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Dear Wendy: “I’m Tired Of Always Feeling Used By Guys”

I am a 21-year-old female college senior who has been physically involved with a guy for about three months. In the beginning, he told me how he thought I was “girlfriend material” and made it seem like he wanted to pursue a relationship, but after a few weeks, it became clear to me that all… More »


Girl Talk: I’m Not Looking For Casual Sex

Right after Ex-Mr. Jessica and I broke up around New Year’s, Tom*, a friend I’ve had for about four years asked if I wanted to go down to Washington, D.C., and visit him to get my mind off the breakup. I assumed there might be an ulterior motive there, but I was in pulling-my-hair-out, “Who… More »


Girl Talk: I Am Going On A Sex/Dating/Drinking Sabbatical

After much thought and Advil, I have decided I am going on a sex/dating and drinking sabbatical. I went on a six-month sex sabbatical after my breakup from my fiance a few years ago — or, rather, I announced I was going on a six-month sex sabbatical and then it lasted for, I think, around… More »


Dater X: Shaking Off The Pressure To Kiss Someone On New Year’s Eve

Last night, while out to dinner with friends, my phone rang—a rare occurrence in a world where phones are amazing for organizing schedules and arranging text messages into adorable dialogue bubbles, but aren’t so hot at providing a clear pathway for two people to talk. I recognized the area code immediately, though I had deleted… More »


Are You More Willing To Have A One-Night Stand On New Year’s Eve?

I’ve had a few one-night stands in my life. Don’t look so surprised! But I have never had a one-night stand on New Year’s Eve, which, according to a study conducted by “intimacy” products manufacturer Wet (creative naming!), is the night the majority of women would have one. According to the study, 33 percent of… More »


Dater X: Why Does Sex Change Everything?

As Scruffy Beard began unhooking my bra, a panic signal went off in my head. Uh oh, Dater X, I thought to myself. This is your third date and you are straddling him in a chair. Your shirt is across the room, and you can feel his hard-on through his pants. You are on aMore »


Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Repulses Me”

When I asked my current boyfriend out, I was very clear to explain that I wanted something casual and certainly not monogamous. But somehow, he now thinks that we are a monogamous couple and is planning our future together. He keeps planning for events I don’t want to attend and talking as if we will… More »


Girl Talk: The Two-Night Stand

I met Elliot* at a restaurant. I was sitting at a table having dinner with a friend when I saw him sipping a bourbon at the bar. My palms got a little clammy, my jaw dropped slightly, and I may have even audibly gasped. “Hottest. Dude. Ever,” I announced to my friend. My mouth started… More »


Poll: Can Casual Sex Turn Into Romance?

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According To Stephen Fry, Women Only Have Sex To Get A Relationship

British Actor Stephen Fry is the latest in a line of celebs to quit Twitter, but is the first to do so because he didn’t like being called “sexist.” The actor, who’s not such a big deal in the U.S. (though I loved him as Oscar Wilde in the 1997 film Wilde) is a mega… More »


The Official Map Of Non-Monogamy

Click here for the full image.This map of non-monogamy makes me understand why so many people subscribe to monogamy … it’s way less complicated. I am going to go study for my non-monogamy pop quiz now. Dan Savage would be proud of me. [Tacit] … More »


For One-Night Stands: Men Are Into A Hot Bod, Not A Pretty Face

Attraction is complicated – it’s about his personality, how he smiles, how he moves, and so much more. But in that first initial encounter it’s all about the face, right? Well, this may come as the no-duh news of the week, but for dudes it depends. A recent psychology study out of the University ofMore »


Can Casual Hookups Really Lead To Love?

A new study from the University of Iowa found that casual hookups are a perfectly acceptable way of stumbling into a happy relationship. Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances reported being just as happy in their relationships as people who waited until things were more serious to make the beast with two… More »


Dear Wendy: “I Caught My Husband Perusing The Casual Encounters Ads On Craigslist”

The other day I got home and “caught” my husband perusing the casual encounters ads on Craigslist. He’s done this in the past and tells me he does it when he feels rejected by me sexually. We have sex three to four times a week. He told me he hasn’t contacted anybody. Since he’s not… More »


Dear Wendy: “My Booty Call Got Me Pregnant”

I have been (VERY) casually dating this guy since March. I met him at a bar and started to hang out every week or so — nothing too serious. I work all the damn time and I really don’t want a relationship, so this has been fun, plus the sex is really amazing. Anyway, I… More »


10 Women Weigh In On Casual Sex With An Ex

We’re back to that very interesting debate when it comes to our exes: Is it OK to have casual sex with an ex or is it better to not go there? After the jump, 10 women share their thoughts about ex-ing and sex-ing. What do you think about casual ex sex? Share your thoughts in… More »


Girl Talk: I’m In The Market For A FWB

Here is a fact: I have never had a f**k buddy/friend with benefits. This is likely for the same reason it’s become common knowledge that I am incapable of having a one-night stand without getting a case of the sadz — I cannot stop myself from associating sex with love. The nature of a f**k… More »


If You’ve Got One “Friend With Benefits,” You Probably Have Two

Another day, another wasteful scientific study about “hooking up.” According to a new University of Iowa study on “”The Contexts of Sexual Involvement and Concurrent Sexual Partnerships,” people who are engaged in a “friends with benefits” relationship are more likely to have sex with other people outside that relationship. In other words, a bunch of… More »