Pediatric dentist Dr. Misee Harris of Kentucky is petitioning to become the first ever Black “Bachelorette.” This prospect means a lot is surfacing for me regarding the harmful stereotypes reinforced by women of color on reality television. How would she be received? If she did get an opportunity to be on the show and chose a non-black man, what would the social implications of that be? But more than that, I feel disheartened because I know that this reality reflects how America feels about who deserves to be happy and who doesn’t. Keep reading »
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We’re more than a decade into the 21st century. I’d hoped — in vain — that some basic understandings of how non-Black people should interact with Black people could be something I could take for granted. But no. Somehow there are “those people” who remain entirely clueless, so much so that they will call a 9-year old the c-word, or paint a white model bronze-Black, or not even, as so-called, journalists, bother to learn the pronunciation of an Oscar nominee’s name. This is unacceptable.
Recently, I read the comments section of a post on Clutch where a male reader was baffled as how to initiate a conversation with Black women and asked for some rules. Several helpful women obliged. In the same spirit of combating ignorance, I offer rules for non-Black people to engage Black women without causing offense. If you can manage NOT to do the following, you can probably come across as a decent human being.
Humbly, I submit a basic list, my rules of engagement, and ask you NOT to do the following (and encourage Black women to add to the list in the comments)… Keep reading »
This spread in Numero magazine is a headscratcher. Why did they hire a white model and cover her in brown makeup instead of just hiring a brown-skinned model? Or is she supposed to be a white woman in Africa who is, for some reason, Tanning Mom-level tan? Numero likely knew that photographing a 16-year-old white girl in heavy brown makeup, wearing colorfully printed clothing, next to the words “African Queen” would get people upset about blackface. And it worked. [Clutch Magazine]
I’ve been doing my utmost to debate less, but it’s hard when you’re as naturally opinionated as I am. This is compounded by the fact I come from a highly opinionated gene pool. Our family dinners sometimes spiral into debates. And when I say “sometimes,” I really mean 90 percent of the time.
Usually my mother plays referee, and when I say “referee,” I mean she’ll eventually shout, “Will you all be quiet!” My father plays the contrarian, opposing whatever view I hold. And my sisters may or may not be on my side.
I thought everyone did this — debate over dinner, as an expression of love and then pretend like nothing happened. Apparently not! Dinner is for small talk. So I’ve been trying to reprogram myself whenever I go out, because my opinions can be a bit disruptive. Keep reading »
Med students from Howard University College Of Medicine started a Change.org petition to urge Bravo to cancel a new reality show, “Married To Medicine.” The reality TV program set to debut on March 24 portrays the ups-and-downs for black women doctors and doctors’ wives/socialites in Atlanta. Keep reading »
When we sat down to record our “I Always Wanted To Ask” video series with Madame Noire, we discovered that there were a couple of questions we had for each other that kind of overlapped, including on the topic of hair. Veronica, Brande and Victoria wanted to know whether we, as white women, care about our hair as much as they, as Black women, care about theirs. We wanted to know more about the politics behind Black hair, like wearing weaves or using relaxers versus wearing their hair natural. Check out our chat above and share your questions and comments below!
I am so so so stoked to have you guys watch the second episode of “I Always Wanted To Ask,” the video series we did in collaboration with the fantastic women of Madame Noire. The series features The Frisky staff answering the questions they always wanted to ask white women, and Madame Noire’s staff — Brande, Veronica and Victoria — answering the questions we always wanted to ask Black women. Our first episode focused on interracial dating, but this episode gets a little heavier: the women of Madame Noire wanted to know, “Why are some white people hell-bent on using the n-word?” Check out the episode above and please weigh in with your thoughts on the topic in the comments!
About a month ago, I received an interesting proposition from a fellow editor at a women’s website called Madame Noire. Would The Frisky staff like to participate in an exchange where the editors of Madame Noire (all Black women) would ask us he questions they’d always wanted to ask white women, and vice versa. (The idea came from a similar exchange on the site VerySmartBrothas.com.) All of us were immediately psyched for the opportunity to talk honestly about race, a subject that is often rife with discomfort, and to see what we could learn from each other as a result. What originally was going to be a written post evolved into a video shoot, which went on way longer than any of us planned because we could not stop talking, and as result, we have the first in a multi-part series of episodes called “I Always Wanted To Ask…” This first episode focuses specifically on interracial dating. Before you watch, get to know the awesome women from Madame Noire, Brande, Veronica and Victoria, after the jump — and be sure to check out their site! We look forward to hearing what you think so please share your thoughts in the comments! Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, we were disturbed to learn the story of Rhonda Lee, a black meteorologist who was fired from KTBS-TV in Shreveport, Louisiana, after she responded in the comments, kindly and politely, to two racist Facebook posts written by viewers on the station’s page. One of the racist posts, in fact, had even been “liked” by the station. You can read the full back story here.
Today, the news program “Democracy Now!” has an interview with Lee about her firing. (Warning: there is a minute-long request for donations from “Democracy Now!” before the segment airs, as the program is independently owned and completely advertising-free.) Keep reading »