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“Game Of Thrones” Turned A Consensual Sex Scene Into A Rape Scene And Ruined Everything

"Game Of Thrones" Turned A Consensual Sex Scene Into A Rape Scene And Ruined Everything
"Game Of Thrones" FAIL

Fair warning: SPOILERS AHEAD.

Goddammit, I am so pissed off. On last night’s episode of “Game of Thrones,” a climactic and much-anticipated consensual sex scene between incestuous brother-sister duo Jaime and Cersei Lannister was twisted into a violent rape scene for seemingly no reason at all, ruining the sexual tension some of us pervs enjoyed between the two and potentially screwing up the narrative for future episodes. And, to add insult to injury, both the episode’s director and the actor who plays Jaime are defending the scene as if it wasn’t a gross departure from George R. R. Martin’s original text, and are arguing that the rape was actually consensual. For the love of the Lord of Light, WHY? Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Speak Author Laurie Halse Anderson On RAINN, Rape Culture & Consent

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Every year, April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, when many of us participate in Take Back The Night speak-outs and marches to raise awareness about sexual violence in our communities. This year, the beloved young adult novelist Laurie Halse Anderson has thrown her support behind a fundraiser for the Rape Abuse And Incest National Network (RAINN), one of the main resources in our country for survivors of sexual violence.

Anderson is the author of Speak, a YA novel about 16-year-old Melinda Sordino, who is raped by a classmate at a house party the summer before 9th grade. Melinda calls 911, and the police break up the party, but she runs before she can tell anyone about the assault. When school begins, Melinda is shunned by her former friends for getting kids in trouble. Eventually, she stops talking almost entirely, grows isolated from her parents and tanks her schoolwork.

But Melinda is also mentored by a fellow outcast, an art teacher. She is able to name what happened to her and find her voice again. Published in 1999 and sadly still relevant in post-Steubenville, Speak explores the post-traumatic stress disorder that survivors suffer after an assault, but also the social ostracization of victims of sexual violence instead of perpetrators.

Throughout April, donations for RAINN will be matched dollar-for-dollar by Speak‘s publisher, Macmillan, in honor of the book’s 15th birthday. I called Laurie Halse Anderson this week and we spoke about the success of her best-selling book, teaching consent to teens, and recent controversial statements made by the president of RAINN about how “rape culture” doesn’t exist. Our conversation begins, after the jump!

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This Study Hightlights What We Already Knew: Assault Is Never The Victim’s Fault

"Nice Guys" Who Rape
Intent isn't everything, but it does matter. Read More »
Disclosing My Rape
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Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »

A new study has found that in situations of sexual aggression at bars, most attackers are very clear on the fact that their victims are not consenting. The results made obvious what so many already know: despite claims of misperception, in most cases it is very clear that the attacker’s advances are unwanted by victims. Many attackers purposely seek out women who seem vulnerable or unable to consent, and “she acted like she wanted it” is never, ever an excuse. Keep reading »

California Wants Law To Require “Affirmative Consent”

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  • California wants to rewrite the state law regarding sexual violence on college campuses to require both partners to give “affirmative consent” before engaging in sexual activity. The legislation hopes to protect victims who were sexually assaulted while drunk or on drugs and couldn’t/didn’t give consent. The bill’s sponsors said they hope that this would be a paradigm shift for the way that colleges handle sexual assaults on campus, where alcohol is often involved. [Sacramento Bee Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Unwanted Touching Is Unacceptable At Any Age (Yes, Even Age 6)

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This piece is crossposted with permission from RebeccaHains.Wordpress.com.

In this week’s news, a six-year-old boy in Colorado was suspended from school. The reason? He had repeatedly kissed one of his classmates, despite her telling him to stop.

The girl’s mother, Jade Masters-Ownbey, noted that the boy’s behavior had been an ongoing problem. The boy had pursued her daughter “not once, but over and over … not with her permission but sneaking up on her…not without warning and consequences prior to suspension,” according to the Canon City Daily Record.

“I’ve had to coach her about what to do when you don’t want someone touching you, but they won’t stop,” Masters-Ownbey told the Record.

Meanwhile, the boy’s mother, Jennifer Saunders, characterized the boy’s actions as stemming from an “innocent crush.” Keep reading »

Playboy‘s Pro-Consent Party Commandments Piece Turns Out To Be A Hoax

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Clicking through a Playboy article all about asking consent before sex, all I could think was, Who are you and what have you done with Playboy???

Hugh Hefner and feminists are uneasy bedfellows — pun definitely intended — even in the most liberal fields of Sex Positive-landia. But there was not much to gripe about over Playboy‘s 2013 Top Ten Party School Commandments, which extolled asking for  consent as the #1 way to have a good time at the party.  I had to wonder if they were hacked by techno-feminist pranksters.

Basically … yes. Keep reading »

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