communication

What Does Mercury Retrograde Mean? 4 Myths And Facts About This Astrological Shitshow

It’s cool, guys, there’s no need to panic, I swear. More »


Study: Voicemail Less Sexy Than Email, Everything Else On The Planet

What kind of monster would leave a sexy voicemail? More »


A Compendium Of Emoji For Very Specific Situations In Honor Of Worldwide Emoji Day

When words are woefully insufficient. More »


3 Easy Ways To Win Every Argument (And Still Make Everyone Happy)

Think “winning” an argument means always being right? … WRONG! Want to never “lose” another argument ever again? I’ve discovered that reconnecting to your personal purpose when conflict crops up is the secret to understanding how to rise above the energy of a fight, and bring about a win-win resolution. I’ve certainly had my share of fights in my… More »


Life After Dating: Writing While Coupled

Over the weekend, my boyfriend Michael visited his mom and his sister, who was home from school for the weekend, out in the burbs. He told them he was going to propose to me soon, and his sister said she already knew that because she reads my work. Whoops! I’m so glad I don’t talk… More »


This Couple Communicated Using Only Emojis For A Month

A New York City couple spent a month using only emojis instead of written words to communicate in their text messages, and weirdly enough, it didn’t totally wreak havoc on their relationship. Alex Goldmark, who works at WNYC’s New Tech City, thought it would make for a sweet experiment for the radio show, and by the end… More »


Frisky Rant: You Are Not Sooo Busy

“I’m sooo busy!”

I’m soooo over this phrase. So over it I want to throw something when a person says it. Usually at them. I’m sooo busy is code for, “I don’t care enough about you to remember to text or call or see you.” Telling someone you’re sooo busy isn’t an excuse. More »


4 IM/GChat Behaviors That Drive Me Insane

I have a phobia of the phone, don’t have time to write lengthy emails, and my handwriting is so out of practice that signing my rent check each month feels like a chore, so Instant Messenger/GChat is my preferred method of communication (followed by texting, though “in-person interaction” trumps both with certain humanoids). It allows… More »


How To Talk To Teenage Girls

My senior year of college I mentored a group of teen girls at an alternative high school outside of Portland, and it was one of the most powerful and moving experiences I’ve ever had. Not only did I meet my best friend in the process (she was my co-mentor), I saw what an amazing impact… More »


Girl Talk: On Nagging

The first and only time my husband called me a “nag” invoked a cringe-worthy shudder, followed by the thought, “Am I seriously turning into my mother?!” In my personal catalog of unsavory labels, “nag” occupies a space somewhere between “brownnoser” and “snob,” insults I neither want to be called nor become, yet sting fiercely because they often embody a… More »


10 Things You Should Never Say To An Emotional Woman

It’s a rare man who knows how to deal with an emotional woman. I know that “feelings” scare a lot of dudes and in their fear and perfectly admirable desire to “fix things,” they become inert, inept, or insensitive. I’ll never forget the first time my most serious boyfriend saw me cry. He didn’t say… More »


We Reach Our Full Dog Whispering Potential At Age 10

We all felt a special bond with our childhood dogs … well those of us that had them. My apologies to those who didn’t. When I was a kid, I considered my Bichon Frise Mandy my best friend. I don’t know if that’s sweet or sad. Probably sad. Anyhow, I used to have long conversations… More »


Are Men Better Boyfriends In Their Next Relationship?

Lately we’ve been talking a bit about breakups and the lessons we learn from relationships that have ended — but do men actually get more out of a “failed” relationship than women? A guy friend of mine, let’s call him Adam, says — and we’re both aware that this is generalization — that men are… More »


Dear Wendy: “Am I An Attention Whore?”

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for three months, and currently live together. I’m just gonna cut to the chase here: he’s not good about replying to my texts. Usually, with my past significant others, I would always have cute little mushy text convos all day. However, when I text my current… More »


12 Reasons Why Women Don’t Listen To Men

Psychologist Robert Leahy made a list of reasons why men don’t listen to women. Sure maybe he’s not listening to us because he want us to be rational rather than emotional, but it’s pretty likely that at that point, we’re not listening to him either. While this list is an interesting look at why communication… More »


We Are Better At Communicating With Strangers Than Loved Ones

We know that couples, family members, and best friends love to brag about how they share a brain, which results in all that annoying finishing each other’s sentences stuff. Just because they claim to know what the other is thinking, that may not mean they actually understand each other any better than two strangers. A… More »


“The Man Whisperer” Dating Advice Book: Stop Nagging, Or Else You’ll Die Alone

Every few years some enterprising publisher knocks off the world’s most famous “how to change yourself to get a man to love you” book, The Rules (which itself knocks off Fascinating Womanhood). We know what condescending “rules” these books teach: men are simple, men are visual creatures, don’t nag them or they turn into little… More »


What Your Email Sign-Off Says About You

Do you have a standard email sign-off you use like “Thanks,” “Cheers,” or “Best”? Do you change your sign-offs for business emails? I tend to stick with the ol’ XOXO or my first initial (or both) in my personal emails with close friends and use “Thanks” or very occasionally “Cheers” in my business emails. I… More »


Is Having A Sister Better Than Having A Brother?

It strikes me as interesting that a short but sweet essay on the benefits of having a sister, called “Why Sisterly Chats Make People Happier,” has been one of the most popular articles on The New York Times website for over a week. The essay is in response to a recent Brigham Young University study… More »


Dear Wendy Updates: “First-Timer” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “First-Timer” who wrote to me way back in January when her first serious relationship started floundering after three… More »


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