 50 people attended an off-campus party and many of them began falling over and passing out after just one or two drinks.

Jessica Wakeman / October 14, 2010

Dear Wendy Updates: Rape Survivor Responds

In a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Survivor in Indiana,” who was wondering if/how/when she should tell her boyfriend of three months she’d been date raped i…

Wendy Atterberry / July 6, 2010

Girl Talk: What Happened On Prom Night

I shouldn’t even have gone to prom with Bryan. Just a couple of weeks prior he had made out with another girl and told me the purple marks on his neck came from soccer. Like the lovefool that I was, I believed him — until his best friend tattled on him over Instant Messenger. Oh,…

Jessica Wakeman / May 19, 2010

Kiely Williams Thinks Blacking Out And Having Sex Is “Spectacular”

Kiely Williams — the Disney star who used to be in that beloved-by-tweens girl group, The Cheetah Girls — is a royal dumb-ass. The video for her new single, “Spectacular,” is a tale of a drunken night out which culminates in having sex with a guy whose name she doesn’t remember. (FYI, the video…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 8, 2010

The 5 Most Obnoxious Things People Usually Say While Discussing Date Rape

That’s what happens when …

“That’s what happens” is just another way to say “boys will be boys,” meaning it is another way to level some of the blame on the victim instead of squarely on the perpetrator where it belongs. Saying “that’s what happens” to the victim is dismissive and unust. Sexually

Jessica Wakeman / April 5, 2010

Profile Of A Campus Date Rapist

Statistics have shown that most men who commit rape or date rape are known to the victim: friends, friends-with-benefits, boyfriends, husbands, even family members, etc. But even as someone who is attuned to news stories about sexual assault, I was unaware that researchers have gathered more info in the past decade about who these me…

Jessica Wakeman / March 5, 2010

Make Your Bed Date Rape-Friendly!

I thought the ickiest things being sold on Etsy were those custom-made vagina portrait necklaces, but I was wrong. Now date rapists can get down to business in comfort and style with one of these super-snuggly Rohypnol pillows, from Etsy retailer GalacticBoutique! But, the seller warns, the pillows are not for consumption, as “they do…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / November 24, 2009

Are Date-Rape Drugs An Urban Myth?

“Date-rape drugs are largely an urban myth used as an excuse by women who booze themselves into a stupor, it has been claimed.”That’s the first line from an article in today’s Daily Mail, about a new study out of the University of Kent that suggests many women mistake being drunk for being drugged. Of course,…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / October 27, 2009

When Sex Is A Weapon: Surviving Date Rape

I just found out that my rapist is dead. Not only is he dead, but he ended up killing a lot of women. I always wondered if he would rape again, but I never thought he would graduate to murder.

YourTango.com / September 19, 2009

Six Scary Facts About Frat Boys

OK, we know the following characterization is NOT 100 percent representative of all fraternities in this country.

But still, the stats about sexual assault and tales of misogynistic behavior in the essay, “Bros Before Hos,” published by history and gender studies professor Nicholas L. Syrett on the National Sexuality Resource Center’s web site,…

Jessica Wakeman / June 5, 2009

Don’t See It: Seth Rogen’s Date Rape Movie

I thought losing weight was to blame for Seth Rogen’s fall from funny. But maybe we never had the same sense of humor to begin with. How else to explain his starring role in “Observe and Report,” which opens today, the extended trailer for which shows his character, Ronnie, a mall cop, having sex with…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 10, 2009

Should She Confront Her Date Rapist Via Facebook?

An interesting, if disturbing question has been posed to Cary Tennis at Salon. “Want Him To Know” writes: “Recently while I was on Facebook, the man who date-raped me in college showed up as ‘people you might know.’… I never filed charges, never told people for years afterward, and didn’t even think of it a…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / March 26, 2009

Quickies!: A New Name For Hot Guys With Beards

A field guide to the metrognome. [Jezebel]
Wendy Whitaker was deemed a sex offender 10 years ago for giving her 16-year-old boyfriend a blow job when she was 17. Now, she and her husband are being evicted from their home because it’s near a school. [College Candy]
A list of the seven most annoying people…

Annika Harris / November 24, 2008

Mad Men: Joan Holloway’s Date Rape Probably Not That Rare

Last night’s “Mad Men” had an all-too-rare subplot involving Joan and her betrothed, The Handsome Doctor . In a previous episode, Doc’s abusive, douche-tastic tendencies were barely hinted at — “Didn’t you say you were getting me a drink?!” — but this episode confirmed it for any doubters. In one of the most…

Lauren Gitlin / October 20, 2008