Tag Archives: breakups

The Top 10 Ways Men And Women Dump Each Other

How To Dump
There is a proper way to dump someone you're dating. Read More »
Guy Talk: Jerk
Why guys act like jerks when they break up with you. Read More »
Just Been Dumped?
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A survey done at through a UK dating site found the top ten breakup lines men and women use. Dating pros, I’m sure you’ve either heard these all or used them yourself. I feel the world’s longest eye roll coming on. And P.S. This is a wake-up call, we need to start coming up with some more original ways to dump each other because we suck at it. Find out what they are after the jump. For extra fun, take a shot for each line you’ve heard or used. I predict you’ll be wasted by the end of the list. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How I Staged A Pinterest Stalking Intervention

If Pinterest Was Real
A cautionary poem. Read More »
Pinterest & Feminism
Oh, please. Pinterest isn't "killing" feminism. Read More »
Pinterest Wedding
Pinterest wedding
Planning a wedding with Pinterest? Total nightmare! Read More »

We don’t always talk about it, but we certainly all do it. For better or worse, cyber-stalking has become part of the DNA of a breakup. If you thought a breakup was bad in 2002 when you had to run into the ex at school or work the next day and maybe bump into them with a new girlfriend at the movie theater, how could you ever have imagined waking up to their Caribbean vacation on Facebook or their morning jog on Twitter?

Google was the gateway drug. It allowed us just a taste of personal information. And then Facebook, more so than either of its primogenitures, Friendster or MySpace, made shit real. The ability to “watch” an ex’s life post-you like it was a mid-market mimeo of “The Bachelor” made a breakup all the more heart-rending.

Twitter just facilitated that process. The updates moved into real time. You could know what an ex and a new girlfriend were up to at almost every second of the day. Did they both read the same Onion story? Did they meet in the park for lunch? Why the hell did he take her to that Ethiopian place that YOU introduced him to? WHY?

If you thought that was bad, you ain’t seen nothing yet my friends. Welcome to the latest frontier in social cyber-stalking, the one that might be the most dangerous of them all — Pinterest stalking. Keep reading »

We’re Breaking Up: Woman Finds Ex-Boyfriend Living In Her Attic 12 Years After Their Breakup

WBU: Drunk Crocs Prez
The president of Crocs got drunk and claimed Taylor Swift was his GF. Read More »
WBU: Meth And Crisco
No, dude. Meth and Crisco do not go well together. Read More »
WBu: He Has 30 Kids
That's just too many kids. Read More »
WBU: Dead Chinchilla
You don't even want to know what he did with a dead chinchilla! Read More »

The title of this post is somewhat of a misnomer because the South Carolina woman who discovered her ex-boyfriend had been living in her attic had already broken up with him 12 years ago. So maybe it would be more accurate to have titled it “You’re Getting Evicted From My Crawlspace”? Keep reading »

Hitched: Getting Through The Rough Patches

Amy & Will Grief
The five stages of grief over Amy Poehler and Will Arnett's breakup. Read More »

I woke up last Sunday morning — well, I don’t know that I was truly awake, but at least I wasn’t in bed any more — and stumbled to the kitchen for a giant glass of water with which to defuzz my thoroughly whiskey-fied mouth. In my hangover haze, I glanced across the living room to the coffee table, which held two empty glasses and a piece of old mail with my late-night scrawl on the back. It was a playlist.

We’d started with Darius Rucker’s new single, “True Believers,” because Patrick and I are true believers in pop country music. Now we are, anyways — I used to have more than a little detached irony mixed in with my Kenny Chesney appreciation, but that’s long since disappeared over the years of my relationship with Patrick, whose genuine love for the genre is both charming and contagious.

It’s becoming something of a tradition for the two of us: we spend a Saturday evening hanging out at the bar with a group of Austin feminists and allies that meet monthly to shore up our belief in the world being a livable place, and then we come home, drink whiskey on the rocks and watch music videos for hours. We sing along. We dance with each other. We trade stories about where we were when this or that song was popular. We debate the musical merits of the Zack Brown Band as musical successor to Jimmy Buffet. Keep reading »

6 Lame Excuses For Not Unfriending Your Ex On Facebook

Facebook Stalker?
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The Ex Run-In
Ami shares thoughts on ex run-ins. Read More »
FB Friends To Keep
Because they're so fun to stalk! Read More »

A couple of years after my fiancé and I broke up, I received a friend request from him on Facebook. I guess it made sense. While I’d decided that being real world friends didn’t quite work for me, I wasn’t exactly hating him either. So when I saw the friend request, I momentarily thought about accepting it. It would be the mature thing to do, right? Wrong. The mature thing to do is whatever moves you forward into a peaceful, calm, and happy existence. And looking at my ex’s new life wouldn’t help with that. So I did not accept.

Some couples are instant and true friends after their breakup. I don’t happen to know any of them, but rumor has it they exist. If those ex-couples want to be Facebook friends, so be it. But the rest of us should defriend, at least for awhile. Here are 6 of the lamest excuses for not unfriending your ex on Facebook.

1. I want to see if he says anything bad about me. Ahh, so you’re conducting your own public relations control campaign by monitoring your ex’s wall. Well, here’s a thought: If your ex is gauche enough to share anything negative about you with all of his Facebook friends, then that reflects badly on only one person: Him.  Read more …

Girl Talk: If You’re Going To Dump Me, Do It Over The Phone

He Explains...
Why I'll act like a jerk if I break up with you... Read More »
Get Over A Breakup
How to get over a breakup, according to John DeVore. Read More »
Why He Dumped Me
Do you really need to know why he dumped you? Read More »

We’d like to believe that the best way to break up with a person is to sit down with them face-to-face and have an honest, open discussion about why you feel the relationship should no longer continue. After a calm, mature discussion, you will both come to the amicable conclusion that the relationship isn’t working for either of you. You’ll share a friendly hug, and part ways saying, “I’m so glad we’re still friends.”

Can someone tell me on what planet this actually happens? I’d like to go there. It sounds tranquil and civilized. Keep reading »

Guy Talk: Why I’ll Act Like A Jerk If I Break Up With You

How To Dump
There is a proper way to dump someone you're dating. Read More »
Guy Talk: First Date
There was a reason he never called you after that great first date. Read More »
Get Over A Breakup
How to get over a breakup, according to John DeVore. Read More »

In the 2007 remake of “3:10 to Yuma,” Christian Bale’s character loses his leg while fighting in the Civil War. As compensation, the government gives him a sum of money, which he uses to attempt to forge a new life. After he fails miserably, he realizes that the government never actually cared about helping him. They just wanted to erase any obligation they had. He sums up his disillusionment more cynically than anything Batman ever came up with: The government didn’t give him the money so he could walk away. They gave him the money so they could walk away.

Recently, I discovered that the same idea applies to dating. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: All My Bad Relationships Went On Too Long

Dating Red Flags
guys
These red flags should send you running. Read More »

I dated my first boyfriend for about two years. Our relationship started when I was 15. Over the course of those two years, I saw him for … like five days. Total. We were long-distance. We used to write these very, very dramatic love letters to one another. He couldn’t spell, but he clearly conveyed how much he loved me through a series of poems punctuated entirely by exclamation points. I finally broke up with him because—OK, I can’t remember why. I think I was just really bored. Maybe my writing hand got cramped. Keep reading »

Post-Breakup Rebound? Why Men Move On So Fast

When I use the words “men” and “rebound” in the same sentence, male minds might quickly conjure up thoughts of their favorite NBA teams. Women, however, understand that I am addressing the phenomenon of rushing into a new relationship after the dissolution of an old one. And while men aren’t the only ones guilty of this relationship ricochet, they are, by far, the most-likely to engage in this particular type of reactionary behavior.

So, what causes men to so quickly move from a break-up with you to the arms of another woman? Read more …

10 Signs You Might Be Suffering From Post-Breakup Insanity

Ugly Breakups
When breakups get ugly. Read More »
Moving On
Here are some tips for moving on after a breakup. Read More »
Getting Closure
8 Ways To Get Closure
8 ways to get closure in a relationship. Read More »

After a particularly bad breakup, most of us would admit to some crazy behavior. Of course, crazy is in the eye of the beholder … or the receiver. It may start innocently enough with drunken texts, Facebook stalking or obsessing over your need for closure. Unfortunately, every once and a while, a breakup sends even the most level-headed woman into a tailspin.

According to the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), there are nearly 400 diagnosable mental disorders — none of which have anything to do with the sudden onset of insanity after a breakup. Even doctors can get it wrong sometimes. In 1974, the APA removed homosexuality from the DSM as a mental disorder (thank you!), and they’ve added new disorders to the list since, such as Frotteurism (behaviors involving touching and rubbing against a non-consenting person). While a bad breakup probably won’t induce Frotteurism, it can cause seemingly intelligent, beautiful, educated, wonderful women to lose control. For the DSM-V, which comes out next year, I would like to offer up a new disorder for consideration — Post-Breakup Insanity, or PBI. Keep reading »

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