In the new Atlantic, a male author lampoons Jodi Picoult and Jennifer Weiner, “Two writers whose work is often referred to as chick lit,” for tweeting and commenting that white male literary darlings (like Jonathan Franzen) get all the good ink. Yet the only thing less fun than not being taken seriously by the big boys is not being taken anywhere at all. I know since I tried to sell out for decades when nobody was buying. Keep reading »
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Recently, during a weekly therapy session, my doc and I were doing our thing, talkin’ ’bout boys, my frustration with the ones I have met, and my recent relapse into dreaming about my ex; I was telling her that sometimes, despite being a relatively solitary person who enjoys time alone, I get overwhelmed with loneliness. I miss something I don’t have anymore, that feeling of deep companionship.
It’s something we’ve talked about often in the last year and a half since my biggie breakup; during that time, as my loneliness and grief waxed and waned, my career has thrived. The Frisky has become more successful than I dared to have dreamed when we first started it and I’m noodling with the idea of writing a book; both work and personal projects keep me busy and sometimes I feel like I need to pinch myself to confirm that my professional aspirations have been met with truly thrilling results. Keep reading »
Hallelujah! It’s Friday, and that means one thing: Happy Hour. You go out after work, the boss treats everybody to a round and you loosen up a bit. You spend a lot of time with your co-workers, and you always enjoy having a few beers on a Friday evening. But is there a line? After the jump, read more and tell us how you act when you’re out with your fellow employees. Keep reading »
I am 21 and just got accepted to grad school studying architecture after being placed on the wait-list. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and although he is supportive in me becoming an architect, he told me that if I was going to go to grad school in the fall he thinks that maybe we should go our separate ways. We both just finished our undergrad degrees and he wants to work and live together and earn some money and he thinks that me going to school will keep us in this money rut that we have been in for the last year. I do agree that our financial stability is lacking to say the least, but my goal was always to go straight to grad school after undergrad. He thinks that me choosing to go to school is abandoning our original plan of working on our finances and he fears that I will turn into one of those people who chooses their profession over their relationship. But I just can’t make the choice between him and my profession because both are equally important to me. I think that if I abandoned either of them I would always think about what could have been. How do I know what’s right? — Aspiring Architect
You know the saying. Well, now it seems blondes not only have more fun, but they’re paid better, too. Researchers found that brunettes and redheads make seven percent less than blondes do, though the reasoning simply cannot be determined. Olga Uskova, president of the International Blondes Association, explains it by saying,”We also do better in the workplace because when we make a mistake we can say, ‘Oh, sorry about that, it’s because I’m blonde’ and get away with it.” While ditziness can hardly be a reason for an inflated rate of pay, you have to wonder why those yellow-haired ladies are earning more. Should we all go into job interviews with fake blonde wigs and then return to our regular roots after the contract and salary has been determined? And if this tidbit of research is true, what’s with all the actresses giving up their blonde locks and going brunette recently? [Telegraph] Keep reading »
Recently, I read a Tweet from someone — oh, fine, it was Julia Allison — who had just finished reading the Vogue interview with Gisele Bundchen and said she challenged anyone to tell her the woman didn’t have it all. OK, I’ll bite. I’m definitely not convinced the woman has it all. Sure, she’s drop-dead beautiful, rich, famous, has a successful career, and is married to a hot football star whom she has a brand-new baby with, but so what? Two weeks ago you could have said Sandra Bullock had it all, too, and looked what happened there. And call me cynical, but I have a hard time believing that a guy like Tom Brady, a handsome professional athlete who, let’s not forget, left his ex-girlfriend, Bridget Moynahan, when she was pregnant with their first baby to hook up with Gisele, is like some super committed, stand-up guy who would never dream of cheating on his wife. Please! So, no, I wouldn’t say Gisele necessarily “has it all.” But, what is having it all, anyway? Keep reading »
New York Methodist Hospital OBGYN Josine Veca has seen it all. Here she tells The Frisky why she decided to pursue medicine and what to expect if you’re considering a career caring for women’s health.
The Frisky: Why did you choose to become an OBGYN?
Dr. Josine Veca: I love it. I guess it came as a result of working for an inner city hospital and doing baby deliveries left and right. I had a lot of empathy and compassion for my patients and it was nice seeing those kids again over the years. I like taking care of people. I get to go to other countries to do medical work. It’s a great field. It’s a life-giving field. My older sister is a social worker who works with people who are close to dying. It’s an interesting contrast. Keep reading »
Regular Frisky readers will recognize the name Ami Angelowicz — she’s one of our bloggers and the genius mind behind our “Decode My Dream” column. But at the young age of 31, Ami has had three careers — actress, teacher, and now writer. Before she started penning for The Frisky, she was a working actress in L.A. when she made the decision to go back to school to pursue a Master’s in Counseling Psychology. After the jump, Ami explains how going back to school for psych made her an awesome drama teacher, not to mention a thoughtful writer we’re psyched to call one of our own. Keep reading »
I used to be defined by one singular character: ambition. As early as 9th grade, I knew that I wanted to be a journalist who wrote long-form investigative articles. And for nine or 10 years, everything about my life was focused around that one goal: where I went to school, how I spent my “free” time, who my friends were, even whom I dated. It’s not an exaggeration to say my drive consumed my life — and I was perfectly OK, even pleased, with that. I seriously believed that at long last I would finally be happy when people bought magazines with my writing in them.
The thing is, ambition for ambition’s sake turns out to be a hollow way to live one’s life. It’s a means to an end, of course, but considering that the target you are shooting for is constantly shifting, it can also be exhausting. Don’t misunderstand me: I’m proud of my accomplishments — articles I’ve written, interviews I’ve conducted, maybe a few lives I’ve affected. But if I could go back in time and change a few things, I just might do it.
And the first thing that I would change? I would not have dated so many men whose careers I envied. Life is hard enough when you’re putting unreasonable expectations on yourself to succeed, but it’s damn near impossible when you’re comparing yourself to someone you’re sleeping with. Keep reading »
Sara Benincasa is a comedian, writer, and radio personality. You’ve probably seen her on The Frisky in one of her crazy hilarious videos. But, once upon a time, she was a high school teacher. Not unlike Michelle Pfeiffer in “Dangerous Minds,” but with far less Coolio.
We talked to Sara about why she decided to go into teaching, what she found out, and what it takes to tackle the toughest, most important job out there. Keep reading »