Posts tagged "consent"

PurrVerse: Getting Lucky With San Francisco’s Hook-Up Truck

I live in San Francisco, land of art, sexual experimentation, and entrepreneurial spirit. Since I’ve moved here I’ve explored the boundaries between public and private sex in multiple ways - in the back of a pickup truck on Twin Peaks, in the woods by the Sutro Baths, with a bike-powered sex machine in the middle…

By: Kitty Stryker / May 22, 2014

George R. R. Martin Distances Himself From That “Game Of Thrones” Rape Scene (But I’m Not Done Ranting)

If you still haven't seen Sunday's episode of "Game of Thrones," stop right here, as there are spoilers ahead and besides, you need to get on that shit.  George R. R. Martin, the author of the "Game of Thrones" series, A Song of Ice and Fire, has weighed in on Sunday's controversial episode, in which Jaime Lannister…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 22, 2014

“Game Of Thrones” Turned A Consensual Sex Scene Into A Rape Scene And Ruined Everything

Fair warning: SPOILERS AHEAD. Goddammit, I am so pissed off. On last night's episode of "Game of Thrones," a climactic and much-anticipated consensual sex scene between incestuous brother-sister duo Jaime and Cersei Lannister was twisted into a violent rape scene for seemingly no reason at all, ruining the sexual tension some of us pervs enjoyed betwee…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 21, 2014

Frisky Q&A: Speak Author Laurie Halse Anderson On RAINN, Rape Culture & Consent

Every year, April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, when many of us participate in Take Back The Night speak-outs and marches to raise awareness about sexual violence in our communities. This year, the beloved young adult novelist Laurie Halse Anderson has thrown her support behind a fundraiser for the Rape Abuse And Incest National Network…

By: Jessica Wakeman / April 10, 2014

This Study Hightlights What We Already Knew: Assault Is Never The Victim’s Fault

A new study has found that in situations of sexual aggression at bars, most attackers are very clear on the fact that their victims are not consenting. The results made obvious what so many already know: despite claims of misperception, in most cases it is very clear that the attacker's advances are unwanted by victims. Many attackers purposely seek…

By: Claire Hannum / March 5, 2014

California Wants Law To Require “Affirmative Consent”

California wants to rewrite the state law regarding sexual violence on college campuses to require both partners to give "affirmative consent" before engaging in sexual activity. The legislation hopes to protect victims who were sexually assaulted while drunk or on drugs and couldn't/didn't give consent. The bill's sponsors said they hope that this would be…

By: Jessica Wakeman / February 12, 2014

The Soapbox: Unwanted Touching Is Unacceptable At Any Age (Yes, Even Age 6)

This piece is crossposted with permission from RebeccaHains.Wordpress.com. In this week’s news, a six-year-old boy in Colorado was suspended from school. The reason? He had repeatedly kissed one of his classmates, despite her telling him to stop. The girl’s mother, Jade Masters-Ownbey, noted that the boy’s behavior had been an ongoing problem. The boy had…

By: Rebecca Hains / December 13, 2013

Playboy‘s Pro-Consent Party Commandments Piece Turns Out To Be A Hoax

Clicking through a Playboy article all about asking consent before sex, all I could think was, Who are you and what have you done with Playboy??? Hugh Hefner and feminists are uneasy bedfellows — pun definitely intended — even in the most liberal fields of Sex Positive-landia. But there was not much to gripe about…

By: Jessica Wakeman / September 17, 2013

University Of Edinburgh Bans “Blurred Lines” From Campus

It was bound to happen sooner or later: a college banned "Blurred Lines" from campus for being too rapey-sounding. The student union of  University of Edinburgh banned the Robin Thicke song as part of a policy called "End Rape Culture & Lad Banter On Campus," which is seeking to make the campus safer sexually. Student…

By: Jessica Wakeman / September 13, 2013

10 Things Everyone Should Learn In Sex Ed

Hold onto your pearls, pearl-clutchers. Oklahoma’s Tulsa School District has just announced plans to implement an unprecedented sex education policy. Cities like Boston,  NYC, San Francisco and Los Angeles are already teaching comprehensive, medically accurate, LGBTQ-inclusive sex education to public school students. One by one, American cities are announcing a move away from abstinence-only curriculum or worse,…

By: Phylisa Wisdom / September 11, 2013

The Soapbox: In (Reluctant) Defense of Dr. Phil

I never thought I’d write an article under that title but here goes. Earlier this week, Dr. Phil asked over Twitter: "If a girl is drunk, is it alright to have sex with her?" The Twittersphere overwhelmingly answered "No," calling Dr. Phil a “moron,” “asshole” and “rape apologist,” among other things. I don't doubt the possibility…

By: Melissa Petro / August 22, 2013

Girl Talk: On Dealing With Rape Within A Relationship

I was always utterly convinced that I was stronger and more logically driven than the average woman when it came to dealing with relationships. I remember reading stories about women who stayed with men after being hurt by them; who made excuses for a man’s violation or abuse, swatting away any logical notion of leaving…

By: Lizzie R. / July 12, 2013

Radical Feminist Interview On Thought Catalog Takes Potshot At Sex-Positive Feminism & Kink, Questions Consent

Last night, I was reading a piece on the blog Thought Catalog in which writer Marie Calloway interviewed two young women about the current state of "radical feminism." I read it not only because feminism is my beat, but also because the current understanding that I have in my mind about radical feminism is based…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 27, 2013

Kickstarter Apologizes For Not Removing Fundraiser For Book Of Rape Tips

Earlier this week we learned about a Kickstarter fundraiser to publish Above The Game: A Guide For Getting Awesome With Women. The book by a Connecticut "pickup artist" named Ken Hoinsky originated as "seduction" advice  posted on Reddit; he used the fundraising site to ask for a few thousand bucks to publish his wisdom to…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 21, 2013

Kickstarter Project Raising Money For A Book Filled With Rape Tips

People use Kickstarter to raise money for all sorts of dubious projects. Celebs funding movies. Celebs funding albums. Tips on how to rape women. Wait, what? Oh yes. Behold, Above The Game: A Guide To Getting Awesome With Women, by Ken Hoinsky of Connecticut, a new book that conflates advice on how to date rape…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 19, 2013

On Don Draper, Dick Whitman & Consent

SPOILER: Why wasn't there more of a discussion about the prostitute who nursed a young Dick Whitman back to health and then took sexual advantage of him? [The Atlantic] There's an op-ed in the Wall Street Journal today by editorial board member James Taranto that posits the military's effort to clean up sexual assault i…

By: Jessica Wakeman / June 18, 2013

Crazy: Parents Paid Tattoo Artist To Sabotage Teen Daughter’s Tattoo

The show “Tattoo Nightmares” is simple: people with horrible tattoos complain about how horrible their tattoos are, then get new tattoos to cover up the damage. Usually the new ink looks a little strange, but the original tattoos sometimes represent some kind of emotional damage, so they are worth covering up. In the case of…

By: Mary Odell / June 12, 2013

The Soapbox: On Abuse Within Kink (Or This One Time Some Really Bad Stuff Happened To Me)

Recently I went home with a kinky man after our first date. The experience phased in and out of being consensual throughout the night. I distinctly left his apartment feeling violated and I continued to feel violated for several days after. We found each other online because both of us were interested in dominant/submissive (D/s)…

By: Jessica Wakeman / March 14, 2013

French Kissing No Longer Considered As Rapey In The Netherlands

Tongues away, everyone! A Dutch Supreme Court panel decided on Tuesday that forcible French-kissing should not be on par with rape. For 15 years, The Netherlands' criminal code stated a "forced-tongue kiss" and rape both carried a maximum 12-year prison sentence. But this panel of three men and two women overturned a rape conviction o…

By: Jessica Wakeman / March 13, 2013

Guy Talk: Consent Isn’t As Simple As “No Means No”

Back in my 20s, I used to party quite a bit, sometimes to ridiculous excess. Drunkenness was rampant, and so were the accompanying shenanigans. Once, a large group of us took a limo bus downtown for a coworker’s birthday. On the bus was a girl I recognized from work, but had never met. We ended…

By: Dennis Hong / February 27, 2013