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Four former players for the Vanderbilt University football team were indicted on Friday for the alleged rape of an unconscious female student this past June. The Nashville college dismissed the four young men and barred them from campus while the investigation is underway. … READ MORE »


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Earlier this week we learned about a Kickstarter fundraiser to publish Above The Game: A Guide For Getting Awesome With Women. The book by a Connecticut “pickup artist” named Ken Hoinsky originated as “seduction” advice  posted on Reddit; he used the fundraising site to ask for a few thousand bucks to publish his wisdom to… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

People use Kickstarter to raise money for all sorts of dubious projects. Celebs funding movies. Celebs funding albums. Tips on how to rape women.

Wait, what?

Oh yes. Behold, Above The Game: A Guide To Getting Awesome With Women, by Ken Hoinsky of Connecticut, a new book that conflates advice on… READ MORE »


Celebs

Why, Chris O’Dowd, why? The “Bridesmaids” actor and his wife Dawn O’Porter, a writer/documentarian, are hands-down my favorite celebrity couple. Which is why I was bummed to see O’Dowd tweet what basically reads like a date rape joke. “Drop the hand” is Irish slang for fingering or groping someone, which means he tweeted that he… READ MORE »


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Reebok finally dropped Rick Ross after he rapped about drugging and date raping a woman. Ross didn’t really apologize, prompting feminist activists to pressure Reebok to drop the rapper. In a statement, Reebok said, “While we do not believe that Rick Ross condones sexual assault, we are very disappointed he has yet to display… READ MORE »


Entertainment

Usually movies like Tyler Perry’s “Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor” are right up my alley. You don’t see a Tyler Perry film because you’re under any illusions it will be good. At their best, Perry movies excel at hitting the sweet spot of terrible, the kind of bad movie you can’t wait to pick… READ MORE »


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Radio station 103.7 The Beat in Michigan announced it won’t play Rick Ross or Lil Wayne music in their rotation because of their offensive lyrics. Wayne equated what he wanted to do to a woman’s body with what happened to murdered black man Emmett Till; earlier this week, Ross rapped about slipping “molly” (MDMA)… READ MORE »


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“Put Molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it/I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it,” are some charming new Rick Ross lyrics from a song by Rocko called “You Don’t Even Know It.” ‘Molly’ is a slang term for the drug MDMA. See, what the girl… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Nearly four years ago, while I was on a third date with a man, I was raped. For a long time, I wouldn’t have been able to write that sentence. I would have equivocated. I would have quickly followed it up with minimizers like, “I was drunk.” Or, “I’m OK. It wasn’t violent.”

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Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in… READ MORE »


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Almost a year ago, I wrote an essay about having been date raped in college. The piece got a strong reaction from commenters, many of whom debated whether or not I had given or not given consent for this guy to have sex with me. Much of the back-and-forth centered around the fact that I… READ MORE »


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Before my big move to college last year, I can’t tell you how many times my mother told me how I had watch my drink at all times while out with my friends. My mom had good reason to be badgering me with this crucial piece of advice: according to the U.S. Department of Justice,… READ MORE »


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I don’t think I’ve ever been so moved, and yet so disturbed, by a series of photographs than I am by Grace Brown’s “Project Unbreakable.” Totally enveloped by each and every image and accompanying text, I could not hold back a few tears, or the goose bumps. “Project Unbreakable,” a photography project created in October 2011,… READ MORE »


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Last week, I met a friend for dinner. The restaurant we tried to go to was crowded, so we decided to wander around and look for a different place to eat. We turned down the next block and my pulse raced. It was the block of the restaurant my date rapist worked at.

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Big penises have us running to lock ourselves in the bathroom, don’t they, ladies? That’s what the ad agency behind a (real?) ad for Prudence Extra-Large Condoms wants to think. Although the idea of the ad is clever — a long, wordy rant from a guy trying to be “persuasive” — the actual text… READ MORE »


Celebs

What the eff? Rainn Wilson — aka Dwight Shrute on “The Office” — tweeted a date rape joke. No. Just no. On Feb 12, Rainn tweeted, “If I were ever date raped I would want it to be to ‘Whole Lotta Love’ by Led Zepplin.” Maybe he thought this was meta-commentary? [Twitter.com/RainnWilson]  
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“Trying to ruin someone else’s life is a poor way to address one’s alcohol and self-control problems.”

This is true. But is this really the most intelligent — to say nothing of compassionate — thing for an advice columnist to say to someone whose friend was possibly date raped?

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Love & Sex

Enthusiastic Consent. I’m a fan. For any of you not in the know, Enthusiastic Consent is a way to make sure that yes really means yes and no means no, during sex. It’s an ongoing conversation during sex itself, where partners listen to all manner of cues to make sure that what’s happening is really… READ MORE »