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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend’s Kids Get On My Nerves”

I’ve been with my boyfriend now for four years and I love being with him; we get a long very well, especially considering our 20-year age difference. My problem lies in the fact that he has two children (12 and 9) who I love as if they were my own. They are living with us for the summer and MAN are they getting on my nerves. I feel like I have no space, all my stuff is moved around, no food is ever in the fridge and worst of all, all they want to do is play with me! I mean it’s great that they love me and accept me in their lives and all but I’m starting to resent them. Usually, I spend most of my time trying to make them happy, but now that they are here all the time I want to scream. Also, it puts a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend because he’s so easy-going with them that I feel like the bad guy all the time. My biggest dilemma with this situation is I thought I had always wanted a baby of my own, especially after meeting them. But now my boyfriend keeps bringing up the fact that maybe I’m not the right person to have kids if I complain about them. I’m so torn! I have even considered breaking up with him — despite thinking I’d marry him — just because of the this kid issue. I feel like I just can’t trust myself! — Parent Trap

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Girl Talk: My Biological Clock Is Broken

I’m smack in the middle of my 30s and recently married. For some childless women my age, this is tick-tick-tick time. However, while other women may be intimately in touch with their ovulation cycles, I’m in no hurry to have kids now, if ever. My old man and I have talked about it, but we’re both horrified by how much our lives would have to change — not to mention how big a pain in the ass kids are for, oh, say, 18 years. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I’m Sick Of Hearing About Motherhood

Recently I was complaining to my cousin Lei about my mother.

“I tell her I’m happy,” I said as we waited for our table to be called, “but she doesn’t believe me.” I had money in the bank, a dream career, and was in a sickeningly loving relationship with a guy she adored like a son. Yet every time we spoke, she asked with fear in her voice: “Is everything okay? Are you okay? Is Alex’s job okay? Are you guys okay?”

“She’s your mother,” Lei said. “She’ll always worry.” My cousin watched her 3-year old zoom past us, her husband close on her tail. “Before I became a mother, I didn’t understand that worry. Now I do.”

I sighed. There it was again, that exclusive club. Motherhood. Keep reading »

Cash & Coupling: How Having A Baby Changed Us — Financially

When I began dating my now husband, I already had a little girl from a previous relationship. In order to get serious with me, he had to adjust to the idea of late-night dinners at restaurants to takeout scheduled around bedtime. Luckily, he did so beautifully and won both my and my daughter’s hearts.

One wedding, two successful careers, and a substantial mortgage later, my husband adopted my daughter and we were ready to add another tax deduction to the mix. We were used to having to make adjustments to accommodate life’s surprises, so we thought a baby would cause minimal monetary ripples in our fairly stable life. We couldn’t have been more wrong. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Would Trade A Successful Career For A Family Of My Own

Recently, during a weekly therapy session, my doc and I were doing our thing, talkin’ ’bout boys, my frustration with the ones I have met, and my recent relapse into dreaming about my ex; I was telling her that sometimes, despite being a relatively solitary person who enjoys time alone, I get overwhelmed with loneliness. I miss something I don’t have anymore, that feeling of deep companionship.

It’s something we’ve talked about often in the last year and a half since my biggie breakup; during that time, as my loneliness and grief waxed and waned, my career has thrived. The Frisky has become more successful than I dared to have dreamed when we first started it and I’m noodling with the idea of writing a book; both work and personal projects keep me busy and sometimes I feel like I need to pinch myself to confirm that my professional aspirations have been met with truly thrilling results. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Had My Tubes Tied

When a study released in late June revealed that one in five women would remain childfree into the next generation, a lot of people were shocked. I wasn’t. In an ironic twist of fate, I had my tubes tied the same weekend. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: More On Marrying For Money

Of all the personal essays I’ve written, “Why Marrying For Money Isn’t A Totally Bad Idea” has provoked the biggest response. It has actually run twice on the Frisky site: once about a year ago and again in June for our Cash & Coupling feature. Due to all that exposure, it has racked up comments numbering in the hundreds and been written about (90 percent negatively) on dozens of blogs. Someone even sent me an email calling me a “yeast infection”!

Some of the things written about the post, and about me, are so untrue that I’m not sure the author actually read the essay all the way through. But it’s clear to me — both from the tone of the comments and from seeing the piece run with “fresh eyes” for a second time — that I did not explain myself and my beliefs very well. I think that instead of being speculative, I should have gotten more personal.

So. Here we go, again … Keep reading »

“Human Barbie” Mom Teaches Her 7-Year-Old To Pole Dance

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This is one of those stories that you hope is just something from an episode of “30 Rock,” but then you’re, like, Ugh, these people really exist:

Sarah Burge, 50, owns a swingers’ sex party club and is known as the “Human Barbie” for her $600,000-worth of plastic surgery treatments. She’s also the mother of three daughters. Her eldest, Charlotte, 23, dances burlesque; her middle daughter, Hannah, 16, started getting Botox injections last year; and her 7-year-old, Poppy, wears lip gloss, high heels and makeup, and loves pole dancing.

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Dear Wendy: “My Ex Still Contacts My Kids On Facebook”

I’m a single mom and I recently broke off a relationship of about a year with a guy who’s a single dad. I grew up in a step-family and could see danger ahead if we continued the relationship. Just suffice it to say that my kids are a big part of my life, but for my former SO, his kid IS his life. Here’s what I question: when I dumped him, of course, he unfriended me on Facebook. While I don’t live and die by my online presence, what bugs me (although I don’t know if it should) is that he has kept all my kids as Facebook friends. He comments on their posts, and sends them messages! I don’t stalk him online, but other than block my kids from my feeds, I keep seeing the comments. In the real world, I really don’t think ex-SOs would keep in contact with kids, but who knows? I thought maybe you could give me some perspective! — Single Mom

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“Single Ladies” Tots Have Danced “Sexy” Before


They’re baaaaack! Remember the little girls who did that super amazing but sorta sexy dance to Beyonce’s “Single Ladies,” and people went nuts over whether it was appropriate or not? Well, their parents hit the morning shows last week saying the dance performance (posted on YouTube) was “taken out of context.” However, it turns out that that was not the first time that gang of 7-year-olds donned sparkly tube tops and popped their booties on stage. Behold, the sexiest take on “My Boyfriend’s Back” that I’ve ever heard/seen. Look, the sucky thing about this “scandal” is that it’s detracting from the fact that these girls are amazzzzing dancers, so skilled at such a young age that if they were to continue their studies, they could seriously go on to professional careers. And some might argue, myself included, that the over-the-top sexiness of some of the moves (and the costumes) are not only inappropriate for their age but distracting from their talent as well. What do you think? [PopEater] Keep reading »

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