If you’re like us — well, except Amelia — you watched this latest season of “The Bachelor” cringing and hoping that bachelor Ben Flajnik wouldn’t pick resident sociopath/model Courtney Robertson. Ben’s flagrant disregard of the crazytown facts regarding “winning”-obsessed Courtney was mindblowing, but nonetheless, the couple seemed pretty happy after the show. But alas, their love eventually soured and now Ben is singing a different tune.
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Love is dead. Wee dubstep moppet Skrillex and girlfriend Ellie Goulding have split, their love apparently a casualty of Hurricane Sandy, or STDs or whatever, who cares? Actually, according to Us, it was the travails of a long distance relationship. It’s over,” said a “source” who is frayuns with Goulding told the mag. “There’s no bad blood. Just a classic case of long distance being impossible. They hope to remain good friends.” Said another source-cical, “Work schedules and distance took their toll. She’s fine though.” The important thing is, who gets to keep the haircut? [Us Weekly]
Relationships: so great when they start out, but if you’re not careful, they can quickly devolve into a maniacal battle of wills with hurt feelings and damaged egos. All couples fight (okay, most all couples fight), but it’s how you fight that can really define whether or not your relationship is going to work. And there are certain things you can say that can transform a minor tiff into a major explosion.
Nobody is immune: Women are equally capable of doing and saying damaging things in a relationship. Which is why I’ve compiled this list of phrases you should try to avoid including in your fight vocabulary. Check it out, and tell us what you think should be added to the list!
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This weekend, I received a text from my good friend Cara, letting me know she’d run into my ex-boyfriend out front of a local bar. (The ex that broke up with me over IM and then moved four blocks away, because he’s a really cool guy.) Apparently the first thing he said to my friend was, “Julie hates me,” which I took as a half-hearted attempt to elicit sympathy and pity, and reassurance from Cara that I didn’t (no, no, I do.). Thankfully, she didn’t buy his act, and told him that, well, yes, he probably could have handled our breakup better (see aforementioned breakup-over-IM for reference). But did I really want to know my lady friend had run into my dumb ex?
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My parents are still married. They just celebrated their 28th wedding anniversary. But when I saw them again it was separately, first one then the other. It had to be this way. Seeing both of them for the first time in over two years would have just been too much.
See, I broke up with my parents two-and-a-half years before this visit. I called them on Halloween, after avoiding voicemails for weeks. My teeth were chattering. “I need a break from this relationship,” I said and my mom burst into tears. My dad, quiet, mirrored back what I said … then tried to turn the conversation to normal things. Keep reading »
I’m not going to lie: I’m in post-breakup emotional triage mode. This means I notice more than ever when other people are wearing wedding rings, and whether or not their Facebook status says “single” or “in a relationship.” I guess it’s because my heart is feeling so raw and scarred that I am especially attune to these things. Something awful I have to admit: It makes me feel slightly better when I learn that a couple I know has broken up. I’m not talking close friends — of course I feel horrible for them and want to do everything in my power to make them feel better. I mean those friends who are more acquaintances — who I know more about through their random Facebook status updates than anything else. I wouldn’t wish relationship problems on anyone, of course, but when I see that someone else is going through a breakup I feel less alone.
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