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“RuPaul’s Drag Race” Star Willam Belli Talks Cunnilingus

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If you watched Willam Belli on “RuPaul’s Drag Race” this season, you noticed two things: one, he is an incredibly talented and beautiful performer; and two, he was smart enough to be the bitchiest, most ego-centric drag queen in the room. After all, reality TV viewers may love Miss Congeniality (Latrice Royale, in this case), but the cameras love drama.

I caught up with Willam just before the finale event for a series of more serious videos about politics and bullying, but you can’t keep the performer behind “Love You Like A Big Schlong” or “Chow Down (At Chick-fil-A)” from cracking wise. What you can, however, get is the lyricist behind “The Vagina Song to respond to charges of misogyny and transphobia … once you explain what “misogyny” means. [YouTube] Keep reading »

The Soapbox: You Like To Go Down, So What?

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According to an article in this month’s issue of Esquire, the blow job is all but becoming extinct in favor of cunnilingus. In an informal poll, conducted by the writer Geoff Dyer, eight out of 10 of his “more mature male friends” preferred “eating p**sy to having their dicks sucked.” And guess what? The two who preferred BJs were gay! He uses this data to assert that the excitement that surrounded fellatio beginning in the ’70s has all but faded.

Clearly, that must be the case, if his friends say so. But it’s not just his friends. He says blow jobs are out in pop culture as well. I mean, Michael Fassbender’s character in “Shame” tells a man in a bar that he wants to go down on his wife. It’s of no consequence that he’s a sex addict, I suppose. And in a scene from Jonathan Franzen’s Freedom, Joey Berglund says he considers getting a blow job as “little more than a glorified jerk off.” Should we talk about how he had been sleeping with his neighbor since he was 13 or something? Perhaps I should remind Dyer of the entire page in Jeffrey Eugenides’ The Marriage Plot dedicated to the sucking of Mitchell Grammaticus’ c**k. That came out just this year.

Dyer says of his perceived decline of the blow job:

“[Cunnilingus] was regarded in much the same way as paying for a round at the bar: You had to do it, but if you could avoid it, you did. It would be a mistake, though, to see this change as meaning that men have gone from being selfish recipients to selfless givers of pleasure; it’s just that what constitutes pleasure has shifted.”

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A Handy Dandy Guide To Troubleshooting Bad Sex

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Let’s be honest: sex is not always the softly focused oxytocin bath that Cosmopolitan magazine spreads make it out to be. Sometimes sex is a romp on dirty sheets with a grabby guy who’s got terrible body odor and zero condoms.

But hey, bad sex is still sex. And if you are horny as we are at The Frisky, you’ll take the bull by the horns anyway because you know there’s a way to troubleshoot most any sexual snaffoo. I am not a sex therapist, but I am a woman who’s has wide variety of sex with a decent number of dudes and have encountered all these problems. (For more in-depth sexual troubleshooting, I recommend the kickass sex guide, Guide To Getting It On.)  

After the jump, a thorough, honest (and heteronormative, cause I’m a straight lady who sleeps with dudes) guide to troubleshooting bad sex.

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Whew! Pat Robertson Says Oral Sex Is OK

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Rest assured, everyone: oral sex is not bad for you. TV evangelist Pat Robertson decrees it to be so! He was speaking strictly to a married man and woman, so the jury is still out on the morality of us strumpets single girls going down. Nevertheless, we are somewhat comforted by his logic that “It’s what’s in your mind … if to you it’s sin, it’s sin.” (Now if he could just apply that same logic to the gays.) We are eagerly waiting for Pat Robertson’s thoughts on anal. [YouTube]

Jamie Bell & 8 Other Celebs Talk Oral Sex

Men, meet your new guru, and ladies, meet your new hero — Jamie Bell. The actor, who you probably remember best as the lead in “Billy Elliot” and as Evan Rachel Wood’s boyfriend, had a lot to say about cunnilingus when being interviewed by British GQ. Like, couldn’t stop talking about the importance of it. For example, when the magazine asked him for his thoughts on how to impress a woman, he said:

“Buy her flowers? Take her home on the weekend to meet your mother? No. Let’s cut to the primal — be good in the sack. [Slaps thighs] Have an understanding of what’s going on down there and have fun, awesome sex.”

Then later on, when asked about a skill every guy should possess, he didn’t suggest being able to grill a good steak or change a tire. Nope, he was down to talk about going down — again.

“Skill? You know what I’m going to say. A man should have a good understanding of a vagina. He should be good at oral sex. On a woman. … Making fires and pleasing a woman. In the vaginal area.”

As a woman, I would like to agree. Great advice, Jamie. What are you doing later? [GQ UK]

Meanwhile, here are eight other celebs talking about oral sex.

How To Get Him To Go Down: Beer-Flavored Vagi-Wipes

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Remember that K-Y Intense commercial about a lesbian couple? I love this NSFW spoof about Lip Labs, a beer- or jalapeno-scented vaginal wipe product for your ladybits to get rid of “that vagina smell.” Um, please don’t give Summer’s Eve any ideas. [Hello Giggles]

Why Is “Going Down” Often A One-Way Street?

To write this article on cunnilingus, I created a mini-survey to get some perspectives from readers, Twitter followers, Facebook friends and a bunch of total strangers. I threw “box job”—as Dan Savage once described the act—in the title simply because, sad as it seems, I assumed that that the technical term (which is derived from the Latin words for vulva and tongue) wasn’t widely known. Keep reading »

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Justin Timberlake Directs 3 Horny Tequila Ads


We kind of started approving of everything Justin Timberlake does after he shed his N’Sync-era brillo pad curls and excessive denim. The upcoming ads he directed for his 901 Tequila, however, throws his infallibility back into question. Justin seems to have followed the “when in doubt, make it about sex” logic that so many endeavors fall prey to. But this time, it’s not just sex; it’s oral sex. Don’t get us wrong, every lady likes it when a nice gentleman goes to lady town, but we’re not so sure that we see the Tequila connection. Or, for that matter, that we want to have to give the very explicit instructions that the girl in Justin’s commercial seems to find necessary. Check out the two other ads after the jump! [Pursuitist] Keep reading »

Lady Fish Love The Mustache

Apparently, we aren’t the only species that has a bizarre fascination with the furry friend of the upper lip. It seems that female Mexican molly fish prefer a mate with a mustache. Only some male members of the swimmers sport the whiskers, and a recent study done by German biologist Ingo Schlupp shows that these guys are getting lucky. Schlupp paired up lady mollies with males sporting various mustache lengths, including males sans facial hair, to see how long the ladies stayed interested in their suitor. The study also placed tanks full of females in front of a television showcasing male fish with different amounts of fuzz. Both experiments showed that female mollies were looking for a man with a mustache. But why? Keep reading »

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