Since I’ve just marked my 30th year on this planet, I’ve lately found myself reflecting on my life. As it stands now, I’m in love with a man who freely admits he’s pretty nuts about me too, I’m lucky enough to be translating my passions into (albeit meager) paychecks, I volunteer, I vote. All good stuff, the hallmarks of a person who has her life together.
The thing is, I never thought I’d live this long. Having a perfect storm of prerequisite issues that aided in the devaluing my own life, it wasn’t too long ago that I was swinging madly between maladaptive behaviors. I didn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I thought a lot about killing myself. I was hospitalized several times during my college years. Despite all the hospitalizations, the awkward post-hospitalization meetings with the Dean of Students, and the weekly meetings with my therapist, I was unable to discuss the problem I kept well-hidden.
I was a cutter. Keep reading »
It figures that while the whole world would be talking about Miley Cyrus’ engagement to Liam Hemsworth, her brother Trace Cyrus would call her out for her dirty, alleged cutting habits.
What a helpful, brotherly thing to do! Last Wednesday Trace tweeted, “Sending my love for girls who got some cuts at their wrists. I hope u find what you’re looking for.” In case you’re wondering, that’s the day Miley revealed her engagement. Thanks for the well wishes brother dear! Shitty timing or shitty brother?
Miley thinks shitty brother. A source told HollywoodLife.com that Miley is“frustrated” by her brother’s message since she has been singled out for disturbing scars on her wrist in the past. Naturally, Miley denied the allegations but she’s pissed that Trace put “unneeded focus” on the old news. Of course she is! Screw mental health, she’s got a wedding to plan y’all! Read more …
“I think scars are like battle wounds—beautiful, in a way. They show what you’ve been through and how strong you are for coming out of it. My tattoos say ‘Stay strong.’ ‘Stay’ on one [wrist] and ‘strong’ on the other. Now I’m able to look at them and be thankful for being alive. I think that I’ve been blessed over the past year to be able to start over.”
– Demi Lovato talks to Glamour about the scars she has as a result of cutting and how they serve as a beautiful reminder to take care of herself. Lovato famously checked into a treatment center to get help for her struggles with bulimia, anorexia and self-injury, and then publicly came forward as bi-polar. Read more of her interview at the link. [Glamour]
‘s music videos are nothing but provocative — and that’s why I love her. “F**king Perfect” is an angst-ballad about loving and respecting oneself, but the NSFW video, which appeared online yesterday, is all about a young women’s self-hatred. She snorts drugs, shoplifts, and in one gruesome scene, cuts the word “PERFECT” in her arm with a razor blade.
A friend DMed me this morning about Pink’s video, calling it “exploitation disguised as empowerment,” “highly uninformed,” and done for “shock value.” I agree that, standing alone, a woman cutting the word “PERFECT” into her arm with a razor blade is over-the-top and gratuitous. But in this particular video, with this particular song, it works. And I’m willing to forgive it being a little too gratuitous because I think she’s ultimately depicting a very real problem that young women experience. Keep reading »
“Demi has decided to take personal responsibility for her actions and seek help. She is doing just that. Demi and her family ask that the media respect her privacy during this difficult time.”
– A statement from the representative for Demi Lovato, who entered rehab yesterday after mysteriously and suddenly quitting Twitter this weekend. According to sources, the singer/actress reportedly has battled an eating disorder and has had issues with cutting. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »
“I used to cut myself or jump out of airplanes, trying to find something new to push up against because sometimes everything else felt too easy. I was searching for something deeper, something more. I tried everything. I always felt caged, closed in, like I was punching at things that weren’t there. I always had too much energy for the room I was in. … I went through a period when I felt my film characters were having more fun than I was. It might partly explain why I ended up tattooed or doing certain extreme things in my life. [points to a tattoo on her arm] The wild heart caged. I unlocked my cage years ago. I want my children to have that freedom. I want that for other people, too.”
— Angelina Jolie proves even the world’s (disputably) most beautiful woman has identity crises like the rest of us. I mean, minus the jumping out of airplanes. [Parade] Keep reading »