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Mommie Dearest: On Lena Dunham & Teaching Children About Boundaries And Consent

Mommie Dearest: On Lena Dunham & Teaching Children About Boundaries And Consent

This post isn’t about Lena Dunham… really. So many others, including The Frisky’s own Amelia, have written about Dunham, her book, and the passages about her sister that have led to claims of molestation. But, I’m writing this because of the conversation that’s currently being had about Lena Dunham, so we can’t not talk about her.

The basics: Lena Dunham wrote a memoir and included bits about her relationship with her younger sister, Grace. Like the time Lena was seven and peered in one-year-old Grace’s vagina. Or the other time when Grace was older and Lena would give her sister candy in exchange for kisses. And then there was the story where Lena encountered masturbating in bed at 17, alongside her sleeping sister. Those bits got a few sites screaming “child molestation!” in Lena’s direction and the entire Internet has since blown up on both sides of it. But is it so crystal clear or black and white? When it comes to kids, sex, and sexuality can’t it be a whole bunch of fuzzy grey? Keep reading »

New Pew Study Shows That Women Are More Likely To Be Sexually Harassed Online

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  • A Pew study looks at the differences in online harassment for men and women, and what do ya know, women are more often the target. [Slate]
  • Feminist blogger Lindy West imagines a social network that is specifically feminist and anti-racist. [Daily Dot]
  • Read about racism in the newsroom. [New Republic]
  • A Joan Didion documentary is crowd-funding on Kickstarter! [Kickstarter] Keep reading »

Mindy Kaling Defends Buttsex Episode Of “Mindy Project”: “There Was No Sexual Peril”

In case you missed it, last week’s episode of “The Mindy Project” was all about butt sex. Mindy’s onscreen boyfriend Danny (Chris Messina) wanted to try anal for the first time, attempting the act and claiming “I slipped.” The rest of the episode was dedicated to Mindy trying to determine if his “slip” was intentional, and how to deal with it. While speaking about her show at The New Yorker Festival, Mindy was asked a question about consent by one self proclaimed “hard-core” fan: “Were you at all surprised by any of the negative reactions that you got from some of your biggest supporters, and what was your response to that?” Keep reading »

Why California’s Active Consent Law Is Not An Outrage

California Governor Jerry Brown signed the state’s Active Consent bill yesterday, making it law in California that in order to receive state funding, universities must have policies stating that students must obtain verbal or nonverbal consent before having sex (a lack of objection or resistance does not constitute consent), provide victims’ advocates, teach incoming freshmen about consent during orientation, and not punish victims for underage drinking when they come forward.

I don’t know why there’s a chunk of people who are invested in claiming this is an outrage — OK, I have some ideas, and they mainly have to do with fairly predictable pushback to social change. The bill has had its critics, as has the idea of affirmative or active consent in general. Here’s why this bill (now law!) is by no means an outrage: Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Your Kids Need To Know About Consent Long Before They Head To College

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On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »

Talking about sexual assault is never an easy thing. But as a parent, it’s crucial to find ways to talk to your children about it. Lately, there’s been a lot of attention focused on campus rape and sexual assault, and with good reason. Many colleges have been called out (and even sued) for not taking the right steps in handling sexual assaults that take place on campus, which has sparked the Campus Accountability and Safety Act bipartisan bill that could improve the way colleges deal with sexual violence.

What’s a parent to do? It can be difficult to figure out where to start with all of this, especially in talking about it to our own children. Recently, there have been a few resources that parents may want to look into. In hopes of providing a jumping off point for folks to discuss sexual assault,the White House recently unveiled their It’s On Us campaign, using videos of celebrities taking the pledge to keep women and men safe from sexual assault. The idea sounds really great and revolutionary at first glance — celebs like Jon Hamm, Connie Britton, and Questlove all standing up against sexual assault. The heart of the campaign is in the right place. But the execution leaves a bit to be desired. Keep reading »

Cee Lo Green Dropped From Music Festivals After Rape Tweets

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  • Music festivals in Louisiana and Washington, D.C. have dropped Cee Lo Green following his gross tweets that “people who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!” Green pleaded no contest to charges that he had slipped Ecstasy into a woman’s drink and allegedly raped her; he maintains it was consensual sex. He also deleted the tweets, presumably after a publicist called him screaming. [The Grio; BuzzFeed]
  • It’s time to cry: Vivian Boyack, 91, and Alice Dubes, 90, finally married this weekend in Davenport, Iowa after SEVENTY-TWO YEARS together. [Feministing]
  • SheRides is a new taxi/livery service app that matches women drivers up with women riders. [Gothamist] Keep reading »
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