The author Lori Gottlieb markets herself as a teller of harsh relationship truths for women. As a contributor to The Atlantic, she saw her 2008 piece “Marry Him!” turned into a full-fledged book in which she advocates that women abandon long lists of qualities marriageable men need to have and marry Mr. Good Enough before their biological clock ticks its last tock. (I interviewed Gottlieb about Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr. Good Enough back in 2011.)
Gottlieb, who is also a psychotherapist, is back with a new controversial subject in The New York Times Magazine: how trying to be completely egalitarian in our relationships may be taking the passion out of our sex lives. Keep reading »
Men who do domestic chores get laid more often, according to a study published in the American Sociological Review.
However, it comes with a strangely sexist caveat: only doing “manly” chores leads to more bedroom action. Keep reading »
My brother grew up with four sisters in the house. I know, right? Come to find out, there’s more to having a bunch of sisters than just growing up to be a ladies’ man. A new study published in the Journal of Politics has found that boys with sisters are more likely to grow up to be Republicans and also to do less housework. You might think that being exposed to more girls early on might prompt a boy to be more egalitarian — but apparently you would be wrong. Keep reading »
I’m not a simple woman made happy by simple things. I like fancy stuff! But I swear to God, if I could just have a washing machine and dryer inside my apartment …. I’d be as thrilled as if I came home and Michael Fassbender was waiting for me in bed with a bowl of chocolate mousse.
See, I’m lazy about doing laundry. It’s one of my least favorite chores. Not because I mind putting the clothes in the machines and folding them; I don’t mind that at all. It’s just a huge hassle to lug my laundry down a flight of stairs, plus my old-lady pushcart, and go over to the laundromat. The whole ordeal stresses me out so much that I put off doing laundry … and put it off … and put it off … until finally I’m stuck wearing a bikini bottom as undies and T-shirt that doesn’t fit anymore. (I know that I could make this easier for myself by paying for laundry dropoff/pickup, but I’d rather use that money to pay for dry cleaning more often.) Also, I’m really lazy. There, I said it.
It turns out I’m not the only Frisky staffer with laundry issues. We here by confess to the following: Keep reading »
Thanksgiving is a lovely time of year to not only see distant family and beloved friends, but also dredge up decades-old resentments. A famous familial bugaboo is who helps clear the table/wash plates/Saran Wrap the leftovers and who sits on their ass, pretending to be paralyzed by a food coma. (Of course, food coma person perks right up when the pecan pie comes out. I’m on to you, Christian.) I am fortunate that I grew up with a father who has always shared 50/50 of chores equally with my mother, including on holidays. The fact that my parents’ kitchen is clogged with women doing cleanup has more to do with the fact they have four daughters than anything else. Keep reading »
Couples who divvy up washing dishes, cleaning the laundry, and other house chores are more likely to get divorced than couples where the woman does the homemaking by herself, according to a Norwegian study of thousands of couples called Equality in the Home.
In the study, which looked at 2007-08 data, researchers found that the 25 percent of married couples that shared housework were more likely to get divorced, compared to the 71 percent of households where the woman was in charge of doing all the chores. Interestingly, having men do the majority of the housework didn’t bode well either. Keep reading »
And lo, the Lord did create the men and women who populated the earth. The manifold men did go to the office and get good jobs in middle management and take the trash out on Thursdays while lady helpmates did joyously stay home and wear aprons and make dinner and vacuum and mop and scrub the toilets and make the beds and raise the children and dust the bookshelves and manage the home accounts and do the grocery shopping and mend the clothing and take the children to appointments and preside over the laundry apparatus, which the Lord, in all his wisdom, saw fit to make too difficult for men to comprehend.
This was called the division of labor, and behold, it was fucked up. Keep reading »
One of my favorite perks of being an adult is that no one yells at me to make my bed every day. Now, thanks to a Spanish furniture company’s new invention, I can yell at my bed to make itself. It’s called the Smart Bed, and at the touch of a button, it smooths the sheets, adjust the duvet, and repositions the pillows. Check out the demo video and tell us: would you ever want to own a Smart Bed? [Buzzfeed]
As I’ve mentioned before, I’m a slob. Cleaning is one of my least favorite activities in the world, and I get the urge to tidy up about as often as I get the urge to, oh, I don’t know, relive middle school. But over the course of the last year I’ve made a dedicated effort to get better at it, and slowly but surely, I’ve become a fairly consistent doer of chores. If you’re not naturally prone to neatness, you know how tough it can be to put away the dishes or pick up a duster. To help you out, here are five tips, tricks, and strategies that have helped me tackle that terrible, awful job called cleaning the house… Keep reading »