Last month, Melissa McCarthy appeared on the cover of ELLE magazine wearing a long, grey coat over a little black dress. But that jacket wasn’t just a jacket. It was a jacket some in the blogosphere attributed to a “fuck you” on the magazine’s part to women of McCarthy’s girth. Bloggers assumed that the plus-size actress was intentionally obscured under layers of fabric by stylists who were trying to hide her shape, perhaps thinking it would help sell magazines on stands. But McCarthy herself has been public about the fact she chose to wear that jacket. In fact, she picked it out herself! She just thought it was a gorgeous cashmere coat that would be fun to wear (and, in my opinion, it turned out to be a much more autumnal look for November than the usual starlets-in-bandage-dresses covers). Here, Melissa McCarthy is on “Ellen” today talking about how she thought all the fuss around “jacketgate” was completely silly. It’s a good lesson in how sometimes you need to find out how people themselves feel about issues before getting worked up on their behalf. Melissa McCarthy seems to have genuinely loved the coat and it is ridiculous that our idea of fighting back about body hatred means everyone showing an equal amount of skin, as opposed to everyone being accepted for how they choose to dress. Thanks, well-meaning bloggers, but no thanks. [YouTube]
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“My pregnancy with Maxwell, specifically because she is a girl, made me realize that I wouldn’t be able to protect her from everything I had been through as a woman. I wonder each day how I can shield her not only from the critics in the world, but from the criticism we all dole out to ourselves. My pregnancies (especially my first with Maxwell) were well documented and my struggles with my weight and body image have played out in front of the world. As hard as that has been, the hardest part is to realize that with all the hurtful and harsh criticism from others, I have been the hardest on myself.
Raising Maxwell makes me realize that I don’t want her to see me beat myself up for things like food choices or numbers on a scale. I don’t want her to learn anything like that from me. Those things don’t determine who we are and instead make us feel terrible about ourselves. I want to teach her to value herself, listen to herself and tune out the world. I want her to know her value, rather than spending her energy fighting negative voices from within.”
I figured that after I had a baby my body would be like a soldier after war, with the proud, annoying battle scars that have a good story but don’t dress up well. A few things went differently than expected:
- I had a real baby, which is sort of impossible to imagine beforehand and sort of trumps everything else.
- I didn’t stop caring about the way I looked (this isn’t a story with a moral or something), but I was really busy caring a lot about other things.
- I looked surprisingly great.
No one ever talks about how you might feel sexy and beautiful after you have a baby. They talk a lot about how you might feel shitty and floppy and bad and you might have to work really hard to look good again and your belly might never ever be the same and the goal should be for everything to be the same as it was because that was so much better. It’s stressful, being pregnant and being yelled at by all of the headlines about pregnancy “YOU NEED TO START THINKING ABOUT HOW BAD YOU WILL LOOK AFTER YOU GIVE BIRTH!” Keep reading »
In an upcoming episode of “Katie,” formerly plus-sized women get sweet revenge on the people who fat-shamed them. In this clip, single gal Jennifer Tippie talks about the ex-boyfriend who told her that if she got down to 140 pounds, he would put a ring on her finger because, ya know, he really wanted to be with someone who was “proportionate to him.” Oh, men who tell women to lose weight are always such PRINCES, aren’t they? Especially when they offer marriage as the motivation. It’s hard to imagine turning such an appealing offer down, but Jennifer did. She lost the weight on her own and now she will flaunt her “revenge body” in her ex’s face.
If a man has ever even suggested that you lose weight in order to date him — or change anything about your appearance — now’s the time to publicly shame him in our comment section. Have at it.
It is time to have a serious conversation about just how amazing Rebel Wilson really is. She has a law degree and an arts degree, proving that she’s one smart cookie. Most importantly, she has a refreshing lack of vanity in an industry where vanity is a pre-requisite. There are a lot of misleading and confusing messages about how to feel and how a woman should look, but Rebel Wilson is incredible for the fact that she just doesn’t care. She stresses that being healthy is key, but acknowledges implicitly that health is relative to the individual. As a woman who is neither fat nor thin, but somewhere in the nebulous realm between “plus” sized and average, Rebel’s attitude resonates. Check out a clip of her talking with “Extra” above.
Nobody, not even Miranda Kerr or Gisele Bundchen, loves every single inch of what their body looks like naked. Why is that?
The saddest thing in the world is that we all get our ideas about what the naked human form “should” look like from Photoshopped, expertly lit, heavily made-up images that aren’t even close to real. And then when we’re confronted with the real thing — the cellulite, the sags, the ashiness — we are taught to believe it looks ugly.
Enter Dale Favier, a Portland, Oregon-based massage therapist. He has seen a hell of a lot of naked bodies (or body parts, anyway) in his many years of giving massage therapy. And he would like us to know a thing or two about what people really look like naked. Keep reading »
“She hurt my feelings. I don’t think what I look like is relevant. And by the way, this whole ‘unhealthy’ thing has me baffled. It’s really confusing to me why anyone would have an opinion about that … It’s really disappointing. I can’t laugh—I’m an emotional person. … It’s a sensitive subject because it’s not something that should be talked about, because there is nothing wrong with me. I’m healthy and I shouldn’t even have to say any of that. What makes me unhealthy and puts me in danger is that kind of scrutiny itself. It’s the same as being bullied at school, and just because you’re getting older, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t hurt by it. You could make anybody cry if you told them that they’re ugly.”
Fiona Apple spoke to Pitchfork about an incident last week, in which she was heckled about her health by a fan at a concert. Midway through her set in Portland, a concertgoer shouted at the notoriously shy Apple, ”Fiona! Get healthy! We want to see you in 10 years!” Apple apparently broke down on stage and yelled back at the heckler, “I am healthy! Who the fuck do you think you are? I want you to get the fuck out of here. I want the house lights on so I watch you leave!” The person was indeed ejected from the venue, and got in one last remark before exiting, shouting, ”I saw you 20 years ago and you were beautiful!” Keep reading »
“The secret to body after baby is flushing down the toilet every notion of body after baby. Honestly! … I made a commitment to not allow my narrative for the year after having a baby to be about my weight. And I think that freed me up and it made me less concerned with all the pressures that revolve around body image. I was like, ‘I have a baby. Do you know how awesome that is? It’s so radical! Why on earth am I going to be so concerned with my pants size?’”
Bless Kristen Bell for her refreshing outlook on that whole “body after baby” obsession that our culture demands of new moms, especially new celebrity moms. She’s the coolest and daughter Lincoln clearly has a great role model to look up to as she grows up. [E! Online]
“I always get asked, ‘Where do you get your confidence?’ I think people are well meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, you’re not white, you’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?’”
–Mindy Kaling brilliantly deconstructs the media’s obsession with her confidence in the latest issue of Parade magazine. “There are little Indian girls out there who look up to me,” she adds, “and I never want to belittle the honor of being an inspiration to them. But while I’m talking about why I’m so different, white male show runners get to talk about their art.” PREACH. [Marie Claire]
I was absentmindedly flipping through the massive October issue of InStyle magazine over the weekend when I paused on a page in the “Beauty At Any Age” section. Titled, “Pucker Up! Secrets To Full, Smooth Lips,” the page included recommendations for skincare products and lip gloss for women of different ages. Pretty standard fashion magazine fodder. But down at the bottom of the page was something that wasn’t so standard: recommendations for plastic surgery procedures. “Lusting after lush, pillowy lips and a dramatically smoother smile?” the text read. “All it may take is a few quick shots.”
Say whaaaaaat?! Keep reading »