I have been in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We moved in together about a year ago and it has been going great! He is financially responsible (although we both deal with school loan debt), fun to be around, and has a great family. We have talked about getting married in the next few years and buying house, and I would love to be his wife for the rest of my life. But … I don’t ever want to have kids. Now, I know I am only 25 (as is he) so we have a ways before I have to start thinking about it, however, he is very family-oriented and has mentioned his desire to someday take a child with him to sports games. I made it clear to him that I have always wanted to adopt or foster older children rather than have my own kids but he has never really stated an opinion on that option. I’m worried that if we get married, he will make the assumption (as many do) that I will want kids eventually, and will start putting the pressure on me when we get closer to 30/35 at which point we’ll get divorced if I still don’t want kids. Is it safe to stay in a relationship with such a big difference of opinion, or the hope that I “might” someday change my mind? Is it too early to have a serious talk with him about it? I love him but am scared this is going to be the end of us. — No Kids, Please
Wendy Williams, host of GSN’s new show, “Love Triangle,” holds what might be a kind of controversial opinion about celeb couple Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Though she thinks they make a nice couple, she wishes Demi hadn’t married Ashton because, at the end of the day, she won’t be able to give him children of his own. Now, I am pretty sure Wendy does not have a second job as Demi’s OB-GYN, so I’m going to take her assessment of Demi’s current reproductive capabilities with a grain of salt. I also am pretty sure she doesn’t hold a third job as the couple’s marriage counselor and is thus privy to their discussions — or lack thereof — about having a baby. And I don’t think it’s fair for her to assume that just because Ashton is from the midwest, he must want to procreate. All that being said, Wendy’s judgments about the seemingly happy couple do bring up a subject that us lesser famous folks can discuss — would you commit to someone who didn’t share your views on having kids?
I didn’t think I could love Jenna Lyons, Creative Director for J. Crew, any more, but my respect for her has grown tenfold beyond just loving her work with the line. On the brand’s website, there’s a feature called “Saturday with Jenna,” featuring photographs of Lyons hanging out with her son Beckett (above). In one photo, she’s seen holding her son’s tiny feet, freshly pedicured with a hot pink Essie polish. The accompanying quote reads:
“Lucky for me, I ended up with a boy whose favorite color is pink. Toenail painting is way more fun in neon.”
JWOWW is super happy with her juicehead boyfriend, Roger. “I didn’t realize how happy I could be in a relationship,” she says. “Hopefully I’ll be able to settle down and have kids within the next couple of years—maybe even the beginning of next year. I don’t want to jinx it. I haven’t really talked about it, but it would be nice.” [Life & Style]
I find this interesting because, sometimes, I think it’s hard to admit that you want kids. After all, we’re told that this is the quickest thing that makes guys run the other way. But if you want something, you have to say it out loud—right? So I applaud these celebrity women who, since the start of 2011, have been totally upfront about wanting to have kids sometime in the very near future. Maybe it’s going around?
According to a new study, the happiest families have exactly 2.0 daughters. No more, no less. While two girls is heaven, double the number of girls, and parents report being in hell. Four girls is the worst brood combination to get stuck with. Hell hath no fury like sisters scorned. The next best child combo is one boy and one girl, who rarely fight over toys, but don’t bond quite as much. I found this to be a nice combination growing up, especially when my brother agreed to let me put makeup on him. I’m sorry, Adam. How about you, where does your sibling combo rank, and do you agree with its ranking? [Daily Mail UK] Keep reading »
The "Human Barbie" taught her 7-year-old daughter to pole dance. Read More »
Oh boy, one mom has really stepped in it after publishing her piece about favoring her son over her daughter. In hopes that the post will be taken down permanently, I’m not going to name names (after all, if her post lives, that poor girl might be able to find out what her mom really thinks about her), but you can get the gory details on Babble.
This particular mom wrote something that’s not terribly shocking, in that some parents favor one child over another. She also appears to be working through some postpartum depression issues that negatively affected her bonding experience with her older daughter. Neither of these issues are new ones. As a former Babble editor, I can tell you we published many features that highlighted these issues, but none that really took it as far, and did so much damage, as this particular mom has done to her 3-year-old daughter. Read more…Keep reading »
Big announcement! In the year 2031, I’ll have been editing The Frisky for 23 years. At that point, my eyes will be weary from staring at a computer screen for so long, and it will be time for me and my domestic partner Ryan Gosling to retire to our beachfront estate on the Riviera Maya in Mexico. I want to leave The Frisky in the hands of someone I trust, someone who I believe embodies the spirit of this site. After an exhaustive search, I have found that woman, I mean 5-year-old girl. Now, let’s hope she’s good with HTML. [via Dlisted] Keep reading »
Dr. Phil doesn’t want your son to be “confused” — especially if “confused” means “gay.” Not that one of America’s most prominent psychological experts (thanks a lot, Oprah) comes right out and says being gay is bad. The gay and lesbian blog Queerty points us to DrPhil.com, where he kindly suggests a mother “direct” her son away from the clothes and toys “for girls” to which he is gravitating. “Don’t buy him Barbie dolls or girl’s clothes,” he writes. “You don’t want to do things that seem to support the confusion at this stage of the game …Take the girl things away, and buy him boy toys.” Keep reading »
On “The View” this week, the ladies discussed a mother who appeared on Dr. Phil, who punishes her young son for misbehaving by pouring hot sauce on his tongue and forcing him into a freezing cold shower. (The mother has since been charged with abuse.) In the clip above, it’s clear this poor kid is terrified of his mom and the punishment he knows she’s going to inflict upon him. Look, I know timeout doesn’t always suffice, and there are plenty of people who think a swat on the butt is occasionally warranted (I am not one of them, FYI), but this just reeks of wrong to me. The pain and discomfort it’s meant to cause is so specific. I don’t think jail is the answer for this lady, but parenting classes sure might come in handy. Keep reading »