We’ve written about “cougars” a lot here at The Frisky, but have we actually met many in real life? Have we met any in real life? No and no. Older women who date younger men exist, of course: Demi Moore, Madonna and Susan Sarandon, as well as all the women who make their living selling cougar-themed dating books. But according to one sociologist, the widespread existence of cougars is a “media construct” that has been blown out of proportion to become a “myth.” Keep reading »
Google has gone cougar-hunting. The search engine has classified “cougar” dating sites like CougarLife.com as “non-family safe” and banned them from its content pages. Google ads appear on over 6,700 websites, including biggies like YouTube and MySpace.
Sad news for Samantha Jones indeed — but unfortunately Google has a glaring double standard if you compare CougarLife.com to other dating sites. For example, most ads for SeekingArrangements.com, which matches young “sugar babes” with older, successful sugar daddies, are still considered “family-safe” by Google. However, dates found on CougarLife.com don’t come with financial perks, but the goal of SeekingArrangements.com is to pair a “generous benefactor” with “college students” and “aspiring actresses.” It’s not prostitution … but it’s not not prostitution, if you get what I’m saying. Keep reading »
According to an article in Science Daily, Demi Moore probably won’t be with us much longer. Seriously, though, studies show that women who get hitched to younger dudes have a lower life expectancy than chicks who score a spouse their own age. On the flip side, men with younger wives tend to live longer. Life just isn’t fair. Keep reading »
Off-fun-sive? Hilari-sexist? Don’t mind me: I’m just trying to think up a word to describe ads that I know demean women, but I actually think are pretty funny. Take this commercial for Air New Zealand, a faux-nature documentary about “cougars” and their prey. I’d be happy if I never again heard the word “cougar,” “puma” or “cheetah” to describe a sexually active woman in her 40s—but at least these folks are tongue-in-cheek about it. What do you think? [YouTube] Keep reading »
As a free-spirited 26-year-old, I support a wide range of lifestyles. But I’m just not into sharing the same dating pool with my mom—a fit, fun-loving, blonde bombshell of a 50-year-old. After all, the term “cougar” is only funny if your mother isn’t one.
A glamour girl in suburban Baltimore, my mom was bound for the ranks of “heartbreakers of a certain age” long before her marriage to my father—a great dad but an admittedly crappy husband—crumbled a few years ago. The object of many younger boys’ affections, she had the lifeguards at our pool drooling and my lacrosse player friends deeming her a “M.I.L.F.” By the time I got to college, I wasn’t fazed by the frat boys who swarmed around her during parents’ weekend. They would take turns spinning me and Mom around on the beer-soaked dance floor, until I told her it was time to go home. Keep reading »
Amy Poehler: Can I ask you how you feel about this term “cougar”? I hate that f***ing word.
Rachel Dratch: Me, too! Since the dawn of moving-making, there have been so many scenarios where an older guy is with a younger woman and we don’t bat an eye. But if it’s reversed and a 40-year-old woman is with a 35-year-old guy, she’s called a “cougar.”
Poehler: I know … there are these derogatory boxes that people have invented that they have to put themselves in. And why isn’t there a word for the inappropriate older guy with the younger girl? What is the exact word for that?
Dratch: I don’t know … Gray Balls?
Poehler: Old Gray Balls! Oh he’s a real Gray Balls! (laugh) Maybe we should make it Clark Gray-Balls. There is just something about a 20-year-old calling someone a cougar that makes me want to punch them in the mouth.
—”Saturday Night Live” alums Amy Poehler and Rachel Dratch aren’t fond of the word “cougar,” apparently [Bust] Keep reading »