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Princeton Faculty Wants Nothing To Do With Princeton Mom’s Statements About Rape

Princeton Mom's Warnings
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Find your husbands now, ladies, because the rest of the world is dumb. Read More »
Princeton Mom Is Lying
You don't have a "shelf life." Read More »
Princeton Mom On "Today"
"Princeton Mom" Appears On "Today," Offers A Wide Variety Of Archaic Bullshit Advice To Women
Susan Patton came armed with a wide variety of archaic BS advice! Read More »
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We, the undersigned faculty, stand behind victims of sexual assault and want them to know that our campus is a place where they have a voice, where they will not be made to feel responsible and where they can find support and justice. If you have been the victim of unwanted sexual contact, under any circumstances, we can help you find the support you need from the campus groups listed below. As academics and members of the Princeton University community, these are the values we embrace. We encourage others to stand with us, for the integrity, health and well-being of all our students.

So reads part of a statement published in Princeton’s student newspaper, The Daily Princetonian, signed by dozens of staff members including writers Anne-Marie Slaughter and Joyce Carol Oates, in response to “Princeton Mom” Susan Patton’s recent remarks about rape. (Read the full statement here.) While Patton has made a name for herself in recent months for advocating that Princeton’s female population focus on finding a man while they’re in college, she’s also used the spotlight to crow about how women are what responsible for what happens to them when they are drunk, all but rolling her eyes at the existence of date rape. This staff statement is in direct response to an interview Patton did with The Daily Princetonian, in which she said the following when asked “Why does the woman hold the responsibility in the case of rape or sexual assault?”: Keep reading »

University College London’s Student Union Bans “Blurred Lines”

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“Blurred Lines” is, like, so three months ago. But that hasn’t stopped the student union at University College London (UCLU) from banning the song from playing at school events.

Like the University of Edinburgh — another college that banned the song along with five other UK schools — the student union at UCLU believes Robin Thicke’s catchy ditty glorifies date rape and thus isn’t appropriate for the school to play. Said Susana Antubam, a campus Woman’s Officer, “[The song is] a monstrosity of phrases rapists have been known to use against victims.” In fact, according to the BCC, a DJ had to apologize recently because he played  ”Blurred Lines” at the school’s Frat Party night event. Keep reading »

Philadelphia Bar Thinks Date Rape Jokes Make For Clever Pick-Up Lines

Philadelphia Bar Thinks Date Rape Jokes Make For Clever Pick-Up Lines

You know what doesn’t turn me on or make me thirsty? Date rape jokes. Smiths Restaurant and Lounge in Philadelphia apparently thought it would be a great idea to draw attention to their establishment with this rapey pickup line. Not only is it gross, but it’s also fucking dumb. Way to drive away 50 percent of your potential customer base, Smiths. And this isn’t the first time Smiths has made violence against women part of their hilaaaaarious efforts to draw in customers. After the jump, check out another sign posted at the bar early last year. If you’re appalled, you can tweet complaints to @SmithsBarPhilly. [Philebrity] Keep reading »

The Best Responses To Slate’s Troll-y Piece On Young Women & Drinking

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I wrote my own response to “College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” the Slate piece by Emily Yoffe that put the onus on young women to stop getting drunk so they are less susceptible to sexual assault. But here are some other kickass responses on the Internet:

  • “How To Write About Rape Prevention Without Sounding Like An Asshole,” Erin Gloria Ryan, Jezebel
  • “No. 1 Surefire Rape Prevention Tip For Ladies: Don’t Exist,” Katie Baker, Newsweek
  • “College Men: Stop Getting Drunk,” Ann Friedman, AnnFriedman.com
  • “Slate Forgot That The One Common Factor In Rapes Are Rapists,” Alexander Abad-Santos, The Atlantic Wire
  • “‘Dear Prudence’ Columnist Publishes Rape Denialism Manifesto Advising Women To ‘Stop Getting Drunk’,” Lori Adelman, Feministing Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Slate Tells Young Women To “Stop Getting Drunk,” Majorly Misses The Mark On Alcohol & Rape

The Soapbox: Slate Tells Young Women To "Stop Getting Drunk," Majorly Misses The Mark On Alcohol & Rape
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »

Slate.com’s modus operandi is to troll the hell out of everyone. Today’s piece by Dear Prudence author Emily Yoffe, “College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” is a classic example.

In her piece, Yoffe recounts a statistic from a 2009 study that 80 percent of campus sexual assaults involve alcohol.  She then gives what she thinks is sound personal safety advice for “young and naive women,” but it’s actually a slippery slope to victim blaming:

Perpetrators are the ones responsible for committing their crimes, and they should be brought to justice. But we are failing to let women know that when they render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them. Young women are getting a distorted message that their right to match men drink for drink is a feminist issue. The real feminist message should be that when you lose the ability to be responsible for yourself, you drastically increase the chances that you will attract the kinds of people who, shall we say, don’t have your best interest at heart. That’s not blaming the victim; that’s trying to prevent more victims.

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Second Maryville Rape Victim, Paige Parkhurst, Comes Forward

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Girl, 14, Raped In Maryville
14-Year-Old Girl Is Raped And Left To Freeze On Her Front Porch, Town Rallies Behind Her Attacker
14-year-old Daisy Coleman from Maryville, MO, is raped. Read More »

Paige Parkhurst, the second victim in the Maryville, Missouri rape case, has come forward to speak with Al-Jazeera about the night she and Daisy Coleman were sexually assaulted.

Paige was 13 at the time and sleeping over at the house of her then-14-year-old friend Daisy. The girls were drinking alcohol together and snuck out of the house to go hang out with some older boys. There, Paige was raped by a 15-year-old boy, whose identity is kept anonymous because his case was handled in juvenile court. Daisy was given more alcohol at the party, which is the last part she remembers, and raped by football player Matthew Barnett, a senior and student athlete. Another boy at the party, Jordan Zech, filmed Daisy’s rape on an iPhone. After the rapes, the boys dropped the two girls, who were both drunk, off at the Coleman house. Paige was able to make it inside the house, but Daisy was left alone on the front lawn overnight in the January freeze. She was found the next morning by her mother after spending several hours outside and immediately taken to a hospital. You can read the full, terrible story as reported this weekend by the Kansas City Star. Keep reading »

Daisy Coleman, Maryville Rape Survivor, And Mother Melinda Coleman Speak To CNN

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So much respect is going out right now from me to Daisy Coleman, the 14-year-old girl in Maryville, Missouri teen who has come forward about her mistreatment by the justice system after she was raped by a student athlete — who also happened to be the grandson of a local politician. Last night Daisy and her mother, Melinda Coleman, spoke to CNN’s Erin Burnett about her rape by football player Matthew Barnett, who had all charges  dismissed against him. Most recently he has been attending the University of Central Missouri. Meanwhile, the Coleman family has been run out of town — the mom, Melinda Coleman, was fired from her job; their house was set on fire — for daring to demand justice for Daisy.

Amelia blogged about this horrible story yesterday. You can read the full story of Daisy Coleman’s assault at the Kansas City Star, which broke the story this weekend. Here’s the short-ish version. The Coleman family had moved several years earlier to Maryville, a small, tight-knit farming down. In January 2012,  Daisy, 14, and her anonymous friend,  13, were having a sleepover and drinking in her bedroom. Around 1am, they snuck out of the house to go hang out with some senior and junior boys from the football and wrestling teams, who gave the girls a lot more alcohol. After this point, as Daisy tells CNN, she remembers nothing that happened the rest of the night.  Keep reading »

14-Year-Old Girl Is Raped And Left To Freeze On Her Front Porch, Town Of Maryville, Missouri Rallies Behind Her Attacker

14-Year-Old Girl Is Raped And Left To Freeze On Her Front Porch, Town Rallies Behind Her Attacker

In January 2012, Daisy Coleman, then 14 years old, attended a junior high/high school party in Maryville, MO, the town she and her family had recently moved to following her dad’s untimely death. At that party, Daisy became intoxicated to the point of being unable to stand; she was then allegedly raped by 17-year-old senior and star football player Matthew Barnett. The rape was filmed with an iPhone camera — the video was allegedly passed around at school — and then deposited the unconscious girl on her porch in the middle night in 22 degree weather. Daisy was discovered by her mother, Melinda Coleman, the next morning, her hair frozen, clad only in sweatpants and a T-shirt. (Though news outlets usually keep rape victims’ identities anonymous, Melinda Coleman has released Daisy’s name to the media on her own.) Keep reading »

Frat Dude Sincerely Apologizes For His “Guide To Luring Your Rape Bait” Email

Frat Dude Sincerely Apologizes For His "Guide To Luring Your Rape Bait" Email

Earlier this week, I told you about Matthew Peterson, the Phi Kappa Tau brother at Georgia Tech who sent his entire fraternity a manifesto of sorts — entitled “Luring Your Rape Bait” — on “how to mack and succeed at parties.” It was gross and offensive and stupid, but Peterson has apparently come to his senses, and issued a proper apology. Like, a real apology, not the bullshit excuses we usually get from douchebags who make rape jokes. Peterson’s apology is posted on the Georgia Tech student newspaper’s website. Here it is in full: Keep reading »

Dude Bro Sends Entire Frat A Guide To “Luring Your Rape Bait”

Dude Bro Sends Entire Frat A Guide To "Luring Your Rape Bait"

Strap in, ladies, this one’s going to be a terribly douche-y ride. According to Total Frat Move, Matthew Peterson, a Phi Kappa Tau brother at Georgia Tech, sent his entire fraternity a manifesto of sorts — entitled “Luring Your Rape Bait” — on “how to mack and succeed at parties.” I would suggest him as the ideal boyfriend for our dear darling Rebecca Martinson — never forget — given how invested both of them are in seeing their fellow Greeks get laid, but Rebecca is a more talented writer and certainly deserves better, given the amount of rape jokes throughout the whole horrible thing. Take it away, Matthew!

“Alright chods, some of you could use some help on how to mack and succeed at parties. Mostly pledges do, but some bros could use a review. For anytime throughout the party… If you are standing by yourself at any point, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! If you are talking to a brother of your pledge brothers when there are girls just standing around, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! Keep reading »

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