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Jill Abramson, The NYTimes‘ First Female Executive Editor Was Fired — What Does This Mean For The Rest Of Us?

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Yesterday afternoon, the news broke that Jill Abramson, the executive editor of The New York Times and the first-ever woman to hold that position, was leaving her position. Managing editor Dean Baquet would be replacing her, making him the first-ever African-American executive editor at the Times.

Jill Abramson had been managing editor at the Times (the number two position) since 2003 and before that was the Washington, D.C. bureau chief and an investigative reporter. She was appointed executive editor at the Times back in June 2011. If you don’t give a shit about the NYC media scene, the news may have simply looked like a personnel issue, indistinguishable from any other revolving door news item. But details about Abramson’s tenure and exit point to something bigger — shedding light on how the Times may have mistreated its first female executive editor and illustrating what it still means today to be a woman in power.   Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Porn Stars Learn They Can’t Bank On Chase

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I’ve written before about issues around payment processors and the sex industry, how businesses like Paypal, WePay and Google Wallet were shutting anyone they suspected of sex work out of using their services.

Well, turns out that a trickle down effect is happening within the banking world, as Chase recently sent letters out to hundreds of porn performers telling them their bank accounts would be shut down May 11th. Perez Hilton posted a photo of one of these letters from adult performer Teagan Presley, and while I am somewhat loath to link to his blog, I think it’s important to read the language. You’ll notice that Chase never specifically cites adult work in their decision, just that they “reviewed the account and determined that we will be closing it on May 11, 2014. Please accept our apologies for the inconvenience.”

I’m sure they’re terribly sorry. Just as they were really apologetic for refusing to process payments for Lovability CEO Tiffany Gaines. Her crime? Selling condoms, because they’re “adult-oriented material”. The same adult oriented material, of course, as Trojan, who could process their payments with no issues through Chase, but never mind. As long as they’re really sorry about it. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On The “Confidence Gap” & Women Undermining Other Women

The Soapbox: On The "Confidence Gap" & Women Undermining Other Women

Last week, ABC News reporter Claire Shipman and BBC World News American anchor Katty Kay published an essay in The Atlantic called “The Confidence Gap” about the divide in confidence between men and women. The piece is promoting their new book, The Confidence Code: The Science And Art Of Self-Assurance — What Women Should Know. The basic gist is that although women have proven themselves just as competent as men in higher education and in the workplace, we struggle with confidence in our abilities (even while men who lack those abilities are assuredly overconfident).

Predictably, these statements have set off a flurry of response pieces. On Al-Jazeera, Alice Driver criticized the book for setting the male status quo as the standard for women (as did Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In). Amanda Hess took a similar tack over at Slate’s Double X blog. Over at Jezebel, Tracy Moore argued there there’s no confidence crisis at all: “It’s just sexism.” Keep reading »

Not This Crap Again: Phyllis Schlafly Says Women Should Be Paid Less So We Find Husbands

It’s about time human mothball Phyllis Schlafly got tucked away in the attic of history. But somehow, someway, the anti-feminist and founder of the uber-conservative Eagle Forum is still sharing dumb, archaic ideas that were rejected by society over half a century ago. Her latest batch of craziness is an op-ed in the Christian Post about how the “pay gap” is a bunch of bunk. Women just don’t want to work as hard as men, you see! Men work at harder jobs! Oh, and also, what do ladies need money for anyway? Don’t we know paying our own bills ourselves scares away the menfolk? Keep reading »

Survey: Millennials Are Most Willing To Move For A Wife’s Job

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Some things do change for the better: a new survey found that more than half of millennials questioned said they would move if it benefitted their wife’s career. Compare that with 43 percent of Baby Boomers and 28 percent of pre-Boomers. The survey by Mayflower moving company didn’t provide many more specifics, but I’d be curious to know how millennial couples come to make those decisions. Does it have to do with money? Health benefits, 401K and perks? Cost of living? I would hope that all partners would hypothetically be willing to move for their loved one’s job, but there are dozens of tiny practical decisions that need to be made about it. I’m happy to report that I’m in one such relationship, though: my husband and I stayed in America instead of moving back to his home country of Australia in part because of my career here. Life of the modern woman. [USA Today] [Image of couple moving via Shutterstock]

If You’re Not Getting Paid Fairly, Maybe It’s Because Men Are “Better Negotiators,” Says Texas Republican Chief

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  • “Men are better negotiators,” according to Beth Cubriel (a woman!), the executive director of the Texas GOP Party. “I would encourage women, instead of pursuing the courts for action, to become negotiators.” Y’hear that ladies? Unequal pay is your fault because you didn’t negotiate well enough. [Huffington Post]
  • A new viral video shows a father beating his 13-year-old daughter with a belt, supposedly after she left from home for three days. Blogger Demetria Lucas explains why physical abuse of young women by their supposed male role models is teaching them all the wrong lessons. [The Root] Keep reading »

When A Woman Commits Suicide, Why Is Our First Instinct To Assume Something Went Wrong With Her Relationship?

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I hope that whoever is charged with fashion designer L’Wren Scott’s burial packs that dirt on deep. Because in the days since her tragic suicide at the age of 49, the media has done nothing but give Scott reasons to roll over in her grave.

I’m sure you’re well aware of the biggest reason: upon her death, The New York Times tweeted “Mick Jagger’s Girlfriend Found Dead, Official Says.” Scott designed gowns worn by Angelina Jolie and Michelle Obama, modeled for Calvin Klein and Chanel, created lipstick for Lancome, and collaborated with Banana Republic on a collection that sold out. But according to the Times‘ Twitter feed she amounted nothing more than some rock star’s girlfriend.

That’s sexist and irritating enough. But the other story missing here is one that concerns the “rock star girlfriend” angle, too: how everyone’s first assumption was that Mick Jagger was the reason that L’Wren Scott took her own life. Keep reading »

Frisky Rant: You Can Follow Your Dream Without Quitting Your Job In A Super Bowl Commercial

Frisky Rant: You Can Follow Your Dream Without Quitting Your Job In A Superbowl Commercial

First, let me say that I didn’t watch the Super Bowl for a couple of reasons: 1) I don’t like watching football, even though I’ve tried, and 2) I’ve discovered that it’s the absolute best time to run errands in New York City. No lines! I did, however, see the Go Daddy “I Quit” commercial featuring Gwen, a machine engineer who always dreamed of starting her own puppet business. One hundred million people, including Gwen’s boss Ted, saw her quit her job during the Super Bowl to start PuppetsByGwen.com. “Ciao, baby!” said Gwen, voicing one of her puppets. Keep reading »

Meet Glory, The Woman Who Wrote The Most Epic, Beyonce-Inspired “I Quit” Email You’ll Ever Read

Meet Glory, The Woman Who Wrote The Most Infamous, Beyonce-Inspired "I Quit" Email You'll Ever Read

“I was just living my truth at that moment. I pressed send and I felt so free,” said Glory, the woman who wrote an “I quit” email that puts Jerry Maguire to shame. On November 6th, the former associate editor  at PricewaterhouseCoopers (PwC), gave her notice with a no bullshit, hashtag-staurated, advice-giving, Beyonce worshipping missive that we’ve all dreamed of writing at some point in our lives (but would never have the balls to). Glory did a follow-up interview with Noir CPA that you can listen to here. She says while she’s received a lot of thank yous and accolades on social media, she’s been most shocked by all the racist reactions to her now infamous “I quit” email. When asked if she regrets pushing send, she responded:

“Contrary to public opinion,I didn’t have any emotional attachment to this email. I wasn’t mad or sad. I wasn’t in the moment writing this email. I had been planning to quit since I started…I didn’t quit because of a team, I quit because I genuinely hated the job…No, I don’t have any regrets.”

You can read Glory’s farewell manifesto in all of it’s, well, glory after the jump.  Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: How To Deal When Your Career Is Blowing Up And Your Boyfriend’s Isn’t

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Dating Don’ts: How To Deal When Your Career Is Blowing Up And Your Boyfriend's Isn't

Remember that episode of “Sex and the City” where Carrie got a big advance for her book while her boyfriend, Jack Berger, watched his flounder? He was so jealous of her success! And he didn’t want to be that guy! As much as “SATC” got basically every single thing about relationships wrong, they still managed to kind of nail this one. Sometimes you are dating that guy, and you are that woman. Your career is on the up and up, while he’s either stuck in a job with no mobility, or straight up unemployed.

We live in a time when women are increasingly likely to be the sole breadwinners in their families and, in some career paths, we even get paid as much or more than our male colleagues. Which is awesome. It’s exactly what we wanted.

But it can also cause tension in relationships because, to be honest, we haven’t really collectively agreed on how to deal with the shift; women have been conditioned to behave as if men have more money, more career ambition, and more promise, even as statistics prove that is less and less likely to be the case. Below are some tips for how to deal when you’re blowing up, but the person you’re dating isn’t. Keep reading »

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