Earlier this week, Jessica asked the question that passes through the mind of many a woman: How do you know — really know — if you want to have kids? It’s a good question and an important one. Kids are a big decision. They’re not like those cute, fuzzy chicks people buy as gifts on Easter only to realize that they grow up to be chickens, so they just return them or get rid of them somehow. No. Kids are a bit more complicated than that.
But is there actually any way to know for sure? You would think as the mother of a 7-year-old, who has been-there, done-that, and has pondered the same questions Jessica brought up, I would have at least some answers. But unfortunately, I don’t.
Because, if there’s one, solid rule that I’ve figured out in my short time parenting, it’s that there’s no one right answer that will fit everyone across the board. What works for one woman/couple/family may not work for another. And that’s okay. Keep reading »
I have a couple of girl friends whom I really envy. They know exactly what they want — or rather, what they don’t want. They don’t want to have children. Two of my girl friends are childless by choice, which means that while they enjoy being involved in the lives other people’s children, they have no interest at all in becoming parents of their own. There isn’t a doubt in either of their minds that kids are not a possibility.
My own feelings on the subject are much more hazy. Keep reading »
This picture here? This is lingerie for kids. The mesh lace over the belly and the butt? The lace on the sides? If I wasn’t convinced already due to my own familiarity with lingerie as a grownup lady, I would turn right to the Porscha Starr press release and its vehement protestations that their lingerie for kids as young as eight is “age-appropriate” and not lingerie:
Intimate apparel has never been created for all women of all ages, until now. … Porscha Starr Lingerie will launch the first adolescent apparel collection in the United States. In the past retailers have failed to present a comfortable selection that is not only socially acceptable by parents but age appropriate for its target market. … Porscha Starr is well known for its sexy, edgy, alluring, futuristic, fashion forward designs. However this line is NOT to be confused with lingerie. The Starrlett collection is a charming, appealing and most important an age appropriate line fashioned specifically for young girls. Keep reading »
This morning, I happened to stumble upon a CNN photo gallery of children partaking in a MMA fight … in a cage. Participants as young as age five are allowed to compete in the Thunderdome, where “they punch, kick, tackle and choke each other,” with their hands and feet.
I asked myself, “How many parents would actually let their kids do this?” The answer: a lot. Keep reading »
Every day, there are roughly 400,000 children living in foster care. One of those children is Davion Only, a 15-year-old boy in Florida who has cycled through foster homes so many times that he has lost count how many there have been. Currently he live inside a group home with 12 other boys.
Recently, Davion did something so heartbreaking it is difficult to imagine: he stood up before 300 people inside a church and asked if any family wanted to adopt him. Keep reading »
Pets are nothing if not persistent when there’s affection to be had. Nowhere is that better illustrated than this squee-dorable video of a little boy with Down Syndrome being won over with love by a pushy Labrador retriever. The boy, Hernan, lives in Buenos Aires, Argentina, and is shy about physical contact. At first Hernan isn’t so sure about this big galoot shoving his wet nose in his face. But the Lab is persistent — in that gentle, perfect way all Labs are — and finally Hernan gives him a big hug. Labs are the greatest, aren’t they? I dare you to watch this video — which is over a year old, but making the rounds on the “Today” show and Huffington Post just now — and not get the warm and fuzzies. [Today]
I have been achingly cool for almost as long as I can remember, but circa fifth and sixth grade was the absolute low point of my coolness. I know it’s hard to imagine, but I was really, really lame — I’m talking Hot Topic wardrobe, greasy hair, Transitions lenses … it was a rough couple of years. I was weird, and nobody wanted to middle school date me at a time when everyone was middle school dating, and I felt like a total loser. SUCH a loser! But a new study found that early-starting kids who began “dating” at an average age of 11.6 years were reported twice as likely to engage in abnormal or delinquent behavior as on-time (about 12.9 years) adolescents and late bloomers (14.9, holllllller), so maybe I’m better for it? Just kidding, I also engaged in these behaviors myself, but I am a scientific anomaly and also not a part of this study.
My real question is, what is this “dating” at age 11.6? I have no firsthand account, so I can only imagine it is limited to the awkward conversations across hallways and uncomfortable, clammy “hand-holding” that I served only witness to. Are these children allowed at one another’s homes? Don’t these kids have parents? Speaking of parents: parents, do not EVER purchase Transitions lenses for your school-aged children. Do you know what they call that? They call that FATES WORSE THAN DEATH. Social suicide, I’m telling you. [Gawker]
[Photo of happy smiling kids via Shutterstock]
Late last year, Debbie, a woman in the male-dominated field of engineering, became frustrated with what she saw as the link between the gender disparity in her field and the toys children play with. Specifically, that toys which encourage inventiveness are typically marketed towards boys and therefore lead boys to become more interested in subjects like math, science and engineering as they grow up. So she decided to do something about it. She started a toy company called GoldieBlox, with the goal of encouraging girls to love engineering as much as she does. You can watch her introductory video here. But the next step is actually bringing these engineering toys for girls in stores nationwide, especially a major chain like Toys R Us. While the store has stocked some of GoldieBlox’s toys, it’s been in small quantities, dwarfed by the sea of Barbies around them. “We’ve been told that GoldieBlox can’t survive in mass stores next to Barbie,” the company writes on their YouTube page. “Convention says that engineering toys for girls are a “niche” for the affluent, and for the internet. Together, we must prove convention wrong.” You can help them do that in one small way — sharing this awesome video, featuring a bunch of adorable girls singing to the tune of Queen’s “We Are the Champions” about “disrupting the pink aisle” with your Facebook and Twitter followers. Want to do more? Check out more suggestions for how to help at the link! [YouTube via Upworthy]
Allegedly, there is a mom in New South Wales, Australia who is punishing her daughter for lying about having a sleepover when instead she and her friend hung out with older boys. Also, the girl has a “self righteous and lippy attitude.” You know, teenagers.
Anyway, this mom’s chosen punishment is to allegedly sell her daughter’s four tickets to a One Direction concert on Friday, October 25th in Sydney via eBay. ”I hope the scowl on your bitchy little friends faces when you tell them that your dad and i revoked the gift we were giving you all reminds you that your PARENTS are the ones that deserve love and respect more than anyone,” the mom supposedly wrote. “And your silly little pack mentality of taking your parents for fools is one sadly mistaken.” Keep reading »