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Dater X: My Date With A Gentleman

I Like Chivalry
On Jessica's newfound respect for men who behave chivalrously. Read More »
Annoying Dating Advice
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Is Chivalry Sexist?
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Is being a gentleman actually really sexist? Read More »
Dater X: My Date With A Gentleman

It brings me great pleasure to inform you all that I’ve gone on another successful date with Scar Twin.  After our first date, where I oh-so-gracefully mimicked JLaw’s Oscars fall on my way up the stairs at the night’s end, I was eager to redeem myself on date No. 2, and I can pretty confidently say that I did. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Is Chivalry Dead? Maybe It Should Be

Dating Don'ts: Is Chivalry Dead? Maybe It Should Be
I Like Chivalry
On Jessica's newfound respect for men who behave chivalrously. Read More »

I’ve never been one for chivalry. I prefer to do things my way, and take pride in my own ability to lift things that are heavy, open doors on my own and find my coat in a sea of bodies and sad down jackets at a crowded bar. I’ve been with men who are completely unchivalrous, men who I’ve had to kick in the shins to lift a finger to help me carry an air conditioner up the stairs, and I’ve been with men who have fallen over themselves to get the door for me, even though I was already in the process of opening it. There’s a finesse to the art, a way of doing things that falls in between a fawning obsequiousness and a genuine gesture, bred of genteel manners and a different way of living.

There’s a fine line between chivalry and common courtesy. Holding a door open for someone who’s hands are full is good home training. Giving your seat up for a pregnant woman on the bus is good home training. Helping me into my coat at a restaurant is unnecessary, awkward and assumes that deep down, you are unconfident in my ability to put on my own outerwear when the fact of the matter is I have been dressing myself for longer than we’ve been acquainted. I understand that this is a gesture of kindness, but I view it as a harbinger of times past — and quite frankly, the past is where it should stay. Keep reading »

“Clever” Bros Create Terrible Video Sweeping Women Off Their Feet

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Not Cool, Bros
Stop Telling Me To "Smile"
Telling women to "smile" at you on the street is sexual harassment. Read More »

Hey bros, you know what’s not cool? When you invade the personal space of women you don’t know by “sweeping them off their feet.” It is really, really not okay, Andrew Hales and Stuart Edge, to surprise a woman by grabbing her physically and immobilizing her. And yet, for some reason, so many of the women in this video seem totally okay with it. I wonder how many women didn’t make the edit — how many times women actually got defensive, maybe even violent, back. Keep reading »

Study: Men Feel Guilty If Women Pay On Dates

Chivalrous Moves We Like
10 chivalrous moves that don't creep women out. Read More »
Pay For Pretty Dates
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Men foot the dinner bill if their date is pretty, study finds. Read More »
First Date Questions
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We wish we could ask, but we know we can't. Read More »

The majority of both men and women believe that men should be opening their wallets on dates, according to a new study. Most men and women presume that men should pay for most expenses, even after multiple dates, and in fact, a surprising number of guys feel guilty when a woman pays. Keep reading »

Chivalry Makes Women Suspicious, Says Dubiously Sourced Study

I Like Chivalry
On Jessica's newfound respect for men who behave chivalrously. Read More »
Pay For Pretty Dates
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Men are more inclined to foot the dinner bill if their date is pretty, study finds. Read More »
Chivalrous Moves We Like
10 chivalrous moves that don't creep women out. Read More »

Okay, I’m pretty sure that the UK’s Daily Mail just makes shit up. But I am fairly sure that chivalry died one morning a month ago, when a man shoved me out of the way at the subway station to run up the stairs ahead of me. So even if this Daily Mail piece claiming “research” suggests women are suspicious of chivalrous men because our manners have coarsened so much is bullshit, I’m included to believe there’s an element of truth to it. Keep reading »

Men Are More Inclined To Pay For Dinner If Their Date Is Pretty, Study Finds

I Like Chivalry
On Jessica's newfound respect for men who behave chivalrously. Read More »
Tell Me I'm Pretty
Is it so much to ask to want to be told I'm beautiful? Read More »
Is Chivalry Sexist?
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Is being a gentleman actually really sexist? Read More »
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Dating is uncomfortable for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is figuring out who pays at the end of the date. You’re a modern, working woman. You don’t need a man to treat you.  On the other hand, who wants fork over $12 per dirty martini if you don’t have to?

It turns out, ladies, that men are doing their own calculations in order to figure out who pays on a date. And the results are ugh-worthy yet not surprising: a new study from the University of St. Andrews in Scotland has found that men are more willing to pay for a date if she’s pretty.  Keep reading »

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