It goes without saying that everyone handles conflict differently. People have their default fighting styles, their bad habits, their avoidance tactics, etc. We’ve realized that the way people respond to conflict usually has something to do with their needs — some people need space and time to process, some people need to spew out all their thoughts immediately, some people need to talk about things in a logical way, some people need their emotions validated. What does each zodiac sign need during conflict? Read on to find out! Keep reading »
Ah, Thanksgiving: a day of gratitude, binge eating, and togetherness. Unfortunately, that whole “togetherness” thing doesn’t always go so smoothly. We all know to avoid inflammatory topics like religion and politics when convening with far-flung family members, but what happens when seemingly innocuous subjects cause tempers to flare and awkward silence to follow? To help you prepare for the worst, here’s a list of seven neutral conversation starters to try this Thanksgiving — and what to do if things turn bad…
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On Saturday, Libyan woman Eman al-Obeidy walked into a hotel in Tripoli, Libya, populated by foreign journalists in order to let the world know that Col. Moammar Qaddafi’s military forces had beaten and raped her. What followed was a violent scuffle, as al-Obeidy was forcibly removed by Qaddafi’s men, despite the protests and protections of international media. It was a violent and graphic reminder that women and girls often face specific and harrowing abuse in times of war and conflict.
According to reports, al-Obeidy barged into the breakfast room at the Hotel Rixos, where journalists had been staying at the behest of Qaddafi’s regime, and breathlessly told members of the media that she had been repeatedly raped and violated by 15 of Qaddafi’s men. “They say that we are all Libyans and we are one people,” she said. “But look at what the Qaddafi men did to me,” pointing to a bruise on her face, a scar on her thy and scratch marks on her leg. “I was tied up, and they defecated and urinated on me. They violated my honor.” Al-Obeidy stressed that the real story of the struggle in Libya wasn’t being told. “There is no media coverage outside,” she said. “They swore at me and they filmed me. I was alone. There was whiskey. I was tied up. I am not scared of anything. I will be locked up immediately after this.” She added: “Look at my face. Look at my back.”
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