Posts tagged "breakups"

Dater X: Missing Him Or Missing The Idea Of Him?

Well, I successfully made it through Valentine’s Day without needing Xanax or calling an ex-boyfriend, so I’d say it was a great success. But before I headed out on February 14th for a singles’ feast and game night with some of my favorite ladies, I heard from Officer Handsoming. Shocked to see his name appear…

Dater X 2.0 / February 19, 2014

Dater X: Another One Bites The Dust

Officer Handsoming arrived at my apartment with a carton of chicken noodle soup in one hand and a greasy bag of french fries in the other, unsure which I preferred when nursing a hangover.

How thoughtful, I said to myself while we plopped down on my couch to watch “Silver Linings Playbook.” I…

Dater X 2.0 / February 12, 2014

Date-Ade Episode #8: On Jackhammering & Jackasses

Hello again. After an extra long hiatus, Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, is back! Today, I share my thoughts on Vickie’s delusional boyfriend … well, ex-boyfriend.
If you have a sex, dating or relationship quandary that you’d like for me to try to unravel (no promises), send your questions to

Ami Angelowicz / January 30, 2014

Guys, Please Don’t Quote “Batman” In Your Breakup Text

In case you needed a reminder, it’s widely considered poor etiquette to plagiarize a breakup text message. Especially from a scene in “The Dark Knight Rises.” Especially if the woman you’re dumping has seen the movie. In fact, just don’t send a breakup text at all. There are other ways to get the job done.

Ami Angelowicz / January 4, 2014

Katy Perry Has Some Breakup Advice For You & It Involves Flamin’ Hot Cheetos

They say experience is the greatest teacher, and Katy Perry has sure had a lot of it so far. As Marie Claire’s January cover girl, Katy shared the wealth of lessons she learned through her highly public divorce from Russell Brand. When she was asked for a divorce via text message (did anyone else watch the marriage’s

Claire Hannum / December 10, 2013

Divorced Woman Charts The Pain Of A Breakup … Literally

Everyone has their own special way of trying to cope with a breakup. It’s a long, fruitless process of trying to find some way, any way to break the pain into manageable bites until it’s small enough to swallow. And naturally, each individual’s method is as unique as a snowflake. These little mechanisms we employ…

Ami Angelowicz / December 3, 2013

6 Bits Of Relationship Wisdom My Married Self Would Like To Tell My Single Self

I feel pretty good about my path toward a forever-partner. I dated a lot of guys, had numerous long- and longish-term relationships and a lot of premarital sex.  I don’t believe that marriage is “the end” of your emotional or sexual growth as a woman, but I’m also glad I did everything I wanted to…

Jessica Wakeman / November 15, 2013

Dater X: Mourning Friends And Family After A Breakup

After a relationship ends, you prepare yourself for hard nights missing the other person. Your friends comfort you by telling you someone else out there is even better for you, and that happiness is just around the corner. But no one prepares you for the loss of the people who come with the breakup; the…

Dater X 2.0 / November 13, 2013

Dating Don’ts: 6 Tips For Managing The First Ex Run-In

You’re on your way to your local watering hole one evening and you spot something familiar in the gait, the walk, the hand gestures of a person heading your way on the street. You realize with sudden, sinking dread that it’s your ex who you haven’t seen since the breakup. You grab your best friend’…

Megan Reynolds / November 12, 2013

Girl Talk: Some Relationships Deserve Second Chances

So, I’m in love. This isn’t exactly unique — so many others would say the same. Love is an overused word, it’s commonplace, expected even. But to me, it couldn’t be a more novel, beautiful, fascinating thing. For most of my life, I was fiercely independent and ambivalent about relationships. My focus was on platonic…

Claire Hannum / November 7, 2013

True Story: My Boudoir Photo Shoot Helped Me Get Over My Breakup

As I stood in the small studio on Manhattan’s Upper West Side, attempting a sexy pout for the camera, I felt my fears and inhibitions melting away. Posing for boudoir photos was the most fun I’d had in months. The real me, who I’d been stifling for reasons I hadn’t even begun to understand, had…

Claire Hannum / October 21, 2013

Scientific Proof That Heartbreak Really Does Hurt

Anyone who’s ever had their heart broken can tell you that shit hurts way more deeply and intensely than a stubbed toe or sprained ankle. This video by AsapScience explains the various scientific factors (Brain activity! Evolution!) that come together to create the very real pain of heartbreak. Fascinating stuff. Next I’m looking forward to…

Winona Dimeo-Ediger / September 12, 2013

Face Tattoos & 13 Other Things That Seem Like A Great Idea After A Breakup, But Really Aren’t

See that red, squiggly thing on Sinead O’Connor’s cheek that looks like a toddler doodled on her with a pen? That’s her new face tattoo and it’s not actually a squiggle. It’s the initials BQ, which stands for Brendan Quinlan. Remember how Sinead started blogging about being single and considering having sex with a yam

Ami Angelowicz / September 12, 2013

Dating Don’ts: Maybe It Is You

“It’s not you, it’s me.” How many times have you heard that? How many times have you comforted a heartbroken friend by telling them that there’s nothing wrong with them, they just happen to have picked a poor partner? How many times have you thought that for yourself?

Here’s a hard truth to…

Julie Gerstein / September 10, 2013

What’s The Deal With Guys Giving You The “Slow Fade”?

I remember reading a really thought provoking post on here a few months back about “ghosting”. At the time I was like, “YES! YES! Mental hugs to this author because she is describing my life and the lives of my friends’ and even the life of my dog probably!” So basically the situation with ghosting…

College Candy / September 7, 2013

13 Ways Our Exes Got It Together After We Broke Up (In GIFs!)

Exes, right? They’re all oozing out of the ground like primordial sludge when you date them, and then suddenly, after you break up, they become fully functioning human beings! How does that work? If you, like me, have a few exes that you met while they were clawing their way up into real-personhood, you’re probably…

Julie Gerstein / August 14, 2013

Is A Failure To Communicate Leading To Your Breakup?

I have a client who broke up with a partner recently and is back on the dating market — yet again. This time, however, the former partner, whom I also knew, reached out to me to get advice on what to do, and to see if the relationship could be saved.
The fact is, both… / August 13, 2013

Dating Don’ts: The Breakup Phase You Didn’t See Coming

Even though I’m a cat lady by choice – minus the terrifying figurines and embroidered pillows – when my ex started dating someone new, my reaction was … let’s just say, unexpected.

I’d like to foreshadow this tale of my psychotic break by mentioning our breakup was totally mutual. It was one of…

Krissy Brady / July 23, 2013

Alexa Chung Knows That Haircuts Are Usually A Bad Post-Breakup Decision

Hair is so linked to how we feel and everyone goes for something radical after a break-up, but my advice if you’ve just suffered heartbreak or you’ve broken up with someone, is to not touch your hair. It’s the first thing women do, but you’re not in a fit state to make decisions that are…

Rachel Krause / July 14, 2013

Dating Don’ts: 5 Alternatives To Sending An Angry, Post-Breakup Email

Breakups are brutal, and we rarely end a relationship with all of our feelings, regrets and issues off our chest. Instead, we’re left with a tornado of confusing emotions accumulating debris inside of us, potentially setting off some really bad decision-making. The post-breakup email would be at the top of that list. It’s totally understandable…

Claudia Maittlen-Harris / June 25, 2013