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Girl Talk: I Was Born With A Cleft Palate

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I was born with a giant, gaping hole in the roof of my mouth. Also known as a cleft palate, the cave within my lips has been through a 20-year nightmare from which I recently awoke. A rather rare occurrence, I was born with a cleft palate, but not a cleft lip.

My cleft palate surgery was performed when I was two-years-old. The opening was closed, but the odyssey was only beginning. A couple of years later, I had another surgery to have little tubes implanted into my ears, called ear tubes, to help me hear better. My cleft palate would cause many earaches and a mild loss of hearing, so these tubes, protected from the water with custom-made, hot pink earplugs, were crucial. Later on in life, I would have these tubes ripped out of my ears while wide-awake, resulting in one of the two most painful experiences of my life. The doctor told me I could punch him after he was finished, and I took him up on the offer as I was screaming bloody murder. Keep reading »

Can We Talk About The Horrors Of Thigh Chafing?

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Whenever summer rolls around I look forward to hot days, gorgeous nights, skimpy sundresses, and sangria. But there’s one thing about this amazing season that fills me with dread, that makes me sigh dramatically as I unpack my summer wardrobe, that makes me cringe at the thought of an afternoon stroll through the park. Two words, my friends: thigh chafing.

According to fashion magazines and fitness shows and hipster photos on Pinterest, all women are supposed to have a generous gap between our thighs (judging from Pinterest, ideally the gap should be large enough to frame a picture of the sunset). I’ve been many different weights in my life, but honestly, I can’t remember a time when my thighs didn’t touch. In the fall and winter when I’m always wearing tights or pants, this isn’t a problem at all. In the summer, when I’m wearing mini skirts and breezy dresses, it is a huge problem… Keep reading »

Mirror, Mirror: What If Someone Calls Me Ugly?

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Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

I finally saw “Snow White and the Huntsman.” With two guys. They were like, “Sweet.” I, on the other hand, was tormented by the symbolism. Because I’m cool like that. Because I over think everything. I wanted Snow White to talk more—to seize the day. Instead, Kristen Stewart mostly looked frail and concerned. She kept opening her mouth a little, but then it turns out that’s just because she looks sexy in a helpless way when she opens her mouth a little.

You probably could have guessed: The whole deal with the Snow White story, no matter how many evil crows and broad-shouldered huntsmen you add to it, is that beauty is power. In case you grew up without watching any Disney movies (like me, I had a weird childhood), and then continued to never watch any because you were really busy, the Snow White story is about an evil woman who is desperate to hold on to her beauty and an innocent girl who is more beautiful than her no matter what.

Spoiler alert: The most beautiful girl wins.

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10 Ways To Love Your Body This Summer

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Summer is finally here, and so are the ubiquitous crash diet plans and pressure to get a “bikini body,” whatever that means. Here’s an idea: how about we stop trying to change our bodies and start celebrating them instead? To get started, check out these 10 fun, easy ways to show your body some love over the next few months… Keep reading »

Mila Kunis Refuses To Buy Into Her Own Beauty Myth

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“I appreciate the attention but I don’t think of myself as particularly attractive at all. I also don’t have that naturally sexual or sensuous way of behaving that some women have.  I do have a pretty sharp sense of humor, though, and I think that has helped me … I’m much more conservative by nature than people think … I mean, I don’t send out naked photos of myself or climb out of limousines without any panties … Some women rely on their looks to make it and others know that they need to work hard to not just be treated as a pretty object and have a serious career. So I’ve never bought into my own beauty myth and I have always worked hard and believed in myself as an actress in order to get where I am.”

– Mila Kunis on her beauty. Hmm. I am torn about what she says here. On the one hand, I appreciate the sentiment of not buying into one’s own beauty myth. Looking at it through a feminist lens, Mila is talking about remaining a subject in her own life and career and refusing to be objectified. Which is smart, humble and noble. But on the other hand, saying that you are not “particularly attractive” or “naturally sensuous” seems very limiting. Not to mention sad. You don’t have to be a sex object or send naked pictures of your vagina to think you’re attractive or sensual. And doesn’t ever woman deserve to feel that way without feeling objectified? Just a thought. [Metro UK] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: The Things That Freak Me Out When I Think About Myself In A Bikini

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I don’t want to write about bikinis. I want to write about the amazing blue cheese dressing I made with buttermilk! (For some reason, I think buttermilk is the coolest thing ever.) And the pizza I found myself absentmindedly dipping in it until I’d eaten a whole piece like that.

I want to write about little victories and subtle triumphs. But there’s a bikini in the back of my mind, its strings tangling in my thoughts, its sliver of a bottom giving my brain a wedgie.

The thing is, I keep lying. Because I’m embarrassed.

This month, my husband Bear and I are going on a trip with my family. My parents won the trip, to a beautiful house in the Virgin Islands, in a synagogue raffle.  My brothers and their girlfriends are coming, too. I can’t wait. I am imagining the ocean and that sudden sense of eternity that engulfs you when you look at it. You have to look away, because it’s too big.

Also, I will be wearing a bikini, I’m assuming. Since I have never found a one-piece that was a match for my long torso. Since I am young and sexy and perfectly capable of wearing a bikini.

I  hope. Keep reading »

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The other day, yet another girl I know was telling me why her legs are ugly. Why they’re getting uglier by the minute. And why she definitely can’t wear shorts this summer. I’ve heard women say they can’t show their legs because they work out too much and their legs are too muscular and I’ve heard women say that they can’t show their legs because they never work out and their legs are too soft. It’s kind of amazing how many women don’t want people to see their legs. I’m one of them. Mine are short. It’s my dad’s fault. But it’s gonna be summer soon, and wearing pants is the worst. Here’s why you should uncover and flash some people. With your legs, I mean. Keep reading »

Mirror, Mirror: I Was The Skinny Girl

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Fairest shmairest! Let’s get real about beauty and body image. Mirror, Mirror is a column running every other Thursday on The Frisky. It is written by Brooklyn-based columnist, freelance writer, and bagel enthusiast, Kate Fridkis who also writes the blog Eat the Damn Cake. You can follow her on Twitter at @eatthedamncake.

I started writing about beauty when I wasn’t skinny enough anymore.

For a long time, most of my life, I was skinny. And everyone always commented on it.

“You’re SO thin!” they’d say in this jealous, admiring way. As though I was doing something better than them. As though I’d earned it somehow, rather than that I just had high metabolism and a health-obsessed mother who raised me to believe that soy milk counted as a “treat.”

My boyfriends were always like, “You need to eat more!”

And then they smiled and kept dating me anyway. Keep reading »

Body Dysmorphic Disorder Claims The Life Of 24-Year-Old Man

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Body dysmrophic disorder (BDD) is typically thought of as a problem affecting women, but men also suffer from the disease. Nathaniel Asselin, of Cheyney, Pennsylvania, was one of those sufferers. “A shaving nick or a small blemish, or even just a bump under the skin would keep him in front of the mirror for hours, applying small pieces of Band aid to cover up the marks,” said his mother Judy. 

Nathaniel spent hours and hours staring in the mirror, poking at pores and worriedly examining non-existent imperfections.  Starting in the fifth grade, he began missing school, too tormented by his perceived imperfections to get out of bed. Keep reading »

Charlize Theron Talks Narcissism, Beauty & Self-Worth

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God, I love Charlize Theron. She hit up “The Colbert Report” last night and gives as good as she gets. There’s the usual movie promotion blah-blah-blah about “Snow White and the Huntsman,” but she and Stephen also took the conversation to an interesting place while discussing beauty and narcissism. “I don’t think narcissists are just vain. I think they are obsessed with beauty because it symbolizes power and self-worth,” she said. “It’s sad this story was written in 18-something-something and this story still resonates.” It’s interesting to hear one of the most gorgeous women on the planet to voice an opinion like this. [Colbert Nation]

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