While reading Katie J.M. Baker’s recent Jezebel piece, “A Tale of Mutual Cyberstalking,” I found myself on board with everything she was saying. I was practically fist pumping by the end of her story. A testament to the quality of her writing. But at the same time, I don’t agree with her. It’s not normal to obsessively cyberstalk — either your ex or your ex’s new partner –which is what her piece is about. She writes:
“I was immediately hooked. At first, my stalking was synonymous with shit-talking her to my friends; I was the one who broke up with my ex, but I wasn’t over our relationship, and I was hurt that he was falling in love with someone else so quickly. As time passed and I moved on myself, I stopped criticizing her but continued to keep tabs on her life. My obsession with Googling her and monitoring her various social media feeds felt almost compulsive; I didn’t know why I was doing it anymore, or what I was getting out of the experience exactly, only that I didn’t want to stop.” Keep reading »
