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Kickstarter Project Raising Money For A Book Filled With Rape Tips

People use Kickstarter to raise money for all sorts of dubious projects. Celebs funding movies. Celebs funding albums. Tips on how to rape women.

Wait, what?

Oh yes. Behold, Above The Game: A Guide To Getting Awesome With Women, by Ken Hoinsky of Connecticut, a new book that conflates advice on… More »


Chris O’Dowd Cracks A Date Rapey Joke About Getting His Wife Drunk Enough To Finger Her

Why, Chris O’Dowd, why? The “Bridesmaids” actor and his wife Dawn O’Porter, a writer/documentarian, are hands-down my favorite celebrity couple. Which is why I was bummed to see O’Dowd tweet what basically reads like a date rape joke. “Drop the hand” is Irish slang for fingering or groping someone, which means he tweeted that he… More »


Reebok Drops Rick Ross Over Drugging & Raping Lyrics

Reebok finally dropped Rick Ross after he rapped about drugging and date raping a woman. Ross didn’t really apologize, prompting feminist activists to pressure Reebok to drop the rapper. In a statement, Reebok said, “While we do not believe that Rick Ross condones sexual assault, we are very disappointed he has yet to display… More »


The Soapbox: Tyler Perry Has A Rape Problem In “Temptation”

Usually movies like Tyler Perry’s “Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor” are right up my alley. You don’t see a Tyler Perry film because you’re under any illusions it will be good. At their best, Perry movies excel at hitting the sweet spot of terrible, the kind of bad movie you can’t wait to pick… More »


Michigan Radio Station Won’t Play Rick Ross After Rape Reference In Rap Song

Radio station 103.7 The Beat in Michigan announced it won’t play Rick Ross or Lil Wayne music in their rotation because of their offensive lyrics. Wayne equated what he wanted to do to a woman’s body with what happened to murdered black man Emmett Till; earlier this week, Ross rapped about slipping “molly” (MDMA)… More »


Rick Ross Raps About Drugging Woman So He Can Rape Her

“Put Molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it/I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it,” are some charming new Rick Ross lyrics from a song by Rocko called “You Don’t Even Know It.” ‘Molly’ is a slang term for the drug MDMA. See, what the girl… More »


Girl Talk: I’ve Started Disclosing My Rape On The First Date

Nearly four years ago, while I was on a third date with a man, I was raped. For a long time, I wouldn’t have been able to write that sentence. I would have equivocated. I would have quickly followed it up with minimizers like, “I was drunk.” Or, “I’m OK. It wasn’t violent.”

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The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after.

We found each other online because both of us were interested in… More »


The Soapbox: On Nice Guys As Rapists

Almost a year ago, I wrote an essay about having been date raped in college. The piece got a strong reaction from commenters, many of whom debated whether or not I had given or not given consent for this guy to have sex with me. Much of the back-and-forth centered around the fact that I… More »


Would You Buy A Straw That Can Detect Date Rape Drugs In Your Drink?

Before my big move to college last year, I can’t tell you how many times my mother told me how I had watch my drink at all times while out with my friends. My mom had good reason to be badgering me with this crucial piece of advice: according to the U.S. Department of Justice,… More »


Project Unbreakable Sheds A Different Light On Sexual Assault

I don’t think I’ve ever been so moved, and yet so disturbed, by a series of photographs than I am by Grace Brown’s “Project Unbreakable.” Totally enveloped by each and every image and accompanying text, I could not hold back a few tears, or the goose bumps. “Project Unbreakable,” a photography project created in October 2011,… More »


Girl Talk: Should I Be More Scarred By My Date Rape?

Last week, I met a friend for dinner. The restaurant we tried to go to was crowded, so we decided to wander around and look for a different place to eat. We turned down the next block and my pulse raced. It was the block of the restaurant my date rapist worked at.

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Today’s Lady News: Extra-Large Condom Ad Zeroes In On Ladies Scared Of Big Penises

Big penises have us running to lock ourselves in the bathroom, don’t they, ladies? That’s what the ad agency behind a (real?) ad for Prudence Extra-Large Condoms wants to think. Although the idea of the ad is clever — a long, wordy rant from a guy trying to be “persuasive” — the actual text… More »


Morning Quickies: Rainn Wilson Tweets A Date Rape Joke

What the eff? Rainn Wilson — aka Dwight Shrute on “The Office” — tweeted a date rape joke. No. Just no. On Feb 12, Rainn tweeted, “If I were ever date raped I would want it to be to ‘Whole Lotta Love’ by Led Zepplin.” Maybe he thought this was meta-commentary? [Twitter.com/RainnWilson]  
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Dear Prudence Advice Columnist Suggested Possibly-Date Raped Woman Is “Trying To Ruin Someone Else’s Life”

“Trying to ruin someone else’s life is a poor way to address one’s alcohol and self-control problems.”

This is true. But is this really the most intelligent — to say nothing of compassionate — thing for an advice columnist to say to someone whose friend was possibly date raped?

No, Dear… More »


The Soapbox: Let’s Really Talk About Sex

Enthusiastic Consent. I’m a fan. For any of you not in the know, Enthusiastic Consent is a way to make sure that yes really means yes and no means no, during sex. It’s an ongoing conversation during sex itself, where partners listen to all manner of cues to make sure that what’s happening is really… More »


The Soapbox: On Rape, Alcohol, Victim-Blaming & Feminist In-Fighting

If you write for a living — especially opinion writing, and especially as a feminist — you set yourself up for criticism. You really have no control over how others respond to your work, other than choosing not to write it. By attaching your name to your views, you put yourself in the position to… More »


Girl Talk: I Was Date Raped When I Was Drunk

I was a virgin until a month before my 21st birthday. I was on my second date with a guy named Craig, a 20-something blond surfer type who got my number after I made him a chai tea to go at the coffee shop in his neighborhood where I worked. I was lying on his… More »


Date Rape PSA By PA’s Liquor Control Board Accused Of Victim-Blaming

Pennsylvania’s Liquor Control Board is under fire for a new PSA campaign called Control Tonight, which critics say puts the onus on women for “not getting raped” while drunk and is blaming the victim. The ad in question depicts a woman’s bare legs on what looks like a tiled bathroom floor with her panties pulled… More »


Date Rape Drug Test May Soon Be Available

A test for date rape drugs may soon be available so women can learn in real-time if their drinks have been spiked. All a boozer has to do is dip the test into the drink and the test tells you whether it’s been roofied with either GHB or ketamine. The test works equally well on… More »