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Mommie Dearest: On Lena Dunham & Teaching Children About Boundaries And Consent

This post isn’t about Lena Dunham… really. So many others, including The Frisky’s own Amelia, have written about Dunham, her book, and the passages about her sister that have led to claims of molestation. But, I’m writing this because of the conversation that’s currently being had about Lena Dunham, so we can’t not talk about… More »


New Pew Study Shows That Women Are More Likely To Be Sexually Harassed Online

A Pew study looks at the differences in online harassment for men and women, and what do ya know, women are more often the target. [Slate]
Feminist blogger Lindy West imagines a social network that is specifically feminist and anti-racist. [Daily Dot]
Read about racism in the newsroom. [New Republic]
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Mindy Kaling Defends Buttsex Episode Of “Mindy Project”: “There Was No Sexual Peril”

In case you missed it, last week’s episode of “The Mindy Project” was all about butt sex. Mindy’s onscreen boyfriend Danny (Chris Messina) wanted to try anal for the first time, attempting the act and claiming “I slipped.” The rest of the episode was dedicated to Mindy trying to determine if his “slip” was intentional,… More »


Why California’s Active Consent Law Is Not An Outrage

California Governor Jerry Brown signed the state’s Active Consent bill yesterday, making it law in California that in order to receive state funding, universities must have policies stating that students must obtain verbal or nonverbal consent before having sex (a lack of objection or resistance does not constitute consent), provide victims’ advocates, teach incoming freshmen… More »


Mommie Dearest: Your Kids Need To Know About Consent Long Before They Head To College

Talking about sexual assault is never an easy thing. But as a parent, it’s crucial to find ways to talk to your children about it. Lately, there’s been a lot of attention focused on campus rape and sexual assault, and with good reason. Many colleges have been called out (and even sued) for not taking… More »


Cee Lo Green Dropped From Music Festivals After Rape Tweets

Music festivals in Louisiana and Washington, D.C. have dropped Cee Lo Green following his gross tweets that “people who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!” Green pleaded no contest to charges that he had slipped Ecstasy into a woman’s drink and allegedly raped her; he maintains it was consensual sex. He also deleted the tweets,… More »


California State Legislature Advances “Yes Means Yes” Hookup Bill

California’s state senate advanced a bill to require universities that take financial aid from the state to adopt a policy that students must give “affirmative consent” before engaging in sex. The law would state that both parties need to engage in “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement” before hooking up — in other words, people… More »


Girl Talk: On Consent & Why It’s Worth It To Keep Saying “No”

When I noticed photographs in Damon’s apartment with a woman’s head cut out of them and an X drawn atop her body, I regretted not saying “no” earlier that night. I wanted him to like me and didn’t want to seem prudish and uncool. I didn’t want to limit my romantic options or life experiences. More »


Male Student Suspended By Columbia For Alleged Sexual Misconduct Sues School For Title IX Discrimination

In September 2013, a female student at Columbia University filed a complaint against “John Doe,” a sophomore and member of the crew team from Florida, over alleged nonconsensual sex in her dorm room that had occurred  in May 2013. This February, a school tribunal found “John Doe” guilty of sexual misconduct and suspended him for… More »


PurrVerse: Getting Lucky With San Francisco’s Hook-Up Truck

I live in San Francisco, land of art, sexual experimentation, and entrepreneurial spirit. Since I’ve moved here I’ve explored the boundaries between public and private sex in multiple ways – in the back of a pickup truck on Twin Peaks, in the woods by the Sutro Baths, with a bike-powered sex machine in the middle… More »


George R. R. Martin Distances Himself From That “Game Of Thrones” Rape Scene (But I’m Not Done Ranting)

If you still haven’t seen Sunday’s episode of “Game of Thrones,” stop right here, as there are spoilers ahead and besides, you need to get on that shit. 

George R. R. Martin, the author of the “Game of Thrones” series, A Song of Ice and Fire, has weighed in on Sunday’s controversial episode, in which… More »


“Game Of Thrones” Turned A Consensual Sex Scene Into A Rape Scene And Ruined Everything

Fair warning: SPOILERS AHEAD.

Goddammit, I am so pissed off. On last night’s episode of “Game of Thrones,” a climactic and much-anticipated consensual sex scene between incestuous brother-sister duo Jaime and Cersei Lannister was twisted into a violent rape scene for seemingly no reason at all, ruining the sexual tension some of usMore »


Frisky Q&A: Speak Author Laurie Halse Anderson On RAINN, Rape Culture & Consent

Every year, April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, when many of us participate in Take Back The Night speak-outs and marches to raise awareness about sexual violence in our communities. This year, the beloved young adult novelist Laurie Halse Anderson has thrown her support behind a fundraiser for the Rape Abuse And Incest National Network… More »


This Study Hightlights What We Already Knew: Assault Is Never The Victim’s Fault

A new study has found that in situations of sexual aggression at bars, most attackers are very clear on the fact that their victims are not consenting. The results made obvious what so many already know: despite claims of misperception, in most cases it is very clear that the attacker’s advances are unwanted by victims. Many attackers purposely seek… More »


California Wants Law To Require “Affirmative Consent”

California wants to rewrite the state law regarding sexual violence on college campuses to require both partners to give “affirmative consent” before engaging in sexual activity. The legislation hopes to protect victims who were sexually assaulted while drunk or on drugs and couldn’t/didn’t give consent. The bill’s sponsors said they hope that this would… More »


The Soapbox: Unwanted Touching Is Unacceptable At Any Age (Yes, Even Age 6)

This piece is crossposted with permission from RebeccaHains.Wordpress.com.

In this week’s news, a six-year-old boy in Colorado was suspended from school. The reason? He had repeatedly kissed one of his classmates, despite her telling him to stop.

The girl’s mother, Jade Masters-Ownbey, noted that the boy’s behavior had been an ongoing… More »


Playboy’s Pro-Consent Party Commandments Piece Turns Out To Be A Hoax

Clicking through a Playboy article all about asking consent before sex, all I could think was, Who are you and what have you done with Playboy???

Hugh Hefner and feminists are uneasy bedfellows — pun definitely intended — even in the most liberal fields of Sex Positive-landia. But there was not much to… More »


University Of Edinburgh Bans “Blurred Lines” From Campus

It was bound to happen sooner or later: a college banned “Blurred Lines” from campus for being too rapey-sounding.

The student union of  University of Edinburgh banned the Robin Thicke song as part of a policy called “End Rape Culture & Lad Banter On Campus,” which is seeking to make the campus safer… More »


10 Things Everyone Should Learn In Sex Ed

Hold onto your pearls, pearl-clutchers. Oklahoma’s Tulsa School District has just announced plans to implement an unprecedented sex education policy. Cities like Boston,  NYC, San Francisco and Los Angeles are already teaching comprehensive, medically accurate, LGBTQ-inclusive sex education to public school students. One by one, American cities are announcing a move away from abstinence-only curriculum or worse,… More »


The Soapbox: In (Reluctant) Defense of Dr. Phil

I never thought I’d write an article under that title but here goes.

Earlier this week, Dr. Phil asked over Twitter: “If a girl is drunk, is it alright to have sex with her?” The Twittersphere overwhelmingly answered “No,” calling Dr. Phil a “moron,” “asshole” and “rape apologist,” among other things. I don’t doubt… More »