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The Soapbox: On The Sacrifices Expected Of Immigrant Nannies

The Soapbox: On The Sacrifices Expected Of Immigrant Nannies

I have a deep-seated resentment of White parents who specifically hire Black immigrant women or people of color as nannies. Whenever I go to the park or take a stroll through New York City on any day of the work week and see large groups of Black or minority women pushing strollers with little blonde or brown-haired children in the seats, I cringe. As the holidays approach, the sight becomes even more troublesome for me. This isn’t because there is something inherently wrong with people of different races being caretakers for White children, but because I know far too well the intricacies of that dynamic, namely the many sacrifices these women of color often make to secure and keep such work, and the unfair and demeaning conditions sometimes imposed on them by their White employers. See, I was the child of an immigrant, Afro-Caribbean live-in childcare worker. And I know what she faced. Keep reading »

What Women Mean When We Call Each Other “Sluts” And “Whores”

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It’s no secret that women use the words “slut” and “whore” to describe other women. Now, a new study of college-aged women sheds more light on just why young women use these slurs. You might be as surprised as I was to find out what’s really at play here: the slur is not meant to directly punish sexuality, but to delineate a broader social standing. And here’s the interesting part: depending on where a young woman landed within the school’s social hierarchy, she used the word “slut” differently to describe her peers.  Keep reading »

I Haven’t Had An Abortion, But I Would

Late Period? Don't Panic!
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I Talk About My Abortion
True Story: Why I Tell Everyone About My Abortion
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Why Men Need Abortion
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It was a Tuesday afternoon and I was on my therapist’s couch. I described for her an incident over the weekend when I felt sad, deeply sad, for seemingly no reason at all. I had felt reclusive and shy and wanted to stay in my bed; when my husband encouraged me to go to a birthday party that night that I actually wanted to go to, I had started crying. I’m a sensitive person, sure, but even while I was crying I knew my tears didn’t make much sense.

I shared some other strange behavior changes lately. I’ve been more hungry than usual, more often and ravenously so. I get snappish when I can’t eat immediately (hangry, I believe, is the technical term). I’m usually pretty easygoing, but lately I’d been having random mood swings. I was beginning to feel embarrassed about my behavior.

“You’re emotional … your appetite has changed …,” she paused. “Have you considered that you might be pregnant?” Keep reading »

Breaking News: You Can Be A Feminist And A Stay-At-Home Mom

Wanting To Stay Home
Jess wants to be a stay-at-home mom someday if she can. Read More »
Wives As Homemakers
How our Hitched columnist Andrea became a homemaker. Read More »
Traditional Men
I'm a feminist, but I want to date a more traditional dude. Read More »
Stay At Home Dads
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Do they really parent that differently from stay-at-home moms? Read More »
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I expected the worst when I heard that that New York magazine would be writing an article about “The Retro Wife,” about how some liberal feminists are embracing retro lifestyles by staying-at-home. Well, I didn’t expect the worst. But I expected your typical scoopfuls of women-don’t-need-or-want-feminism-anymore BS, which, as Anna North at BuzzFeed Shift notes, are all too common in lifestyle articles about work/life balance in women’s lives.

Instead, I found “The Retro Wife,” by Lisa Miller — while light on factual analysis and more reliant on anecodtes — spoke to me. Keep reading »

Hitched: Beyoncé And The Luxury Of Playing “Mrs. Carter”

Like everyone else in the country with excellent taste and a belly full of adult beverages, I very much enjoyed Beyoncé’s half-time performance at the Super Bowl on Sunday. I loved her all-woman band, particularly Bibi McGill’s spark-shooting axe. I loved the Destiny’s Child reunion. I loved that my Beyoncé half-time BINGO card included a square for “killing it,” which I ticked off within seconds of the show’s start.

And yet, my reaction to her post-halftime announcement of the upcoming “Mrs. Carter Show” tour was not to cheer her on in a post-feminist choose-your-choice fist-pump, but to huff: “Call me when Jay-Z goes on a Mr. Knowles tour.”

Why does the most powerful woman pop star in the world want, or need, to remind everyone she’s married? What does a Mrs. moniker have with her ability to sing, dance and write songs? And no, the name issue isn’t what gets me. I’m not raising a figurative eyebrow at “Carter,” I’m raising a figurative eyebrow at “Mrs.” Keep reading »

No Abortion Access? You’re At Increased Risk For Poverty

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  • Denying women access to abortion services makes women more likely to fall below the poverty line in the subsequent years, according to a study out of the University of San Francisco. Which, if you think about it, makes sense: many women who have abortions are already mothers and choose to terminate a pregnancy rather than raise a child they (perhaps already) cannot afford. And then guess who needs public assistance from the government? You guessed it! [Think Progress]
  • Behold, the most sexist media incidents of 2012. Read it and weep, ladies. No, really, read it. And weep. [Name It Change It (PDF)] Keep reading »
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