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Frisky Rant: My Boobs Are Not A Threat To Your Marriage

Frisky Rant: My Boobs Are Not A Threat To Your Marriage

Recently blogger Lauren of Apples and Band-Aids caused an uproar among bloggers when she wrote a post claiming that racy social media images by sexy female strangers were a threat to her marriage. To wit:

When your bare shoulders and stretchmark-less bellies and tanned legs pop up, I not only worry if my husband will linger over your picture. I worry how he will compare me to you.

As I wrap myself into his arms at night, I wonder if he is seeing you there instead of my mess of a body left over from pregnancy. I wonder if he thinks I’m lazy and that I don’t take good care of myself. I wonder if he wishes I looked more like you than who I really am.

And then the insecurity monster comes back to bite at our relationship again … me, begging for affirmation, and him tiring from saying the same thing over and over.

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Anatomically Correct Vagina Underwear Might Come In Handy Actually

Anatomically Correct Vagina Underwear Might Come In Handy Actually

British student/artist Eleanor Beth Haswell, 18, made the anatomically correct underthings as part of her senior high school project called “Why Are You So Afraid Of Your Own Anatomy,” about the ways in which women are scared and uncomfortable with their own bodies. But as some of the reaction to the underwear, which labels the various parts of the vulva and vagina, has, uh, underscored, women are not the only ones who can be squicky about their anatomy. “Laughable,” complained one (male) Twitter user. “Something of a buzzkill,” wrote another. And of course, “I just can’t.” Yeah, I bet you can’t, dude. Sadly, this bra and underwear set isn’t available for purchase, otherwise they’d be at the top of my panty drawer, ready to be pulled out the next time someone needed a lesson in female anatomy. (See a few more shots after the jump!) [Buzzfeed] Keep reading »

Sharon Stone’s Ass Is A Fine Triple Crème Brie

“I haven’t worked out in a couple of months because I just didn’t feel like it. But now I’m going on vacation and I know what they’re going to do — [the tabloids] are going to put a circle around my ass and do one of those crazy magnified pictures saying, ‘What happened to her ass? It’s a bag of cheese. I would just like to say it’s a fine triple crème brie! Right when they zoom in I should have a tattoo on my ass that says, ‘You wish you could get a bite of this.’”

Haters, take note: Sharon Stone does not give a damn what you think about her ass. I can’t imagine how much it would suck to have to anticipate gossip rags’ reaction to your beach vacation — just having to deal with being tagged in unflattering Instagram photos is annoying enough! She pretty much told E! News that the tabloids can suck it, because her body is just fine as it is. [Jezebel] [Photo: Getty Images]

Mirror, Mirror: Why You Should Really Look At Yourself

Mirror, Mirror: Why You Should Really Look At Yourself
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Here are all the things I know about my body: My angular face no longer gains weight at the same rate that the rest of my body does, so when I gain weight my head looks smaller even though everything else looks about right in ratio to each other. I have proportionately very large thighs, and specifically proportionately very large quadriceps. My hamstrings and calves aren’t as developed. My ankles are likewise really wide. I have splayed breasts and my nipples don’t point quite forward. My rib cage is just about as wide as my hips. My hips are very wide. My butt has a pretty round shape but it doesn’t sit very high and I still don’t know if that can change via infinite squats (or if I care?). I have thin fingers but knobby knuckles. I have wide shoulders.  My upper arms have some heft, so when they’re flat to my sides they splay out a little. My toes curl into each other. The tops of my feet are kind of hairy. I have a genuinely big-boned frame. The way I carry fat on my body has changed significantly in the last 10 years. I bloat up the week before my period. My skin never tans, it just gets sort of burnished. My legs are short for my height.  I’m 70 inches tall, I weigh 176 pounds, and I have 24 percent body fat.

None of these things are criticisms — well, none of them are criticisms anymore. I spent the larger part of my life avoiding looking in the mirror, and when I did, I would only catch glances. It’d be a glance here at my legs, a glance there at my arms. It was always part of a subconscious effort to compare a part of my body to a part of someone else’s body — not just celebrities, but women I’d see walking down the street. So I only knew about my body the things that didn’t match up to someone else. Keep reading »

The “Stop The Beauty Madness” Campaign Gets Real About The Value We Put On Appearance

Created by writers Robin Rice and Lisa Meade, the Stop The Beauty Madness campaign aims to shake women out of the belief that they are not beautiful and to wake us up to the impossible aesthetic standards we’re held up to. The ads, which can be seen here, state some not-so-pretty truths about the way our culture perceives women. Like the photo above, they’re not exactly pleasant realities, but the campaign’s choice to present them without sugarcoating strikes me as very bold. Few body acceptance campaigns are as direct and brutally honest as this one — and that’s the point. Stop The Beauty Madness wants to create a better world for women’s worth than the one we currently live in, and has even put together a free 10-week audio series that will encourage listeners to better understand unfair beauty standards and the road to self-acceptance. More information about the campaign is available on its website or on Twitter via the hashtag #StopTheBeautyMadness. [The Gloss]

Study Reveals “Three Fat-Shaming Moments Per Day” For Overweight Women

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  • Overweight women experienced an average of “three fat-shaming moments per day,” according to a new study published in the Journal Of Health Psychology. The study examined the psychological effects that bullying by fat-shaming has on women. Here are just a few fuckin’ heartbreaking stories that women shared: “Boyfriend’s mother denied me access to food, also stated that I was so fat because I was lazy”; “The dentist was worried I might break his chair.”; “Teenagers made animal sounds (moo) outside of the store.” I knew this stuff happened but it’s fucking horrible to actually read. [Science Of Us]   Keep reading »

Embrace Your Foxy Side With This Fresh Take On Boudoir Photos

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How often do our partners — the good ones, anyway — attempt to convince us they find our bodies, flaws and all, sexy as hell? But sadly, most women struggle with insecurities about their bodies, which affects their confidence in life and their relationships. We want the lights off during sex, cover certain body parts we’re ashamed of, or don’t even want to get intimate at all.

This was what inspired photographer Rachel Castillero, who, with several of her talented girlfriends, came up with a twist on the classic boudoir photos: Fox Sessions. Read more on Tres Sugar…

The Soapbox: Ciara’s “Inelegant” New Hairstyle And The Politics Of Black Hair

The Soapbox: Ciara's "Inelegant" New Style And The Politics Of Black Hair
Soapbox: Natural Hair
The Soapbox: Natural Hair, Like Recycling, Is Not A Lifestyle Choice For Everyone
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Saturday evening on her Instagram profile, R&B singer Ciara debuted a new hairstyle: waist-skimming loc extensions. The style, a temporary version of the loc-ed hair many Black people of all genders sport, sparked discussion both among fans and style outlets.

One in particular, People magazine’s StyleWatch section, posted a story Tuesday about Ciara’s newest mane and stirred a dialogue about far more than trendy summer hair colors. Associate Style Editor Brittany Talarico noted that Ciara is set to wed fiancé Future in a “very elegant affair,” then said immediately afterward in parentheses that the wedding was “another reason [People thinks] she’ll ditch the dreads.”

While the phrase has since been removed, the undertones of Talarico’s words were not lost on some Black readers. YouTube comedienne, natural hair guru and Upworthy curator Franchesca Ramsey pointed out People’s words on her blog shortly after the article was posted. A Black woman with dreadlocks herself, Ramsey noted that the article suggests Ciara could not possibly want to keep her loc extensions for an “elegant” wedding—meaning the locs extensions themselves cannot be elegant. Keep reading »

How Not To Hate Your Body

Better Body Affirmations
Body Image Tips For Teen Girls
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Bikini Body Truths
Bikini Body
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How Not To Hate Your Body

Maybe you are a lady and you hate your body because you don’t deserve to have control over it, according to the highest authority on law in the land. Or maybe you are a man and you hate your body because it doesn’t look like what you see on TV or in pornzz or whatever.

Well, don’t worry! Because I have a few pieces of advice for you on How To Not Hate Your Body, whether you are a woman, a man, or a genderqueer person who does not conform to the binary system! Some of these ideas may seem silly and lame and non-snarky, because guess what? True things are often sincere things, and sincerity has never been “cool.” Right now, we’re going to dispense with ideas of what is and is not cool and we’re going to do our best to save your self-esteem and maybe your life in the process, so strap the fuck in for a loving ride (no, not THAT kind of loving ride, jeez, we are not a pornzz site, OR ARE WE). Keep reading »

Melissa McCarthy Calls Out The Media Coverage Of Her Weight

Melissa McCarthy Calls Out The Media Coverage Of Her Weight

“In my 20s I used to cry about why I wasn’t thinner or prettier … [I] used to cry about things like, ‘I wish my hair would grow faster. I wish I had different shoes.’ I was an idiot. … Sure, criticism can sometimes still get to me. Some things are so malicious, they knock the wind out of you … It’s like I’m managing to achieve all this success in spite of my affliction … Would you ever put that in the headline for a male star?”

Well, I’ll admit that The Frisky is part of the problem here, because most of what we post about Melissa McCarthy has to do with her weight, too. The media does have a tendency to cover successful larger women just as successful larger women. I get why the media does it — because bigger, body positive role models are still relatively rare. But Melissa has a point: bigger male actors aren’t dealing with this shit. Melissa deserves to be covered the same way as other funny ladies, like Tina Fey and Amy Poehler. Focus on the funny, not on the size. [People]

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