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This Study Hightlights What We Already Knew: Assault Is Never The Victim’s Fault

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A new study has found that in situations of sexual aggression at bars, most attackers are very clear on the fact that their victims are not consenting. The results made obvious what so many already know: despite claims of misperception, in most cases it is very clear that the attacker’s advances are unwanted by victims. Many attackers purposely seek out women who seem vulnerable or unable to consent, and “she acted like she wanted it” is never, ever an excuse. Keep reading »

California Wants Law To Require “Affirmative Consent”

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  • California wants to rewrite the state law regarding sexual violence on college campuses to require both partners to give “affirmative consent” before engaging in sexual activity. The legislation hopes to protect victims who were sexually assaulted while drunk or on drugs and couldn’t/didn’t give consent. The bill’s sponsors said they hope that this would be a paradigm shift for the way that colleges handle sexual assaults on campus, where alcohol is often involved. [Sacramento Bee Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Unwanted Touching Is Unacceptable At Any Age (Yes, Even Age 6)

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This piece is crossposted with permission from RebeccaHains.Wordpress.com.

In this week’s news, a six-year-old boy in Colorado was suspended from school. The reason? He had repeatedly kissed one of his classmates, despite her telling him to stop.

The girl’s mother, Jade Masters-Ownbey, noted that the boy’s behavior had been an ongoing problem. The boy had pursued her daughter “not once, but over and over … not with her permission but sneaking up on her…not without warning and consequences prior to suspension,” according to the Canon City Daily Record.

“I’ve had to coach her about what to do when you don’t want someone touching you, but they won’t stop,” Masters-Ownbey told the Record.

Meanwhile, the boy’s mother, Jennifer Saunders, characterized the boy’s actions as stemming from an “innocent crush.” Keep reading »

Playboy‘s Pro-Consent Party Commandments Piece Turns Out To Be A Hoax

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Clicking through a Playboy article all about asking consent before sex, all I could think was, Who are you and what have you done with Playboy???

Hugh Hefner and feminists are uneasy bedfellows — pun definitely intended — even in the most liberal fields of Sex Positive-landia. But there was not much to gripe about over Playboy‘s 2013 Top Ten Party School Commandments, which extolled asking for  consent as the #1 way to have a good time at the party.  I had to wonder if they were hacked by techno-feminist pranksters.

Basically … yes. Keep reading »

University Of Edinburgh Bans “Blurred Lines” From Campus

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It was bound to happen sooner or later: a college banned “Blurred Lines” from campus for being too rapey-sounding.

The student union of  University of Edinburgh banned the Robin Thicke song as part of a policy called “End Rape Culture & Lad Banter On Campus,” which is seeking to make the campus safer sexually. Students apparently became aware of the song after it was played by a school DJ last weekend, who was instructed by a campus employee to “fade” the song. Keep reading »

10 Things Everyone Should Learn In Sex Ed

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10 Things Everyone Should Learn In Sex Ed

Hold onto your pearls, pearl-clutchers. Oklahoma’s Tulsa School District has just announced plans to implement an unprecedented sex education policy. Cities like Boston,  NYC, San Francisco and Los Angeles are already teaching comprehensive, medically accurate, LGBTQ-inclusive sex education to public school students. One by one, American cities are announcing a move away from abstinence-only curriculum or worse, nothing at all.

Sex education across the world varies so widely that chances are, you’re having sex with someone who received different sex education from you. Wouldn’t it be great if we could all enter (…heh) sexual and romantic relationships confident in each other’s baseline knowledge?

In an ideal world, this is what we’d all learn before we go forth and spread our love. Or seed. Or legs (I’M SORRY). Keep reading »

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