Posts tagged "childless by choice"

I Got My Tubes Tied At 28 Because I Don’t Want Kids — Ever

What I want is to be happy. I’m often told that I’d make a good mother. Depending on my relationship with the person making this wildly incorrect statement, I have one of two reactions: either a small, insincere smile and a “mmmm” response that does not invite further discussion or a hearty laugh followed by… / March 15, 2015

Life After Dating: First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes … None Of Your Business

Being the youngest in a large family has its advantages: My siblings provided plenty of grandchildren already, so there’s no pressure on me to make more. (Christmas presents are expensive, y’all.) My family has also known since I was 19 — when I fainted while watching my older sister have a sonogram because it grossed…

Jessica Wakeman / July 28, 2014

Oprah Discusses Being Childless By Choice

“Gayle [King] was the kind of kid who, in seventh grade Home Ec class, was writing down her name and the names of her children. While she was having those kind of daydreams, I was having daydreams about how I could be Martin Luther King. …If I had kids, my kids would hate me. They would…

Jessica Wakeman / December 11, 2013

Girl Talk: How Do You Know, Really Know, You Want To Have Children?

I have a couple of girl friends whom I really envy. They know exactly what they want — or rather, what they don’t want.  They don’t want to have children.  Two of my girl friends are childless by choice, which means that while they enjoy being involved in the lives other people’s children, they have…

Jessica Wakeman / December 2, 2013

5 Ways Not Having Kids In Your 30s Is Different From Not Having Kids In Your 20s

I’ve known for most of my life that I didn’t want to have kids, although I didn’t know or use the word “childfree” until I was in my 20s. For a while, it was easy to be childfree. My peers were also young, single, career-focused, and not worried about meeting The One, let alone procreating…

Lilit Marcus / August 5, 2013

The Soapbox: It’s Not Just That I Don’t Want Kids, It’s Also That I Don’t Like Them

Last week, I was in a conversation on Facebook in which I admitted to not liking kids. (My comment: “Real talk: I don’t actually like babies, actually, or children.”) I thought about taking it down as soon as I posted it. An hour later, I was still thinking about taking it down. No one paid…

Chanel Dubofsky / May 16, 2013

Hitched: What Not To Say To People Who Don’t Want Kids

Now that I’m an old-ass boring married lady, spending all my time vacuuming in heels, watching my stories and making martinis at 5 p.m. in anticipation of the imminent arrival of the most interesting man in my world, the only thing left for me to do in life is get pregnant.

But that…

Andrea Grimes / May 8, 2013

Hitched: Why My Husband Is Getting A Vasectomy

I’ve been walking around with a sketch of a uterus and cervix in my reporter’s notebook for several weeks now, courtesy of my gynecologist. She drew it while explaining to me how an IUD works. I keep it around both because I like it as a conversation piece and because when you write about ladypart…

Andrea Grimes / September 26, 2012

Chelsea Handler & Gloria Steinem Do Not Want Kids, So Lay Off, OK?

Chelsea Handler and Gloria Steinem have been hanging out and I’m never invited. It’s cool. I’m not, like, devastated or anything. But I’m just saying, if Arianna Huffington walked up to Chelsea at a Forbes 100 Most Powerful Women event and lectured her how she’s “so maternal” and “needs” to have children, I would have…

Jessica Wakeman / October 14, 2011