In a major departure from her previous programming — some of the filthiest programs on television — Oprah has said no one on her new channel will be using the word “bitches.” I just hope the Oprah Winfrey Network cleans up their act and bans “hoes” and “sluts,” too, because you know those Oprah gals get mouths on them when they’re fired up! Maybe OWN could start a company-wide “swear jar” and be fined a quarter whenever someone says a naughty word. Then Oprah could collect all the money and buy herself something nice for once! [New York Post] Keep reading »
Recently, I put myself in a tangle that I will be the first to admit was stupid: I took someone’s bait when I just should have kept my head down and my mouth shut. And this chafed like a subcutaneous rash. Ugh … you did it again! You need to have more control over yourself!
I sat with this for a few days, wondering why I keep letting myself keep doing this. One of the things I admire about my boyfriend is when emotions are running high, he can just check out — deescalating a situation like a good police officer. Me? I take that bait. I escalate. And you know what? It wasn’t worth engaging in. The woman who was baiting me was just being a bully. She was trying to intimidate me and demarcate lines of power, which pissed me off. I’m not keen on authority that I don’t respect.
Then something brilliant occurred to me last night: I can’t control petty behavior and I can’t control what other people’s defense mechanisms are, but I can change the way I see situations like this. And the way I see it now is I don’t need to be a bitch to get what I want. Keep reading »