In a previous Crave, Ami advised you to pick up the book Tiny Beautiful Things, a collection of the Dear Sugar advice columns published on the website The Rumpus. Penned by author Cheryl Strayed (who also wrote the best-selling memoir Wild), the Sugar advice columns are filled to the brim with wonderful wisdom for both the advice seeker and the reader. One of the more popular bits of advice Sugar ever gave was to a struggling writer in a column called “Write Like A Motherfucker.” Whether you’re a student struggling through your senior thesis or a novelist facing a serious bout of writer’s block or a blogger questioning your career’s tragectory, Sugar’s advice to” write like a motherfucker — read the whole column here — will light a fire under your ass. I bought this mug about a month ago and posted this photo of it to my Tumblr blog. Before I knew it, it had been reblogged over 2,000 times — clearly, this is a mantra many can relate to and this mug is a daily reminder of Sugar’s advice to give your all to your passions, regardless of how that effort is perceived by those around you. [$13, The Rumpus Shop]
ModCloth is now selling The Cheryl Dress, a garment named after the current recipient of my fangirl writer worship, Cheryl Strayed. “This sleek frock is perfect for a confident, successful woman like you, who has found wisdom in the journey and not the destination,” says the item description.
Or as Sugar, Cheryl Strayed’s advice-giving alter ego would put it, this dress is for the woman who wants to dress like a motherfucker.
I don’t know if you could wear this one for Pacific Crest Trail hike, but it’s certainly a tiny beautiful thing you could add to your wardrobe for the super affordable price of $49.99.
Non-Sequitur: I think having a dress named after you means you’ve made it in life. Or maybe a sandwich. New goal. [ModCloth]
“I’m not going to apologize for being female or human. But I will apologize to the party I’ve wronged. About a month ago, I posted this video on my Facebook page about being pro choice and why. There was this conversation that ensued in the comments about whether abortion should be legal. And this man who is a fan of ‘Wild’ and ‘Tiny Beautiful Things’ said, well, I’m against abortion, but I do think it should be legal. And Cheryl, the thing about you is, you had an abortion but you regret it. And you’ve told us how that does stay with you and how many regrets you have about it. And I was like, uh, no I haven’t. I thought, I can’t let that stand. I said, actually, you’re mistaken. I do not regret it. I wish I hadn’t gotten pregnant. I don’t think it’s this great, exciting chapter of my life that I treasure. But I certainly think that having an abortion was the best thing I could have done in that situation. And I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever, nor am I scarred by the experience. I think it’s really important to assert that. Because the generation of women before us, they could do things like have an abortion or have sex in ways that are conceived as promiscuous, so long as they felt bad about it afterward or have been, like, oh, but what I was really looking for was love. When really it’s — a lot of times what I was really looking for was sex.”
–Cheryl Strayed on the balance between claiming responsibility for your actions and apologizing for yourself. This is just a snippet from an interview published in The Millions. I highly recommend reading the entire interview. At least twice. And if you haven’t already, I implore you to read Wild and Tiny Beautiful Things, Cheryl’s collection of Dear Sugar columns from The Rumpus. She is my inspiration/life hero at the moment. Amelia and I went to see her speak a couple of weeks ago and the best thing she said, which has been my mantra ever since, was: “True motherfuckerhood has to do with being humble.” [The Millions]
Advice columnists are usually detestable on principle. So often they dish out finger-wagging judgment rather than empathy and a nuanced understanding of the complexities of human nature. TheRumpus.net’s Dear Sugar column — which was revealed earlier this year to be penned by author Cheryl Strayed — is beloved by readers for this very reason. It’s an advice column, but feels like therapy, church and your mother’s loving arms all at once. Whether you’re lovesick, drowning in debt, or riddled with professional jealousy, Dear Sugar understands and she wants to help. [$10.17, Amazon]