When I graduated from college almost 10 years ago, I remember breathing a huge sigh of relief. Finally, I thought, I’d arrived at the finish line and could begin the new, exciting chapter in my life. I walked (well, more like rolled, considering I’m in a wheelchair) across that stage to proudly accept my diploma, which I saw as my ticket to adulthood. I was on my way – or so I thought. And then life happened. Or didn’t happen, I suppose, depending on how you look at it. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not jaded. I’m proud of where my post-college journey has taken me; it’s just that the path looks different than I thought it would. After all, a decade has passed since graduation day – a decade full of ups and downs and twists and turns – so I’m not exactly the same person I was back when I donned my cap and gown. Looking back, it would have been nice to have a little advice to go along with that diploma – you know, a sort of cheat sheet for the “real world.” So, in the name of continuing education, here are five things I wish someone had told me about life after college… Keep reading »
James Madison University in Virginia allowed three frat boys found guilty of sexually assaulting a woman and distributing video of it to stay on campus until graduation, even for years.
According to the Huffington Post, Sarah Butters, then a sophomore and a sorority member, was sexually assaulted in Panama City, Florida, on a spring break vacation in 2013. She later learned that the three young men, whom she had considered her friends, had filmed video of the assault inside a bathroom and passed it around.
In the video, Butters is blackout drunk, topless and being groped as the men try to take off her underwear/bathing suit bottom. She is heard saying “This isn’t okay, this isn’t a good idea.” She told WHSV news, “I’m clearly, like, not really able to defend myself or fight them off. We were in an enclosed bathroom. It was three of them surrounding me and none of them thought they were doing anything wrong.”
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Deanna Jordan, a 28-year-old single mom of three boys, just graduated from UCLA with three (three!) degrees. Jordan, who grew up in Compton in Los Angeles, had her three sons from ages 18-22. Jordan told news station CBS2 that she knew she had a rough road ahead. “I had him and in the hospital I remember thinking, ‘I’m 22, there’s no future unless I can create one,’” so that’s exactly what she did.
Jordan became the first person in her family to attend college, and she now holds two bachelor’s degrees and a master’s degree. She’s also the founder of a program that aims to assist in revitalizing education in Compton schools. Jordan works in the Compton mayor’s office and plans to eventually head to law school to become a district attorney. “You can’t really succeed unless you fail, and I failed a lot of times, but it was my persistence and my willingness never to give up,” she said. I am totally inspired. [Clutch]
I’m more than sure Kirstie Allsopp is going to take a beating from the Internet in the last few days over encouraging young women to forego higher education for a job, an apartment, a boyfriend, and a baby. She argues that career doesn’t have a time limit, while (for most people) child-bearing does.
I’m not going to call her anti-feminist, or a bad feminist, or whatever. She’s a person with opinions she’s entitled to — a few of which I agree with, notably that marriage is a big old WHATEVS. I just think there are some serious logical flaws to her argument. Keep reading »
I love Mindy Kaling. I really do. But her commencement address at Harvard Law School was rather … Mindy Kaling-focused … to put it politely. I don’t understand why she was invited to speak (she doesn’t seem to understand why herself), because most of what Mindy Kaling had to say was about Mindy Kaling. I guess it’s always exciting to have a big Hollywood star at your graduation. But I bet Harvard Law is wishing they had gone with someone a little more esteemed, or at least with a little more to say. [NYMag.com]