Tag Archives: date rape

Girl Talk: Should I Be More Scarred By My Date Rape?

AnonymousApril 18, 2012 //
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
New "Rape" Definition
A new definition of rape has been approved by the FBI. Read More »
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »

Last week, I met a friend for dinner. The restaurant we tried to go to was crowded, so we decided to wander around and look for a different place to eat. We turned down the next block and my pulse raced. It was the block of the restaurant my date rapist worked at.

I considered asking my friend if we could walk down a different block, but that seemed silly. And then another thought crossed my mind. What if she spotted the restaurant and wanted to eat there? What would I say? I tried to mask my anxiety. I was more anxious about telling her why I didn’t want to walk down that block than I was of potentially running into him. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Extra-Large Condom Ad Zeroes In On Ladies Scared Of Big Penises

Jessica WakemanApril 17, 2012 //
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  • Big penises have us running to lock ourselves in the bathroom, don’t they, ladies? That’s what the ad agency behind a (real?) ad for Prudence Extra-Large Condoms wants to think. Although the idea of the ad is clever — a long, wordy rant from a guy trying to be “persuasive” — the actual text is kind of rapey, especially the line about “the screams are part of the fragile lady role.” Sorry, bros, but your condom ad is not sexy. [Buzzfeed]
  • Are black women “thinspo” blogs — aka, “thin inspiration” blogs — on the rise? [Clutch Magazine]
  • Meet Katie Ricks, the first-ever openly lesbian minister to be ordained by the Presbyterian Church. [Pam's House Blend] Keep reading »

Morning Quickies: Rainn Wilson Tweets A Date Rape Joke

Jessica WakemanFebruary 21, 2012 //
Rape Jokes On Facebook
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Joking about raping women is cool with Facebook. Read More »
Vinny's Rape Rap
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Vinny debuted a rap song about "rapin' it." Read More »
Evening Quickies
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Prince Pierre of Monaco suffered a beatdown in a bar brawl. Read More »
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  • What the eff? Rainn Wilson — aka Dwight Shrute on “The Office” — tweeted a date rape joke. No. Just no. On Feb 12, Rainn tweeted, “If I were ever date raped I would want it to be to ‘Whole Lotta Love’ by Led Zepplin.” Maybe he thought this was meta-commentary? [Twitter.com/RainnWilson]  
  • A writer/comedian has offered a $1,000 prize to the first person who beats up Chris Brown. I don’t like Chris Brown either, but come on. That ain’t right. [The Gloss]
  • It’s a banner week for Lindsay Lohan: she’s been cast as Elizabeth Taylor in Lifetime’s made-for-TV movie “Liz and Dick.” [Starpulse]
  • Beyoncé reportedly moved her personal trainer into her home after Blue Ivy’s birth last month and wakes up at 5 a.m. for cardio sessions. This, women of America, is how celebs lose their baby weight so quickly. [Evil Beet Gossip]  Keep reading »

Dear Prudence Advice Columnist Suggested Possibly-Date Raped Woman Is “Trying To Ruin Someone Else’s Life”

Jessica WakemanFebruary 3, 2012 //
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Date Rape PSA
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This date rape PSA has been accused of blaming the victim. Read More »
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women everywhere should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »
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“Trying to ruin someone else’s life is a poor way to address one’s alcohol and self-control problems.”

This is true. But is this really the most intelligent — to say nothing of compassionate — thing for an advice columnist to say to someone whose friend was possibly date raped?

No, Dear Prudence at Slate.com, it was not.

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The Soapbox: Let’s Really Talk About Sex

Julie GillisJanuary 9, 2012 //
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Date Rape PSA
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This date rape PSA has been accused of blaming the victim. Read More »
Sex Resolutions
30 things we vow to do -- in bed! -- in 2012! Read More »

Enthusiastic Consent. I’m a fan. For any of you not in the know, Enthusiastic Consent is a way to make sure that yes really means yes and no means no, during sex. It’s an ongoing conversation during sex itself, where partners listen to all manner of cues to make sure that what’s happening is really wanted. Scarleteen has a good definition here. Enthusiastic Consent is a term designed to get people talking to each other about sex so that when the sex happens, everyone is on the same page, happy and in alignment with what’s supposed to happen. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Rape, Alcohol, Victim-Blaming & Feminist In-Fighting

Jessica WakemanDecember 21, 2011 //
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Victim-Blaming PSA
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But the PA liquor board's ads DO raise an important issue. Read More »
Frisky Feminism!
Everything The Frisky has ever written about feminism! Read More »
Today's Lady News
All of Jessica's daily Today's Lady News columns in one place. Read More »

If you write for a living — especially opinion writing, and especially as a feminist — you set yourself up for criticism. You really have no control over how others respond to your work, other than choosing not to write it. By attaching your name to your views, you put yourself in the position to be agreed with, judged, lauded, mocked, quoted reverently, misinterpreted, called somebody others “must read”, called crazy or ugly or both. I’ve experienced all these things at some point in my career.

It sucks, though, when the worst of those experiences happen from within the feminist community. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Was Date Raped When I Was Drunk

Amelia McDonell-ParryDecember 20, 2011 //
Too Drunk?
If you're a drunk woman who gets raped, will you be taken seriously? Read More »
Victim-Blaming PSA
date rape poster
But the PA liquor board's ads DO raise an important issue. Read More »
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »

I was a virgin until a month before my 21st birthday. I was on my second date with a guy named Craig, a 20-something blond surfer type who got my number after I made him a chai tea to go at the coffee shop in his neighborhood where I worked. I was lying on his bed and the Best of Willie Nelson was playing on his CD player. He had a tapestry hanging on the ceiling and there was a poster for the critically un-acclaimed jam band, The String Cheese Incident, on the wall. I felt him enter me and it hurt like hell, but I was flying high on the notion that I had finally conquered two fears — the fear of having sex and the fear that I never would. Afterwards, I was a little embarrassed by the spotting of blood on his sheets — should I offer to wash them? — but I still couldn’t contain my excitement. Keep reading »

Date Rape PSA By PA’s Liquor Control Board Accused Of Victim-Blaming

Jessica WakemanDecember 8, 2011 //
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »
Too Drunk?
If you're a drunk woman who gets raped, will you be taken seriously? Read More »
Rape Checklist
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A handy checklist of things that cause rape. Read More »
Date Rape Drug Test
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A date rape drug test may soon be available. Read More »
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Pennsylvania’s Liquor Control Board is under fire for a new PSA campaign called Control Tonight, which critics say puts the onus on women for “not getting raped” while drunk and is blaming the victim. The ad in question depicts a woman’s bare legs on what looks like a tiled bathroom floor with her panties pulled down to her ankles and the text reads:

02:19 a.m  SHE DIDN’T WANT TO DO IT, BUT SHE COULDN’T SAY NO.

When your friends drink, they can end up making bad decisions. Like going home with someone they don’t know very well.

Decisions like that leave them vulnerable to dangers like date rape. Help your friends stay in control and stay safe. Keep reading »

Date Rape Drug Test May Soon Be Available

Jessica WakemanAugust 3, 2011 //
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A test for date rape drugs may soon be available so women can learn in real-time if their drinks have been spiked. All a boozer has to do is dip the test into the drink and the test tells you whether it’s been roofied with either GHB or ketamine. The test works equally well on beer, cocktails, mocktails and soft drinks and allegedly has a 100 percent success rate. Date rape drug tests, created by Israeli scientists, should be commercially available in a year and a half. Keep reading »

Bristol Palin Says That While Her Virginity Was “Stolen,” Levi Johnston Didn’t Rape Her

Amelia McDonell-ParryJune 27, 2011 //


Bristol Palin was on “Good Morning America” this morning, promoting her memoir, Not Afraid Of Life, and attempted to clarify that while Levi Johnston “stole” her virginity, it wasn’t date rape. She said:

“[Stolen] is what it felt like. I’m not accusing Levi of date rape or rape at all but I am just looking back with my adult eyes that I have now, and just thinking ‘that was a foolish decision.’ I should have never been underage drinking, and I should have never gotten myself into a situation like that.”

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