I met Elliot* at a restaurant. I was sitting at a table having dinner with a friend when I saw him sipping a bourbon at the bar. My palms got a little clammy, my jaw dropped slightly, and I may have even audibly gasped. “Hottest. Dude. Ever,” I announced to my friend. My mouth started to salivate. He was dreamy.
“Where?” my friend asked.
“There. At the bar,” I said. “The one with the facial hair and the scarf around his neck. The one who is obviously the sexiest guy this place has ever seen.” He was good-looking in the way that would make even the most poised woman act like a horny teenage boy, stopping to do a double and triple take and choke back a catcall. Keep reading »
British Actor Stephen Fry is the latest in a line of celebs to quit Twitter, but is the first to do so because he didn’t like being called “sexist.” The actor, who’s not such a big deal in the U.S. (though I loved him as Oscar Wilde in the 1997 film Wilde) is a mega personality in England, an accomplished actor, comedian, writer and host of BBC quiz show “QI.” The Twitter kiss-off to his 1,910,676 followers was in response to getting called out by bloggers for the following remarks he made in an interview with Attitude magazine recently: “I feel sorry for straight men. The only reason women will have sex with them is that sex is the price they are willing to pay for a relationship with a man, which is what they want.”
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This map of non-monogamy makes me understand why so many people subscribe to monogamy
… it’s way less complicated. I am going to go study for my non-monogamy pop quiz now. Dan Savage
would be proud of me. [Tacit
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Attraction is complicated – it’s about his personality, how he smiles, how he moves, and so much more. But in that first initial encounter it’s all about the face, right? Well, this may come as the no-duh news of the week, but for dudes it depends. A recent psychology study out of the University of Texas shows both men and women consider the face the most important indicator of attraction when it comes to long-term relationships, but when it comes to one-night stands, men are more interested in a woman’s body. Keep reading »
A new study from the University of Iowa found that casual hookups are a perfectly acceptable way of stumbling into a happy relationship. Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances reported being just as happy in their relationships as people who waited until things were more serious to make the beast with two backs. But (of course there’s a “but”) this was true only if both people were open to having a serious relationship. Ooooh, I get it. Both people have to want to have a relationship for a relationship to happen. What a revelation. Yeah, I conducted this study myself throughout my 20s and discovered exactly the same thing. Sorry to bother you — go back to whatever it was you were doing, you sexy single. [Salon] Keep reading »
We’re back to that very interesting debate when it comes to our exes: Is it OK to have casual sex with an ex or is it better to not go there? After the jump, 10 women share their thoughts about ex-ing and sex-ing. What do you think about casual ex sex? Share your thoughts in the comments. Keep reading »
Here is a fact: I have never had a f**k buddy/friend with benefits. This is likely for the same reason it’s become common knowledge that I am incapable of having a one-night stand without getting a case of the sadz — I cannot stop myself from associating sex with love. The nature of a f**k buddy situation is that the two people involved like each other as people and as sex objects, but not as boyfriend/girlfriend material. The difference between a friends with benefits situation and a one-night-stand, of course, is that usually in the case of FWB, the two people involved already know each other and, in theory, have ruled out any interest in the other person as a potential mate, at least for the time being. Now, I’ve had one-night-stands with friends and thankfully have maintained those friendships even after our clothes were back on, but a successful, ongoing, fun friends with benefits situation has eluded me. Well, here’s a confession: I want one. Bad. Keep reading »