Nobody, not even Miranda Kerr or Gisele Bundchen, loves every single inch of what their body looks like naked. Why is that?
The saddest thing in the world is that we all get our ideas about what the naked human form “should” look like from Photoshopped, expertly lit, heavily made-up images that aren’t even close to real. And then when we’re confronted with the real thing — the cellulite, the sags, the ashiness — we are taught to believe it looks ugly.
Enter Dale Favier, a Portland, Oregon-based massage therapist. He has seen a hell of a lot of naked bodies (or body parts, anyway) in his many years of giving massage therapy. And he would like us to know a thing or two about what people really look like naked. Keep reading »
“She hurt my feelings. I don’t think what I look like is relevant. And by the way, this whole ‘unhealthy’ thing has me baffled. It’s really confusing to me why anyone would have an opinion about that … It’s really disappointing. I can’t laugh—I’m an emotional person. … It’s a sensitive subject because it’s not something that should be talked about, because there is nothing wrong with me. I’m healthy and I shouldn’t even have to say any of that. What makes me unhealthy and puts me in danger is that kind of scrutiny itself. It’s the same as being bullied at school, and just because you’re getting older, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t hurt by it. You could make anybody cry if you told them that they’re ugly.”
Fiona Apple spoke to Pitchfork about an incident last week, in which she was heckled about her health by a fan at a concert. Midway through her set in Portland, a concertgoer shouted at the notoriously shy Apple, ”Fiona! Get healthy! We want to see you in 10 years!” Apple apparently broke down on stage and yelled back at the heckler, “I am healthy! Who the fuck do you think you are? I want you to get the fuck out of here. I want the house lights on so I watch you leave!” The person was indeed ejected from the venue, and got in one last remark before exiting, shouting, ”I saw you 20 years ago and you were beautiful!” Keep reading »
“The secret to body after baby is flushing down the toilet every notion of body after baby. Honestly! … I made a commitment to not allow my narrative for the year after having a baby to be about my weight. And I think that freed me up and it made me less concerned with all the pressures that revolve around body image. I was like, ‘I have a baby. Do you know how awesome that is? It’s so radical! Why on earth am I going to be so concerned with my pants size?’”
Bless Kristen Bell for her refreshing outlook on that whole “body after baby” obsession that our culture demands of new moms, especially new celebrity moms. She’s the coolest and daughter Lincoln clearly has a great role model to look up to as she grows up. [E! Online]
“I always get asked, ‘Where do you get your confidence?’ I think people are well meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, you’re not white, you’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?’”
–Mindy Kaling brilliantly deconstructs the media’s obsession with her confidence in the latest issue of Parade magazine. “There are little Indian girls out there who look up to me,” she adds, “and I never want to belittle the honor of being an inspiration to them. But while I’m talking about why I’m so different, white male show runners get to talk about their art.” PREACH. [Marie Claire]
I was absentmindedly flipping through the massive October issue of InStyle magazine over the weekend when I paused on a page in the “Beauty At Any Age” section. Titled, “Pucker Up! Secrets To Full, Smooth Lips,” the page included recommendations for skincare products and lip gloss for women of different ages. Pretty standard fashion magazine fodder. But down at the bottom of the page was something that wasn’t so standard: recommendations for plastic surgery procedures. “Lusting after lush, pillowy lips and a dramatically smoother smile?” the text read. “All it may take is a few quick shots.”
Say whaaaaaat?! Keep reading »
If you are a bride, you pose for a lot of photos.
You pose for photos to announce your engagement. You pose for photos at your bachelorette party. You pose for photos at your shower. You pose for photos with your groom-to-be, and with your best friends, and with your family, and with your parents, and then more with your groom. You pose for a lot of photos by yourself, looking happy.
It’s a good time to be photographed, of course. Most of the time, you won’t be able to stop smiling. You’re about to legally bind yourself to the person you love and want to have sex with forever and ever. And someone’s going to give you a really dope food processor as a wedding gift. What’s not to smile about?
It’s also a time that you, as a bride, will become very, very self-conscious of your body. Because as a bride, everything about how you look is going to be on display. Keep reading »