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Mindy Kaling Defends Buttsex Episode Of “Mindy Project”: “There Was No Sexual Peril”

In case you missed it, last week’s episode of “The Mindy Project” was all about butt sex. Mindy’s onscreen boyfriend Danny (Chris Messina) wanted to try anal for the first time, attempting the act and claiming “I slipped.” The rest of the episode was dedicated to Mindy trying to determine if his “slip” was intentional, and how to deal with it. While speaking about her show at The New Yorker Festival, Mindy was asked a question about consent by one self proclaimed “hard-core” fan: “Were you at all surprised by any of the negative reactions that you got from some of your biggest supporters, and what was your response to that?” Keep reading »

Why California’s Active Consent Law Is Not An Outrage

California Governor Jerry Brown signed the state’s Active Consent bill yesterday, making it law in California that in order to receive state funding, universities must have policies stating that students must obtain verbal or nonverbal consent before having sex (a lack of objection or resistance does not constitute consent), provide victims’ advocates, teach incoming freshmen about consent during orientation, and not punish victims for underage drinking when they come forward.

I don’t know why there’s a chunk of people who are invested in claiming this is an outrage — OK, I have some ideas, and they mainly have to do with fairly predictable pushback to social change. The bill has had its critics, as has the idea of affirmative or active consent in general. Here’s why this bill (now law!) is by no means an outrage: Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Your Kids Need To Know About Consent Long Before They Head To College

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Talking about sexual assault is never an easy thing. But as a parent, it’s crucial to find ways to talk to your children about it. Lately, there’s been a lot of attention focused on campus rape and sexual assault, and with good reason. Many colleges have been called out (and even sued) for not taking the right steps in handling sexual assaults that take place on campus, which has sparked the Campus Accountability and Safety Act bipartisan bill that could improve the way colleges deal with sexual violence.

What’s a parent to do? It can be difficult to figure out where to start with all of this, especially in talking about it to our own children. Recently, there have been a few resources that parents may want to look into. In hopes of providing a jumping off point for folks to discuss sexual assault,the White House recently unveiled their It’s On Us campaign, using videos of celebrities taking the pledge to keep women and men safe from sexual assault. The idea sounds really great and revolutionary at first glance — celebs like Jon Hamm, Connie Britton, and Questlove all standing up against sexual assault. The heart of the campaign is in the right place. But the execution leaves a bit to be desired. Keep reading »

Cee Lo Green Dropped From Music Festivals After Rape Tweets

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  • Music festivals in Louisiana and Washington, D.C. have dropped Cee Lo Green following his gross tweets that “people who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!” Green pleaded no contest to charges that he had slipped Ecstasy into a woman’s drink and allegedly raped her; he maintains it was consensual sex. He also deleted the tweets, presumably after a publicist called him screaming. [The Grio; BuzzFeed]
  • It’s time to cry: Vivian Boyack, 91, and Alice Dubes, 90, finally married this weekend in Davenport, Iowa after SEVENTY-TWO YEARS together. [Feministing]
  • SheRides is a new taxi/livery service app that matches women drivers up with women riders. [Gothamist] Keep reading »

California State Legislature Advances “Yes Means Yes” Hookup Bill

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  • California’s state senate advanced a bill to require universities that take financial aid from the state to adopt a policy that students must give “affirmative consent” before engaging in sex. The law would state that both parties need to engage in “affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement” before hooking up — in other words, people can’t justify their actions anymore by saying, Well, she didn’t say no! [NPRWashington Post]
  • A sexist troll on the Facebook page of a meteorologist named Ginger Zee just got served. [The Vane]
  • Seventeen beliefs about sexual assault that are totally wrong. [Cosmopolitan] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On Consent & Why It’s Worth It To Keep Saying “No”

Girl Talk: On Consent & Why It's Worth It To Keep Saying "No"

When I noticed photographs in Damon’s apartment with a woman’s head cut out of them and an X drawn atop her body, I regretted not saying “no” earlier that night. I wanted him to like me and didn’t want to seem prudish and uncool. I didn’t want to limit my romantic options or life experiences. Now, I wondered if my efforts to seem easygoing would end up getting me killed.

It was 1999, the height of the swing dance craze. Every night, I went to a different Boston dance venue: Ryles jazz club, Johnny D’s, or St. Mary’s Church to be twirled and escorted to the dance floor on a bent arm. I loved time traveling to an era where gentlemen and ladies dressed up for an evening out and formally asked each other to dance. I grew up watching Fred Astaire and Ginger Roger musicals, and now I was living inside of one. Keep reading »

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