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Representation In Porn, Or A Lack Thereof, And Why It Matters

Have you ever wondered what racial representation looks like in porn versus the United States population? Well, I have.

I get tired of conventional porn sometimes, and I want to see porn with women especially, but people in general, who aren’t going “ooohnnnn ooohhhhhnnn ohhhhhnnn” like seals throughout the movie, or who aren’t skinny, or who aren’t young, or who aren’t white, or who aren’t conventional-looking, or who are engaging in sex acts that they really, really, really love of their own accord rather than being just sort of down to do because it’s their job. That’s why I love Beautiful Agony (just assume that none of the links in this post are safe for work) — it’s all orgasms, it’s all very understated, it’s a pure celebration of pleasure, and lots of different kinds of people are represented. It’s also why I love the Art-Porn Tumblr: there’s at least some diversity, there’s a lot of kink — real kink — and many of the photographers and directors portray sex in a way that doesn’t feel so … I don’t know. Gratuitous. There’s nothing wrong with gratuitous, conventional porn, of course, I just get tired of it. It’s made for a male audience, and I’m not male. I want to see something different. Keep reading »

Kim Kardashian Struggled With Insecurity Growing Up

“It’s taken me a long time to be happy with my body and for my confidence to grow to what it is today. I grew up when the body to have was the tall, slim, supermodel one, like Cindy Crawford’s. No one looked like me. It’s good to break the mould and recreate one. I’m an Armenian girl, I have shape, and it turned out people liked that. That makes me feel good about myself and about other women for being so supportive. I am a confident woman, but I didn’t just arrive confident – it has built over the years and that is a big part of who I am now.”

I sometimes think about what middle school must have been like for Kim Kardashian, when the size-0 look was all the rage and getting breasts before your classmates was feared. As it turns out, now-noted narcissist Kim had trouble loving her body just like any other young person might have, even if she was already kinda bratty back then. It’s sort of a bummer that others’ approval is what ultimately got her to a place of confidence, but I can’t fault her for that too much – it’s a big part of human nature. As problematic as Kim can be, she deserves some cred for working the gorgeous shape she’s got even in the face of judgement and body shaming, and for encouraging other women to do the same. [Elle UK] [Image via AKM-GSI]

Yeah, Right, I Take Nudes For Your Attention, Because It Matters So Much To Me

Do I need to link to anything that says “[Fill in the name of a woman] is getting naked on camera for attention”? It’s been said about me. It’s being said about Kim Kardashian. It’s been said about any woman who’s ever voluntarily had a photo taken in any kind of sexualized context, and several non-sexualized contexts, for that matter.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but here’s what you do to me when you say that I take nude, sexualized photos for attention: You claim that you know my intentions. Are you a mind-reader? To my knowledge, that’s not a thing that exists. So do you know me intimately? No, you don’t, and no one who knows me intimately thinks or says that I take nudes for attention. So what you’re doing is implying that I’m a liar when I say, “No, this is not for attention,” and/or you’re assuming that attention is the only possible motivation any woman could ever have for taking a picture of herself naked, and possibly claiming that you know myself, or any woman, better than we know ourselves. That you have insight on the female character (because women are a monolith) that females don’t have if they state that they are not taking nude pictures for attention. Keep reading »

Michael Brown’s Parents Spoke To The UN About Justice In Ferguson

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  • Michael Brown’s parents gave a statement to the UN about the need for justice in Ferguson, Missouri. [The Root]
  • Jeff Osborne isn’t sorry for the Nazi imagery in his lyrical video for Nicki Minaj’s “Only,” because the First Amendment will die if he can’t be offensive. [Business Insider]
  • Read the story of a woman who spent almost two decades in prison and faced the death penalty several times for a crime she didn’t commit. [Ravishly]
  • Anti-immigration laws are hurting cities. [Salon] Keep reading »

ModCloth Vows Transparency On Photoshopping Its Models

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This week, the retro fashion shopping site ModCloth made a public commitment to transparency in the media by signing a pledge let customers know if they Photoshop their models.

The Heroes Pledge for Advertisers, which is a campaign of the Brave Girls Alliance, asks companies to commit to informing users if they tangibly alter a model’s appearance in any way, reading: Keep reading »

Dr. Keith Ablow Of Fox News Says Michelle Obama Should “Drop A Few” Before Talking About Nutrition

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Dr. Keith Ablow, professional douchebag/member of Fox’s “Medical A-Team,”  is known for his general assholery and sometimes-shady health advice. On Tuesday, he appeared on the show “Outnumbered” and made a remark that was bold even for him: he said he couldn’t take Michelle Obama’s school nutrition campaign seriously because she needs to “drop a few” pounds.

Yes, he just called the First Lady — this First Lady — fat. Keep reading »

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