“Louie, you know what the meanest thing is you can say to a fat girl? ‘You’re not fat.’ I mean, come on, buddy. It just sucks. It really really sucks. You have no idea. And the worst part is, I’m not even supposed to do this. Tell anyone how bad it sucks, because it’s too much for people. I mean, you, you can talk into the microphone and say you can’t get a date, you’re overweight. It’s adorable. But if I say it, they call the suicide hotline on me. I mean, can I just say it? I’m fat. It sucks to be a fat girl. Can people just let me say it? It sucks. It really sucks. And I’m going to go ahead and say it. It’s your fault.
Look, I really like you, you’re truly a good guy, I think. I’m so sorry. I’m picking you. On behalf of all the fat girls, I’m making you represent all the guys. Why do you hate us so much? What is is about the basics of human happiness, feeling attractive, feeling loved, having guys chase after us, that’s just not in the cards for us? Nope. Not for us. How is that fair? And why am I supposed to just accept it?”
This is an excerpt of an amazing speech given by actress Sarah Baker, who plays Vanessa, Louis CK’s potential love interest on this week’s episode of “Louie.” Vanessa is a smart, funny, ebullient waitress who just happens to be fat, which makes Louie hesitant to start a relationship with her. Him sheepishly muttering, “You’re not fat” sets off one of the most honest, vulnerable discussions of weight and dating I’ve ever seen on a TV show. Watch the whole scene above, and read this great interview with Sarah for some behind-the-scenes insights on the episode. [Via Jezebel]
The first time I put a barbell across my back, I was in love.
It wasn’t like I had never lifted weights before; I had, but never like this. Thanks to the myth that I needed to do high reps with light weights to get “toned” arms and legs (because, of course, as a woman, I wouldn’t want to get too “bulky”), I had dutifully curled my tiny hand weights a million times. I never got strong or toned. All I got was bored. So I always quit. Keep reading »
Fashion blogger GabiFresh deals with her fair share of haters. As a plus-size woman in the fashion world, getting passed over for opportunities, being judged for her size, and dealing with vicious comments about her body are par for the course. After hearing Beyonce’s song, “***Flawless,” and seeing the video, Gabi was inspired to use Bey’s empowerment anthem to make a major statement of her own. She said: Keep reading »
Here’s one way to make lemonade out of lemons, ladies. Or, um, arsenic. If some drunk asshole makes a rude comment about what a fat cow you are, use it as inspiration to lose 128 lbs and get a job at Hooters — you may end up on the local news! Keep reading »
This piece was crossposted with permission from KittyStryker.com.
First, a little bit about me. I’m an American who has lived on one coast or the other, who has spent extended time in Poland and in London. I’ve been familiar with fatphobia my whole life, as my mother is fat, my grandmother is fat, and I became fat during my teenage years due to a combination of medication and genetics. I’m larger than the “average” size, which as of 2013 was about a size 14. I’m a size 24 US, size 22 UK. I eat about 1800 calories a day, snack on nuts and rice cakes, have a green smoothie a day, work out twice a week, and am reasonably active. I have mostly cut dairy out of my diet, never eat beef, and am about 50 percent gluten free.
I get at least 20-30 comments a week on average telling me that my fatness means I must be inactive, eat poorly, and am unhealthy. When someone wants to insult me, the first thing they turn to is my weight. The contents of my grocery basket is analyzed by people I don’t know when I go to the store and I regularly receive diet advice I haven’t asked for. I have had my ass grabbed, my stomach touched, and my arms pinched by strangers commenting on my weight. Keep reading »
Brooke Birmingham, author of the health and fitness blog, “Brooke: Not On A Diet,” was able to lose over 170 pounds without surgery or fad diets. She dropped the weight the good ol’ fashioned way: cutting out processed food, counting calories, and exercising more. The process took her four years of hard work (“I literally worked my ass off,” she says of meeting her goal weight in May of 2013), so she was understandably thrilled when she was contacted by Shape magazine editors who wanted to feature her in their “Success Stories” section. After doing a phone interview and sending over a photo of herself in a bikini for the “after” photo (shown above), Brooke couldn’t wait to see her story in print. But then an editor of Shape emailed her, saying there was a problem: if she wanted to be featured in the magazine, she would need to put a shirt on.
Say what?!?! Keep reading »