I have a friend who does bodywork — massage and chiropractic, basically — who is helping me to get through marathon training. This happens to be the same friend who’s training me in practical self-defense and who knows all about my traumas.
When he was working on my quads last week, I instinctively did what I always instinctively do — tensed up. “Agh, I hate having my thighs worked on,” I said.
“Yes, I’m aware of your safeguards,” he said.
“No, it just tickles.”
“Well, some people have physical safeguards and emotional safeguards. Just relax.”
And, it being for the benefit of my tired legs, I did. But it got me thinking about something I’ve been mulling over since I wrote about posting on Reddit’s GoneWild forum and my new approach to body image. Some of the feedback that I got was that I was unconvincing as far as my body positivity went, and that the GW posting would’ve been more interesting if I had been more upfront about overcoming body issues. Reading that made me think, Well, what if some women just don’t really have big problems with the way our bodies look? Keep reading »
Whenever summer rolls around I look forward to hot days, gorgeous nights, skimpy sundresses, and sangria. But there’s one thing about this amazing season that fills me with dread, that makes me sigh dramatically as I unpack my summer wardrobe, that makes me cringe at the thought of an afternoon stroll through the park. Two words, my friends: thigh chafing.
According to fashion magazines and fitness shows and hipster photos on Pinterest, all women are supposed to have a generous gap between our thighs (judging from Pinterest, ideally the gap should be large enough to frame a picture of the sunset). I’ve been many different weights in my life, but honestly, I can’t remember a time when my thighs didn’t touch. In the fall and winter when I’m always wearing tights or pants, this isn’t a problem at all. In the summer, when I’m wearing mini skirts and breezy dresses, it is a huge problem… Keep reading »
Last week, Babyshambles and Libertines’ frontman Pete Doherty showed off some serious hotness at the launch of his men’s accessory line. While his designs are gorgeous, people seemed more interested in calling the recently rehabbed rock star a heffer. From British papers to bitchy blogs, the poor dude was dubbed “fat” and “bloated.” And those are just superlatives in the headlines! Keep reading »
The Cut picks this Cosmopolitan image as its “Best Story Illustration” from the August fashion magazines, but we beg to differ. Sure, the piglets are cute, but a girl eating like a pig is the message, and that doesn’t sound right. The caption on the left reads: “Keep eating like that and no one will be calling you Babe.” Agreed, no one needs to pack away an entire pizza, but all being equated to pigs makes us want to do is squeal. [The Cut] Keep reading »
Yesterday, I told you all the things ladies worry about when it comes to their bodies. But I know women aren’t the only ones who struggle with their looks. ModernMan.com tried to break down what women actually think is nasty, and I’m not going to argue with busted toe nails and nose hair. But there are a few manly things that have gotten a bad rap. So, stop sweating it, dudes. We are here to set the record straight on what we women really think about the way you men look. Keep reading »
Looking for a psychologically unhealthy way to lose weight? Think berating yourself will make you eat less? Fishs Eddy Worrisome Pattern plate does the trick for you. Its rim is lined with less than tactful reminders that you really shouldn’t eat that last slice of pizza. “Do you really need that second helping?” “It’s hard to be around you when you eat like this.” “For the love of god stop eating.” Fun! It’s like if you had a psychologically abusive parent, and then you moved out, and then the parent was brought back into your life through dinnerware! One supposes it might make you less likely to enjoy that extra serving of mac and cheese, but perhaps the bad feelings it brings would only make you want to eat more later. If you’re into that sort of thing, though, there’s a side plate to match. If you eat everything on it, the message on the bottom reads: “Big mistake.” [Via Riley Dog] Keep reading »