I think everyone who writes about body image has a blind spot or a subject that makes them feel a bit hypocritical. After all, most of us haven’t gotten the whole “Love your body exactly as it is 100 percent of the time no matter what” thing down yet, and although we might have a great understanding of all the concepts, and can easily explain them to others, we haven’t quite internalized them for ourselves. Keep reading »
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It gives me great pleasure to inform you that I HAVE A DATE THIS WEEKEND.
I was so busy complaining about being stuck in the single slog, that I failed to mention I’ve been casually chatting with a nice gentleman on OKCupid. I try not to get my hopes up these days, and wasn’t even sure our conversation was going to go anywhere, but one thing led to another and bam — we’re meeting on Saturday at 7 p.m.
Despite my I Give Up On This Shit attitude about online dating, I saw a message come through my inbox a few weeks back that wasn’t the usual “Damn baby, you lookin’ good,” or “Sup girl?” So I took a peek.
“The first thing I noticed was your smile,” he wrote. “A beautiful one like yours stands out from the crowd. Now what kinds of horror stories have you heard by opening yourself up to that question?”
He was responding to the part of my profile where I opted to ask guys what they first noticed about me, rather than answering the question myself. Not only was his compliment well received, but his counter question suggested he actually read my profile. He made it past the pictures and the desire to message me something stupid just because I have boobs. He was interested in me. Refreshing. Keep reading »
I love Thanksgiving – and I can’t wait to fly back to the Midwest this week to celebrate with relatives – but I have somewhat of a turbulent history with the holiday. My parents’ divorce has made me less than eager to head home and face splintered celebrations spread over three different households. One thing I’ve always loved about it, however, is the food. When I was more of an emotional eater, this played out for the worst, as I couldn’t imagine anything more comforting than a table overflowing with turkey, stuffing and pie. These days, I’m eating my feelings a lot less, but I still love to eat – and I wish that fact didn’t come with judgment or worry. This creates a complex dilemma on Thanksgiving: how do you let your body image issues go on a holiday that’s all about food? Keep reading »
The gorgeous, ebullient, and crazy-talented Amber Riley won “Dancing With The Stars” last night with her partner Derek Hough. Anyone who watched Amber’s energetic performances knows her win was well deserved, but I especially loved what she had to say to all her female fans who rooted for her this season: Keep reading »
“Though I NEVER care what the tabloids have to say about me… I wanted to address this certain story they are running this week and set the record straight. I DID NOT have surgery to lose weight. That is ridiculous. I lost my weight the healthy and good old fashioned way. Watching what I eat and working out with my trainer Bill Crutchfield. As for the assumed number of pounds lost…? I don’t even know! Like I have always said, it’s not about a scale, it’s about how you feel and how your jeans fit. And on November 10th when I turned 30, my skinny jeans were finally baggy! Mission accomplished! So for anyone who is tempted to read the “Trash Talk” please don’t. I am proud to be a normal size girl and I want to encourage everyone to be confident at any size.”
–Miranda Lambert served up some weight loss real talk on her Facebook page yesterday in response to tabloid rumors that she got gastric bypass surgery (!) to slim down. This right here is why Miranda will always be one of my favorite country stars: she’s honest and sassy and down-to-earth. Also, if you’re not following her Facebook page, I highly recommend it. In between anti-tabloid screeds like this, she posts dorky jokes and pictures of stray dogs she rescues in Oklahoma. Love. Her. [Facebook]
New York city performer Amanda Trusty is no stranger to the scrutiny the entertainment industry feels entitled to when it comes to women’s bodies. In a (semi-NSFW) burlesque performance at a benefit for Hawaii Island Gay Pride, Amanda refuses to take that criticism any longer. Set to Katy Perry’s “Roar,” she finds a way to let it all go as she literally peels off hurtful words like “cellulite,” “fat” and “suck it in” that have gotten in the way of the joy performing should bring. I have never felt more empowered (and misty-eyed) just by watching someone dance! Read more thoughts from this amazing lady on her blog. Keep being awesome, Amanda! [Huffington Post; Amanda Trusty Says]
125 Olympic athletes were photographed by Howard Schatz to exemplify body diversity in even the most fine tuned of human forms. A woman’s body is a personal thing that has historically been made public. Whether that objectification comes from the male gaze or the mainstream media, many times our bodies can feel like they’re constantly under scrutiny, comparison or just not good enough. It’s even worse when we project these ideals onto ourselves. When I saw the body diversity amongst, quite literally, some of the greatest athletes in the entire world, I was struck by how unique and gorgeous each of these women were. Find all of the Olympic athlete photos on College Candy…
In case you weren’t already too busy pondering the non-issues that are your alleged cankles or love handles, UK’s Guardian has presented us with a handy list of the latest slew of random female body parts the tabloids have taken to gawking at. It kind of seems like pop culture’s sole mission is to find more ways to coerce another few thousand women onto the body-shaming train, and sometimes that means resorting to weird made-up body parts that nobody knew we were “supposed” to be worried about. Keep reading »
Last month, Melissa McCarthy appeared on the cover of ELLE magazine wearing a long, grey coat over a little black dress. But that jacket wasn’t just a jacket. It was a jacket some in the blogosphere attributed to a “fuck you” on the magazine’s part to women of McCarthy’s girth. Bloggers assumed that the plus-size actress was intentionally obscured under layers of fabric by stylists who were trying to hide her shape, perhaps thinking it would help sell magazines on stands. But McCarthy herself has been public about the fact she chose to wear that jacket. In fact, she picked it out herself! She just thought it was a gorgeous cashmere coat that would be fun to wear (and, in my opinion, it turned out to be a much more autumnal look for November than the usual starlets-in-bandage-dresses covers). Here, Melissa McCarthy is on “Ellen” today talking about how she thought all the fuss around “jacketgate” was completely silly. It’s a good lesson in how sometimes you need to find out how people themselves feel about issues before getting worked up on their behalf. Melissa McCarthy seems to have genuinely loved the coat and it is ridiculous that our idea of fighting back about body hatred means everyone showing an equal amount of skin, as opposed to everyone being accepted for how they choose to dress. Thanks, well-meaning bloggers, but no thanks. [YouTube]