It’s like a word association game. Say the word “asexual” and the first thing people say is Clay Aiken. Poor Clay got stuck as the poster boy for asexuality when he told New York magazine that he had no libido.

“I just don’t have an interest in … any of that at all. I have got too much on my plate. I’d rather focus on one thing and do that when I can devote time to it, and right now, I just don’t have any desire. I think maybe I don’t [have sexual urges]! I mean, not really. I’ve just kind of shut it off, maybe. Is that bad?”

Now we know Clay is actually a gay man and the only thing he had “shut off” were his homosexual desires.

But with such confusing messages about asexuality, is it any wonder that “Awkward,” a 19-year-old woman who wrote to Professor Foxy, Feministing’s sex advice expert, was really confused by her complete lack of a libido? “Awkward” thinks she is asexual, but wondered how do you actually know?

The are two ways celebrities who need a little attention can guarantee publicity. Actually, scratch that, there are many ways celebs can get publicity, including sex tapes, pregnancy rumors, dramatic break-ups, and quickie marriages. But the two strategies that seem to be the most popular lately are the always-successful yo-yo dieting blitz, as perfected by Oprah, Jessica Simpson, Kirstie Alley, and Mariah Carey, and bad-mouthing another celeb on twitter or one’s personal blog.

With the passing of Proposition 8, 2008 has left a bad taste in a lot of our mouths.  But it would be sad to let a year full of PR triumphs for one of the hardest working and most outspoken communities slip by without acknowledging all the honors and milestones that have been achieved! So, forget the h8terade, from the death of “don’t ask, don’t tell” to the first openly gay prime time news anchor, there were a lot of wins to be proud of—just take a look at the long list of Great Gay Headlines In 2008!

Google recently released its “2008 Year-End Google Zeitgeist” lists of the fastest rising search terms, which are the terms that have seen the biggest increase in searches from last year. In the U.S., the top 10 fastest rising terms are:

1. obama
2. facebook
3. att
4. iphone
5. youtube
6. fox news
7. palin
8. beijing 2008
9. david cook
10. surf the channel

Kind of says a lot about our country, doesn’t it? At least American Idol David Cook is #9, not #1. Just for fun, we took a look at what people were searching for that brought them to The Frisky. Check them out, after the jump…

Across the country today, a lot people called out of work, not because they’re sick, but because they’re queer.  It’s A Day Without A Gay! This boycott hopes to show the gay community’s strength in the face of Prop 8 and other anti-gay marriage bills that passed back in November. It’s days like these that truly remind us how much we idolize our gay friends, relatives, and heroes. It got us thinking…what would happen if they called out of work every day? After the jump, 12 things we would have missed out on if gay men and women weren’t a part of our society.

2008 is almost history, and it definitely made some. We saw plenty of highs—the election of the first African-American President—and lows—the stock market dip—but as we look back at a year of extremes, our jaw still drops at these unbelievably shocking moments…

Now that Clay is out, he needs some love!  But who is the David Burtka to match his Neil Patrick Harris?  We ladies at The Frisky, like his surrogate Jewish grandmothers, want to fix him up!  Here are the studs we think would fire up Clay:

Lance Bass: Former member of boy band N’Sync, Lance Bass just hasn’t been the same since his break up with the man who helped him come out of the closet—Reichen Lehmkuhl.  While Reichen has already moved on, Lance has been a mess!  He’s unsuccessfully dating dudes like his married personal trainer (yikes!) and a bad tipping bartender! So he clearly, Sir Lancelot needs someone who will fight for his honor and share his love of highlights. Clay could be his bottled-blonde Prince Charming.

For more than a decade, my best friend has been a gay guy. I don’t really even like qualifying him as a “gay guy,” since his gayness is such a non-issue in our relationship and in my perception of him. Part of that may be the type of gay he is, or more accurately, the type of gay he isn’t. He never knows, for example, when it’s Pride weekend, and he doesn’t own anything rainbow, and he doesn’t even like Madonna. He does, however, love “Project Runway” as much as I do and his home is so beautifully designed, it would give Martha Stewart an inferiority complex. Sometimes after we’ve had a few bottles of wine — as we’re known to do — and we’re good and lubricated, he’ll slide in a comment about the possibility of us making a kid together. Usually, it’ll be a remark about what great hair it would have or how it would surely inherit the same square Flintstone feet we both share. I’ll chuckle and reply with some quip about it also inheriting the same flightiness we both have, too, and then I’ll change the subject.

The biggest entertainment news to break this week is Clay Aiken’s revelation that he is indeed gay. This news really wasn’t surprising to me because my gaydar started beeping the second I first laid eyes on the former “American Idol” contestant. Since many of Clay’s fans didn’t have my intuition and have vehemently denied his homosexuality in the past, I thought it would be interesting to find out exactly what his fans think now. I hope they still remain supportive because it would be really messed up if they shun him for his sexuality.

Told. You. So. Claymates. [NYMag.com]

Gwen Stefani has been pregnant FOREVER. It feels as though a year has gone by since she and Gavin Rossdale announced she was with child, but it hasn’t even been nine months. (The photo shows Gwen at the beginning of July.) Since many celebs wait until they’re through their first trimester to share the news that they’re going to have a baby, pregnancies seem as though they last only a couple months. Like Clay Aiken’s baby mama. Her pregnancy was announced at the end of May, and she had the baby today, just two full months later. And because she seems to have only dealt with a big belly for a couple measly months, we’re going to be awfully surprised if we ever get pregnant and don’t give birth for more than half a year. That’s gonna suck.

According to TMZ, Clay Aiken has knocked up his “best friend”, a 50-year old record producer named Jaymes Foster. Weird. She has a boy’s name. That’s funny! Ahh, but for those Claymates worried about Aiken’s precious chastity (and for those conspiracy nuts worried their “Gayken” theory may be shot down), Foster was supposedly artificially inseminated. I wonder what entertainment he used to get the spunk into the cup…IM?

Clay Aiken is back at it, answering questions about his sexuality—or a lack thereof, as he’s claiming now. In a recent interview with New York Magazine, Clay said he is asexual because he is “just too busy for a relationship” since his career is what he likes to do. Yeah, did I mention the interview was to plug his new role in a musical on Broadway? No offense to decorators and fashion designers, but jobs don’t get any gayer than theater singer/dancer/actor. Well, at least Clay will be among plenty of friends of Dorothy in the Big Apple.While he can keep masking his orientation, his guise is doing all the talking. Aiken everyday looks more and more akin to another gay music icon, David Bowie. I bet they have more in common than haircuts. See Clay, there’s a fan base out there for you! [ABCNews]