I recently came to the conclusion that, when it comes to my love life, I don’t quite yet know what I want. Actually, it’s more that I want a lot of different things, depending on the day, the hour, the minute, and those things are often conflicting. On one hand, I love being single and being able to have sex with whoever I want to (so long as they also want to have sex with me, obviously). The last few years of being single have allowed me to explore different sides to my sexuality through various partners, and I’m much more of a chameleon in bed than I ever thought. On the other hand, I also desire commitment, monogamy and the fun and growth that comes with developing true intimacy with a long-term partner. I have not found that partner yet, so while I remain wide open to meeting him (I identify as straight, in case that wasn’t clear), I’m content to have more casual fun in the meantime. But while I patiently wait for love and get laid when I feel like it, there’s one thing that’s missing, something that I long for far more than a boyfriend to come home to or a hard dick to fuck:
CUDDLING. Keep reading »
Twenty complete strangers paying to cuddle with each other either sounds like your idea of a utopian economy or the weirdest, worst thing a person can spend their hard-earned cash on. I’m a huge proponent of snuggling as much as humanly possible, but I don’t know how I’d feel about paying $50 for a total stranger to spoon me, or return the favor by stroking them like a cat.
Anna Nathan Shekory Tom Fortes Mayer, the couple who created London’s Cuddle Workshops, think you should just get over it and enjoy the oxytocin boost that comes with “therapeutic non-sexual touching.” Keep reading »
Cuddling is the most wonderful, life-affirming, endorphin-inducing activities humans can engage in. But let’s be clear here: it requires two consenting cuddlers. A refusal on one cuddler’s part to engage in spooning behavior does not, I repeat, DOES NOT justify coercion or aggression. Shavonna Rumph of Manatee, Florida learned this the hard way (Florida, I’ve missed you!) when her boyfriend rebuffed her cuddling advances and things turned ugly. Keep reading »
After only three weeks in existence, the Snuggle House in Madison, Wisconsin, where cuddling professionals hugged, spooned and cuddled their clients for $60 an hour, has shut down. The cuddling business was accused of being a front for prostitution, a lawyer for the Snuggle House owner confirmed to the AP today. A comment on the business’ Facebook page confirmed, “The pushback and harassment is not worth it, honestly.”
Paying for sex, nudity, drugs and alcohol were forbidden during snuggling sessions. Customers signed a two-page waiver before a session began and security cameras and panic buttons were located in each bedroom. However, attorneys for the city of Madison were were skeptical of “therapeutic cuddling” and had delayed its opening several times.
According to The Times-Picayune, prior to the closing, the city had planned to draft an ordinance to regulate snuggling even further. City attorneys claimed they want to protect the cuddling professionals — three women and one man — from sexual assault. While safety is surely a worthy cause (and one that the cameras, panic buttons and waivers suggest the Snuggle House were aware of), the city’s explanation for their concern left something to be desired. According to one city attorney, cuddling leads to sex, always, ergo the employees must be getting sexually assaulted if they are not actually prostitutes. Keep reading »
I am a person who takes my dreams very seriously and last night, I had a super vivid, extremely urgent dream in which I wrote a list of the 14 reasons (exactly 14) why everyone in the world should be cuddling right now. In my dream, this was the most brilliant, revolutionary concept that I’d ever cooked up and writing it was of the utmost importance — LIFE OR DEATH! So much so, that I got out of bed, flung my boyfriend away who was, in fact, cuddling me at the time, and stumbled to my iPhone to write down this idea so that I would remember it today. I stayed up for at least 30 mins, toying with the language. Was it “Why You Should Be Cuddling Right Now” or “Why You Should Be Cuddling Naked Right Now”? No, not naked. The idea was about cuddling in a non-sexual way. Should it be a slideshow? Or do I use GIFs? No GIFs, no slideshow, just a simple list in praise of SNUGS (snuggling). And now here I am, making this dream list a reality. After the jump, the 14 reasons why you should be cuddling RIGHT NOW, naked or not. I hope this changes the world the way I dreamed it would. Keep reading »
Horndogs looking for a quick cuddle-and-run, listen up. A new study from really smart scientists has found that the chances of a cuddle session leading to sex are only one in six.
Researchers at the University of Michigan looked at the methods, motivations and eventual outcomes of the average couple’s cuddling sessions, and the results show it usually only leads to conversation, not copulation.
Over 500 men and women in relationships
were asked about the nature of their cuddling, defined as “intimate, physical and loving contact that does not involve sexual behavior and that involves some degree of whole body touching, not just hand to hand or lips to lips.” Read more…