Tag Archives: bullying

High Schooler Shares Heartbreaking Online Slutshaming Problem With NPR

On Slutshaming
It's about controlling women through guilt and shame. Read More »
Facebook Suicide
Teen kills herself over Facebook cyberbullying. Read More »
Bullies Of Tumblr
Against shaming guys from OK Cupid on Tumblr over their profiles. Read More »
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Adults blame victims of sexual crimes and indiscretions, asking “Why was she dressed like that?” or “Why did she drink so much?”

Adults also use the Internet for humiliation, like stocks in the town square.

And lest you forget, children are watching us and mimicking what we do. Don’t believe me? Just read this piece by 16-year-old high school student Temitayo Fagbenle, who explains how slutshaming on Facebook is an “every day” occurrence amongst her peers. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: The Self-Righteous Bullies Of Tumblr And Their Feminist Apologists

Shaming "Nice Guys"
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All about the Nice Guys Of OK Cupid Tumblr. Read More »
"Nice Guys" Who Rape
Intent isn’t everything, but it does matter. Read More »
Do Not Date These Guys
12 guys you shouldn't date in 2011. Read More »

I’d been planning to let the issue of the Nice Guys of OK Cupid blog on Tumblr slide. [NOTE: The blog has since been taken down.] It is pretty depressing from every perspective. I’d squabbled and grumbled about it on Twitter with a few people, and then thankfully the Christmas break pushed it out of my mind.

If it passed you by, the Tumblr scours the dating/social networking site OK Cupid for profiles of men and then posts their pictures (without permission) alongside selected quotes. The typical entry shows a less than attractive guy with a few quotes from his profile proclaiming himself a ‘nice guy’ who is fed up of being ‘friendzoned’ and then a ‘wrong’ answer from the set profile questionnaires such as “Should women feel an obligation to shave their legs? Yes.” Keep reading »

“Fat TV Anchor” Jennifer Livingston On “Ellen”

Fat News Anchor
Wisconsin news anchor responds to fat shamer's bullying letter. Read More »
Open Letter
Winona pens an open letter to the fat girl. Read More »
Beth Ditto Talks Fat
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Leave it to Beth Ditto to be the voice of reason on fatness. Read More »
Jennifer Livingston on Ellen
Jennifer Livingston on "Ellen"

If you thought Jennifer Livingston was the shit before, now you’re going to want to marry her. A video of the Wisconsin news anchor went viral last week when she responded to a random jerk’s cruel email complaining that she’s a bad influence on viewers, especially women, because she is obese. The man admitted he doesn’t even watch her news program, but went out of his way to concern-troll about her body and take her — and all women — down a peg. Livingston responded with both chutzpah and grace — not denying that she is overweight, but questioning the rudeness of this man to tell a stranger she should be ashamed of herself.

Yesterday, Jennifer Livingston visited “Ellen” to talk about her response, bullying, and how one cruel comment is one comment too many. Livingston also said  addressing this rude email was never about getting an apology from the man, although he did eventually apologize. It was about showing everyone who gets picked on that the bullies are the problem, not you. “Clearly I am not the shining example of perfect health and I never claimed to be,” Livingston said, “but that doesn’t mean my worth should be [makes small gesture] this big.”

Hear, hear. How rad is she?  [Ellen TV]

Wisconsin News Anchor Responds To Fat Shamer In Powerful, Inspiring Fashion

Gaga's Body Revolution
Gaga starts an important conversation about body image. Read More »
Anti-Bullying Vid
Jonah Mowry's anti-bullying video. Watch »
Sikh Woman Fights Back
This online bullying story has a happy ending! Read More »
"We are better than the bullies who try to take us down."

When I was in elementary school, I was teased constantly and mercilessly about my weight. Classmates called me fat, ugly, worthless, disgusting, and for awhile my official nickname seemed to be “tub of lard.” Pretty much every afternoon I’d get off the bus, wait until it had disappeared around the corner, and burst into tears.

When I saw this video of a Wisconsin news anchor named Jennifer Livingston responding confidently and unapologetically to a male viewer who sent her a fat-shaming email, I found myself tearing up once again–but this time, in a good way. That one viewer’s cruel words could have produced a quick sting and then faded away, but Livingston uses them as an opportunity to shine a light on our culture of bullying and take the power back. I wish my third grade self could have seen this, but more importantly, I want today’s third graders to see it. And Jennifer? You rock. Thank you. [Pajiba]

Sikh Woman Stands Up To Online Bullying About Her Facial Hair (And Gets Apology)

I'm A Sikh Woman
A Sikh woman explains how her faith is feminist. Read More »
  • Recently, a Sikh woman named Balpreet Kaur learned a photo of herself  had been posted on the “Funny” section of the website Reddit, where users mocked her facial hair, outfit and turban.  So she actually joined the comment thread to respond directly to the bullies to explain to them what’s what. “I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women,” Kaur wrote. “However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body – it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being (which is genderless, actually) and must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will.” And then the sincere apologies came. You mean to tell me something nice happened on the Internet?!?!  [Guardian UK]
  • Female editors-in-chief earn $15K less on average than men do, according to a compensation study from Folio magazine. [The Atlantic Wire] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: The Girls In The Clique (And How I Accidentally Flashed Them)

Friends We Need
Six types of friends every woman needs. Read More »
Childhood Frenemies
The crappy friends we once thought were awesome. Read More »
College Friendships
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Friendships at college aren't about having one big clique. Read More »

I didn’t know girls still did cliques at this age. I mean, I guess I could’ve figured it out, but I didn’t really give it much thought.

I was homeschooled, so I missed a lot of that stuff, which I’ve always felt lucky for. But no one can miss all of it.

It takes about two seconds of remembering to whip me back in time to the girls’ bathroom at the synagogue, where I am engaged in that most classic and venerable of traditions: crying helplessly, locked in a stall. It is my first day of Hebrew High School. I’m thirteen, and none of the other girls will talk to me. It’s not just implied, it’s outright. They cross the room to avoid me and then cluster together, whispering. Keep reading »

I Went Camping, And All I Got Was Harassed By The Police

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How do you respond? Read More »
Cops Warn Vs. Skirts
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NYC police warned women not to wear skirts to avoid a serial rapist. Read More »
Anti-Bullying Vid
Jonah Mowry's anti-bullying video. Watch »

There is a saying by artist Barbara Krueger Jenny Holzer that “abuse of power comes as no surprise,” and wow, was that true this weekend, when my friends and I went camping and got harassed by cops not once, but three times.

Contrary to popular opinion, bullying isn’t something that just happens to kids on a playground — adults can bully, too. You may have run into a bully in your office, or in your apartment building — someone who feels the need to suppress and oppress in order to feel better about themselves. Sometimes those people are your coworkers, or neighbors.

But sometimes those people are cops.

Keep reading »

Tyler Clementi’s Ex-Roommate Dharun Ravi Sentenced To 30 Days In Jail

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“I do believe he acted out of colossal insensitivity.” 

This was the judge who presided over the trial of Dharun Ravi, the former Rutgers University student who was convicted in March with a bias crime (hate crime) for spying on his roommate, Tyler Clementi (in the pic), with a web cam while Clementi had gay sex. When Clementi discovered that he was being spied on and “outed” to other Rutgers students, he committed suicide.

Today, Dharun Ravi was sentenced to 30 days in jail and possible deportation. (His family immigrated from India.) Update: Ravi is also required to serve 300 hours of community service, attend a counseling program for cyberbullying, and service three years probation. The sentencing brings to an end to an incident that has had a coalescing affect on the national conversation about bullying. Keep reading »

Model Commits Suicide After Internet Trolls Attack

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Bullying: it’s not just for kids. Claudia Boerner, 32, British model from a competitive cooking TV show, committed suicide recently, apparently because she being viciously attacked by Internet trolls. Trolls trashed Claudia’s appearance, ridiculed her “fake boobs,” and accused her of being an attention-seeking show-off on “The Perfect Dinner,” a cooking competition that airs in Germany.  A message on show’s website said they were shocked by her death and said Claudia Boerner “struck us as a friendly, open-minded young woman.”

It just goes to show all of us that no matter how someone presents herself or himself to the world, there is more going on underneath. You never know how a person may take your hurtful words. And, yes, writing nasty comments about people on the Internet — even absolute strangers — is bullying.  [Daily Mail UK]

It’s On: The Battle Over The “Bully” Rating Heads To Washington

The public outcry over the harsh R rating for the documentary Bully has hit a new level and headed straight to the Washington, D.C., headquarters of the people who granted that rating, the Motion Picture Association of America. In an attempt to quell criticism over the rating — which prevents the people who need to see this movie from seeing without adult supervision —the MPAA held a screening and panel discussion to try to convince the highly-influential guests who were invited (including Congressional Representatives) why the R rating was sound. The opposite happened, and now the MPAA is under fire on its own turf. Read more…

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