Look, Doree Lewak, I’m not going to tell you not to court male attention or that you’re wrong for enjoying compliments — within reason — from strangers. I’m not going to condescend to you over the fact that it gives you an ego boost, not least of all because hey, to each their own. I wouldn’t want anyone to condescend to me for the ways I choose to interact with male and female gazes.
What I am going to say is this: Please don’t tell me what I ought to consider flattering, and then tell me to “deal with it” (in an admittedly clickbait-y article for The New York Post) because you’re on the wrong side of 25 to be talking to other people as if you’re in the seventh grade. Keep reading »
Have you been watching the new Comedy Central show, “Inside Amy Schumer”? I haven’t, but after watching the sketch above, I’m adding it to my now-lean DVR queue. In the clip, Amy and a gaggle of pals (including “Saturday Night Live”‘s Abby Elliott) exchange compliments on everything from clothing items to job promotions to pregnancy news, but each is, uh, incapable of accepting the praise graciously. The sketch is hilarious because it absurdly illustrates something that is totally true — by and large, many women have a hard time accepting compliments without at least disparaging themselves in some way first. Keep reading »
We were laying on the couch in the darkness, the new Sofia Coppola movie flickering on the TV screen. Even in my lightest pajamas with the AC blaring, my skin soaked with sweat. I’d just taken a cool-off shower, which washed off all my carefully applied makeup from dinner. My wet hair hung around my face, drying as much as frizzing in the humidity.
But still, when he stroked my leg, looked me straight in the eye, and told me, “You’re so pretty,” I believed him. Keep reading »
This morning, I shared the elevator in my apartment building with a couple of random movers. We were making polite chit chat when one of them suddenly said, in a rather flirty/pervy voice, “Nice toes, miss.” Then he tried to eye bang me, but I avoided his gaze as I chuckled and said thank you. I probably should have felt slightly sexually harassed as he likely had a foot fetish that I was inadvertently titillating before I’d even had a cup of coffee. But he called me “miss” and, if I’m being honest, my pedicure is looking really good and I think my toes are rather under-appreciated. Anyway, my question is: what’s the strangest compliment and/or catcall you’ve ever received? Share in the comments! Keep reading »
“My mom told me when I get compliments, to cover my ears. I mean, I’m sorry. I’m so embarrassed now. Thank you for saying that. Thank you. I don’t know if I’m adorable … Stop, stop. No, no, no, no, no, no. Now I’m really, I’m flustered. Thank you.”
—Zooey Deschanel responds during a press conference for her TV show “New Girl” to a reporter’s very strange question, “What does it feel like to be adorable?” I’m not sure exactly how the reporter wanted her to answer (it’s kind of like asking, “How does it feel to be 5’4?”), but I’m surprised by how thrown off Zooey got. Why is it so hard to accept a compliment? [NY Daily News] Keep reading »