Last month, Melissa McCarthy appeared on the cover of ELLE magazine wearing a long, grey coat over a little black dress. But that jacket wasn’t just a jacket. It was a jacket some in the blogosphere attributed to a “fuck you” on the magazine’s part to women of McCarthy’s girth. Bloggers assumed that the plus-size actress was intentionally obscured under layers of fabric by stylists who were trying to hide her shape, perhaps thinking it would help sell magazines on stands. But McCarthy herself has been public about the fact she chose to wear that jacket. In fact, she picked it out herself! She just thought it was a gorgeous cashmere coat that would be fun to wear (and, in my opinion, it turned out to be a much more autumnal look for November than the usual starlets-in-bandage-dresses covers). Here, Melissa McCarthy is on “Ellen” today talking about how she thought all the fuss around “jacketgate” was completely silly. It’s a good lesson in how sometimes you need to find out how people themselves feel about issues before getting worked up on their behalf. Melissa McCarthy seems to have genuinely loved the coat and it is ridiculous that our idea of fighting back about body hatred means everyone showing an equal amount of skin, as opposed to everyone being accepted for how they choose to dress. Thanks, well-meaning bloggers, but no thanks. [YouTube]
I figured that after I had a baby my body would be like a soldier after war, with the proud, annoying battle scars that have a good story but don’t dress up well. A few things went differently than expected:
- I had a real baby, which is sort of impossible to imagine beforehand and sort of trumps everything else.
- I didn’t stop caring about the way I looked (this isn’t a story with a moral or something), but I was really busy caring a lot about other things.
- I looked surprisingly great.
No one ever talks about how you might feel sexy and beautiful after you have a baby. They talk a lot about how you might feel shitty and floppy and bad and you might have to work really hard to look good again and your belly might never ever be the same and the goal should be for everything to be the same as it was because that was so much better. It’s stressful, being pregnant and being yelled at by all of the headlines about pregnancy “YOU NEED TO START THINKING ABOUT HOW BAD YOU WILL LOOK AFTER YOU GIVE BIRTH!” Keep reading »
In an upcoming episode of “Katie,” formerly plus-sized women get sweet revenge on the people who fat-shamed them. In this clip, single gal Jennifer Tippie talks about the ex-boyfriend who told her that if she got down to 140 pounds, he would put a ring on her finger because, ya know, he really wanted to be with someone who was “proportionate to him.” Oh, men who tell women to lose weight are always such PRINCES, aren’t they? Especially when they offer marriage as the motivation. It’s hard to imagine turning such an appealing offer down, but Jennifer did. She lost the weight on her own and now she will flaunt her “revenge body” in her ex’s face.
If a man has ever even suggested that you lose weight in order to date him — or change anything about your appearance — now’s the time to publicly shame him in our comment section. Have at it.
It is time to have a serious conversation about just how amazing Rebel Wilson really is. She has a law degree and an arts degree, proving that she’s one smart cookie. Most importantly, she has a refreshing lack of vanity in an industry where vanity is a pre-requisite. There are a lot of misleading and confusing messages about how to feel and how a woman should look, but Rebel Wilson is incredible for the fact that she just doesn’t care. She stresses that being healthy is key, but acknowledges implicitly that health is relative to the individual. As a woman who is neither fat nor thin, but somewhere in the nebulous realm between “plus” sized and average, Rebel’s attitude resonates. Check out a clip of her talking with “Extra” above.
Nobody, not even Miranda Kerr or Gisele Bundchen, loves every single inch of what their body looks like naked. Why is that?
The saddest thing in the world is that we all get our ideas about what the naked human form “should” look like from Photoshopped, expertly lit, heavily made-up images that aren’t even close to real. And then when we’re confronted with the real thing — the cellulite, the sags, the ashiness — we are taught to believe it looks ugly.
Enter Dale Favier, a Portland, Oregon-based massage therapist. He has seen a hell of a lot of naked bodies (or body parts, anyway) in his many years of giving massage therapy. And he would like us to know a thing or two about what people really look like naked. Keep reading »