He found the receipt for the Manolos you blew half a paycheck on, and the resulting confrontation wasn’t pretty. You called him a penny-pinching tightwad. He said you’re wasteful and irresponsible. Is this relationship doomed? And are we really fighting about high heels, or is there something deeper going on?
According to Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., relationship expert and host of “The Love Doctor,” a popular radio show, seven out of 10 couples report that money causes tension in their relationship. She reports that in the early years of a relationship, money is the number one issue of conflict. Keep reading »
Your honeymoon bags are unpacked and your tan is starting to fade. He’s getting used to picking up Tampax at the grocery store, and you’re getting used to picking up his toenail clippings from the bathroom floor. Hello, real life. It’s time for the next challenge: combining finances.
Financial experts agree that because money-related issues cause the most friction among couples, the best thing a new couple can do is bare all when discussing money. We consulted Stacy Johnson, financial expert and author of Life or Debt, for some specific advice on how to let go of a lifetime of going dutch, and embrace creating a budget for two. Keep reading »
Are you and your love shopping for a puppy? Relocating to a new city, so you can finally be together? Apartment hunting for two? Expecting some permanent bling on your left hand soon? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then grab your dude and two Venti lattes and get comfy on the nearest park bench. You two need to spend some time discussing the “m-word.” But tell him not to sweat it — we’re not talking marriage. First, it’s all about money. Keep reading »
My husband works in sales, and when he gets a commission check, I’m halfway to the mall before it even hits our account. But while my first response is to go shopping, the only -ing he’s thinking about is saving. We have yet to get into a physical tug-of-war over the check, but honestly, we’ve come close. Understandably, having opposing money philosophies is common in relationships; I’m thinking my situation’s sounding awfully familiar to all kinds of ladies out there. To get tips on how to prevent differing spending habits from causing discord with your guy, I consulted dating coach Lori Gorshow and financial expert J.D. Roth of the personal finance blog Get Rich Slowly. If you find yourself in my situation, here’s how to cope … Keep reading »
Did tax day hit your wallet hard this year? Even if you’re dating on a budget, your social life need not become nonexistent. There are plenty of fun, creative and cheap ideas for dates. Consider these inexpensive recommendations, adjusting them to your personal preferences. Keep reading »
It seems that all anyone is talking about lately is the economy, so why is money still such a tough topic to discuss with your nearest and dearest? They say married couples fight over money more than anything else, but what about when you just started dating? That’s possibly even more awkward. Keep reading »
In light of our strained economy, how can you keep your love life intact and still scale back on spending? Whether playing the field or in a couple, there are a number of free (or cheap) ways to mind your wallet without sacrificing your dating life. After all, a recession won’t keep you from finding love; it’ll just make you more creative! Keep reading »
There was a time in my life when I actually looked forward to tax season. Like most people, I had taxes withheld from each paycheck, so that when tax time rolled around each year, I was guaranteed a nice little refund. I’d collect my W-2s, spend an hour or so filling out paperwork on a cold February afternoon, and voila: a few weeks later I’d have a check from the government I’d quickly blow on impractical shoes, a haircut and half a month’s rent. If I was feeling really responsible, I might sock away half the refund for a “rainy day,” which for my 20-something, job-hopping self meant impetuously quitting a boring job without having another lined up, because, Hey! I’m rich! I just got my tax refund, which is basically the same thing as winning the lottery! Keep reading »
Even though it’s 2010, when you’re in a relationship where you’re out-earning your man, it can make you feel all Peggy Olson, threatening the sharkskin suits off those ass-slapping, whiskey-drinking male ad execs – except that the ego-bruising’s going on in your bedroom, not the boardroom. If your guy’s got size-related inadequacy issues that have nothing to do with what’s in his pants and everything to do with what’s in his checking account, here’s how to keep it from ruining your relationship. Keep reading »