How often do our partners — the good ones, anyway — attempt to convince us they find our bodies, flaws and all, sexy as hell? But sadly, most women struggle with insecurities about their bodies, which affects their confidence in life and their relationships. We want the lights off during sex, cover certain body parts we’re ashamed of, or don’t even want to get intimate at all.
This was what inspired photographer Rachel Castillero, who, with several of her talented girlfriends, came up with a twist on the classic boudoir photos: Fox Sessions. Read more on Tres Sugar…
Saturday evening on her Instagram profile, R&B singer Ciara debuted a new hairstyle: waist-skimming loc extensions. The style, a temporary version of the loc-ed hair many Black people of all genders sport, sparked discussion both among fans and style outlets.
One in particular, People magazine’s StyleWatch section, posted a story Tuesday about Ciara’s newest mane and stirred a dialogue about far more than trendy summer hair colors. Associate Style Editor Brittany Talarico noted that Ciara is set to wed fiancé Future in a “very elegant affair,” then said immediately afterward in parentheses that the wedding was “another reason [People thinks] she’ll ditch the dreads.”
While the phrase has since been removed, the undertones of Talarico’s words were not lost on some Black readers. YouTube comedienne, natural hair guru and Upworthy curator Franchesca Ramsey pointed out People’s words on her blog shortly after the article was posted. A Black woman with dreadlocks herself, Ramsey noted that the article suggests Ciara could not possibly want to keep her loc extensions for an “elegant” wedding—meaning the locs extensions themselves cannot be elegant. Keep reading »
Maybe you are a lady and you hate your body because you don’t deserve to have control over it, according to the highest authority on law in the land. Or maybe you are a man and you hate your body because it doesn’t look like what you see on TV or in pornzz or whatever.
Well, don’t worry! Because I have a few pieces of advice for you on How To Not Hate Your Body, whether you are a woman, a man, or a genderqueer person who does not conform to the binary system! Some of these ideas may seem silly and lame and non-snarky, because guess what? True things are often sincere things, and sincerity has never been “cool.” Right now, we’re going to dispense with ideas of what is and is not cool and we’re going to do our best to save your self-esteem and maybe your life in the process, so strap the fuck in for a loving ride (no, not THAT kind of loving ride, jeez, we are not a pornzz site, OR ARE WE). Keep reading »
“In my 20s I used to cry about why I wasn’t thinner or prettier … [I] used to cry about things like, ‘I wish my hair would grow faster. I wish I had different shoes.’ I was an idiot. … Sure, criticism can sometimes still get to me. Some things are so malicious, they knock the wind out of you … It’s like I’m managing to achieve all this success in spite of my affliction … Would you ever put that in the headline for a male star?”
Well, I’ll admit that The Frisky is part of the problem here, because most of what we post about Melissa McCarthy has to do with her weight, too. The media does have a tendency to cover successful larger women just as successful larger women. I get why the media does it — because bigger, body positive role models are still relatively rare. But Melissa has a point: bigger male actors aren’t dealing with this shit. Melissa deserves to be covered the same way as other funny ladies, like Tina Fey and Amy Poehler. Focus on the funny, not on the size. [People]
I love everything about Meghan Trainor’s song “All ABout That Bass”: it’s catchy, it’s body positive, and the retro outfits and set design are so adorable. I just want to jump inside the music video and shake my booty in a pastel A-line from ModCloth. And what’s not to love about a summer anthem about a woman who “ain’t no size 2″ but can “shake it, shake it, like I’m supposed to do?” Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom of the top! [YouTube]