Modern American ladies are faced with a new phenomenon that has a real chuckle-worthy title coined by the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: “choosing briefcase over baby.” Us girls are receiving 57 percent of all Bachelor’s degrees and 60 percent of all Masters’ degrees and we’re apparently rewarded for our efforts with a scarcity of “suitable” men to marry. When the ratio of degree-holding women to men drastically changes, women delay baby-making and instead go paper-chasing. Keep reading »
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- Young women ages 18 to 34 want a career and to earn good money moreso than their male counterparts do, according to a new report from the Pew Research Center. The recent study says two-thirds of women prioritize advancing their career, while 15 years ago it was closer to half of all young women who felt that way. Watch out, boys! [Los Angeles Times]
- Oklahoma’s “fetal personhood” bill, which would have granted personhood status to fertilized eggs, has failed in the state Legislature. “Fetal personhood” bills would criminalize all abortion and IVF treatments. [Reuters]
- Tennessee’s House of Representatives has advanced an anti-abortion bill that would allow prosecutors to charge someone for harming an embryo — the cells that form into a fetus up to eight weeks after conception. Harming a “viable fetus” — as in, an eight-month’s pregnant woman who is murdered — is already illegal in the state, so this current bill is a clear attack on abortion rights by trying to define an embryo as a “person.” [Think Progress]
- Conservative commentator Michelle Malkin was on “Fox & Friends” spewing nonsense about, as she put it, “feminist myths about this so-called wage gap.” [Mediaite] Keep reading »
Women Who Go Into The Workforce Are Ugly, According To Rush Limbaugh’s Wildly Inaccurate Twisting Of Study
I’m fairly certain that Rush Limbaugh could take Goodnight, Moon and twist it into a tale of shrill harpies hellbent on John Bobbitt-ing the male species and strangling newborn babies with their long, flowing strands of armpit hair.
That is the only explanation for his wildly inaccurate (and, it should go without saying, wildly sexist) April 16 interpretation of a study published this month in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. According to Rush, the study concluded “the real reason women pursue careers is because they fear they are too unattractive to get married.” (He also wondered, “Is this the real reason liberal women insist on working?”)
According to the actual study … not so much.
I am a writer. I have been a writer since age eight, when I penned a dramatic tale about a girl who gets asked to the prom by the school bully. He turns out to be really nice, and they end up getting married. It was daring, featured some witty dialogue, and suggested an attraction to bad boys that never played out in real life. It also suggested something else—my classic, boring, old-fashioned interest in getting married and living happily ever after, in that order. Keep reading »
What do you do when one of the things you used to like about yourself the most, looking back, becomes one of the things that you like about yourself the least?
From as young as I can remember, a rocket ship of ambition propelled me forward in all that I did. I didn’t — and still don’t — have a wide variety of interests, because writing was where I excelled. I threw everything into it. My parents, of course, fanned the flames of this. They loved having a daughter who made them proud.
And I loved getting some attention. My older brother Eliot*, his bipolar disorder and his drug and alcohol addictions, consumed most of my parents’ energy and nearly all of their attention. I wrote a poem when I was 13 or 14 that I can remember to this day because it still applies to my life sometimes. It was called “Measuring Cups” and it was about parents struggling to measure out love and attention equally amongst their children, but failing. When I was that young, the best way I could find attention, short of developing a heroin addiction myself, was to impress my parents with awards and articles and prizes and accolades. There was no confusion about this lifestyle, no hard choices to make. All I had to do was whatever made me look the best. Keep reading »
I’ve been dating this guy I really like for a couple months and things are going well. He’s 35, I’m 29. He’s pretty successful, and most of his friends are too. Like, really successful. Me? I’m a receptionist at a law firm and I’m going to school online for social services. I’ll be done in 2013. My problem is I’m super self-conscious around his friends because my job sounds pretty pathetic. (I know I can find a new job that I’m happier with, but that’s another conversation. I have a loose plan.) I’m meeting his family in a few weeks and I’m soo nervous. Keep reading »
I would not be blogging about the various and amusing differences between dudes and chicks for fun and profit if it were not for a boss who dressed like she was ready to hit a late-’90s girl power soft rock music festival at a moment’s notice.
When I moved to New York 15 years ago, I was lucky to find any work. I had no connections, no money, and no marketable skills. I had a degree in playwriting which qualified me to brood. I was too sweaty to wait tables, too goofy to work in sales, and when the temp agency put me in front of a computer, I looked like a monkey with a Rubik’s cube. I tied my only tie with all of the grace of a hangman. That tie was baboon ass red. Keep reading »
Earlier this week, Forbes.com’s blogger Susannah Breslin — who used to be one of The Frisky’s own! — wrote a piece called “How to Get a Job If You’re a Twentysomething Woman,” after a reader named Frances asked her for advice on the topic. Susannah’s first bit of advice — and the one that has garnered a whole boatload of varied reactions — was “be attractive.” Keep reading »
- Having dinner at your boss’s house? Here are 10 things you probably shouldn’t say. For my employees, I’ll add an 11th: “I hate dogs.” [The Grindstone]
- Can telling your significant other that they’re fat be a sign of true love? What if your SO is seriously obese and giving it to them straight could motivate them to get in shape and save their own life? [The Stir]
- Tomorrow is 11/11/11 — here’s why it might not be such a great day to get married … not that any of you who actually are set to wed have time to change your plans. [Huffington Post]
- “Glee” covered Adele on last night’s episode; what do you think of their rendition of “Someone Like You”? [TooFab]
- Can diseases be sexy? Adult Swim thinks so, and they’ve found eight that qualify. Pica? Really? [Adult Swim] Keep reading »
As long as I can remember, I haven’t liked change. I preferred to be unhappy or uncomfortable in routine rather than try something new because I was scared or didn’t know the outcome.
In 2009, after two years in non-profit media, rather than look for something new that put my journalism degree to use, I jumped at the chance of a promotion within the company.
Fast forward to 2011, and I was deeply unhappy with my position in Development. Keep reading »