How much should your family know about your sex life? Most straight people will probably say “not much,” given how our heteronormative culture just assumes most of us are screwing opposite sex partners behind closed doors. But lots of other people — I’m talking gay, bisexual, polyamorous or kinky folks — may feel like openness and acceptance of their sexuality is openness and acceptance of themselves. Yes, sexuality is very personal. But keeping info private which others happily flaunt can make a person feel like she’s keeping a big ol’ shameful secret.
Such is the conundrum of a bisexual woman married to a man who wrote to Slate’s advice columnist Dear Prudence, asking if she should “come out” to friends and family. Keep reading »
Never has Larry King seemed more like an old, out of touch fart than when he sat down for an interview with “True Blood”‘s Anna Paquin and couldn’t quite understand how she could be married to a man but consider herself a bisexual.
“Are you a non-practicing bisexual?” King asked Paquin, as if being bi is a hobby rather than sexual identity.
“Well, I am married to my husband,” Paquin replied, referring to her “True Blood” costar and the father of her twins. “And we are happily, monogamously married.”
“But you were bisexual?” King continued. Keep reading »
“I fall in love with human beings based on who they are, not based on what they do or what sex they are.”
I knew Shailene Woodley and I were meant to be lovers! From her taste in books (Anais Nin!), to her religious beliefs (“My religion is the Earth … I believe in trees”), to her no-makeup looks on the red carpet, to her refusal to wear anything other than used clothes, she really is the woman of my dreams. Shailene herself didn’t use the label bisexual. But she made clear to The Hollywood Reporter that she falls in love with human beings, not body parts. Keep reading »
“I’m really attracted to you, you know?” I sat in the middle of an Italian restaurant, frozen in disbelief at this audacious declaration. I sipped some wine and awkwardly laughed, my cheeks growing redder by the minute. Waiters and waitresses drifted past. I nibbled a tiramisu and drank another glass of rosé. But all I could think was, I’m really attracted to you, too.
On the surface, this sounds like a typical first date: a guy takes you out to dinner and says he finds you attractive; you flirt back and wonder if he’s going to kiss you goodnight; you’re nervous and jittery; you try to be funny while carefully maintaining that mysterious façade that originally peaked his interest.
Except that this wasn’t a typical date, at least for me.: I was actually out to dinner with a woman. And all I thought about the entire time was how badly I wanted to kiss her. Keep reading »
According to a new bummer of a study, 15 percent of people don’t believe bisexuality is a “real” orientation. In other words, they think people who identify as bisexual are lying.
The study, presented earlier this month at a meeting of the American Public Health Association, also found that the overall opinion of bisexuality is negative among both gay and straight people. Men who identified as straight were three times more likely to consider bisexuality “not a legitimate sexual orientation,” perhaps assuming that bisexuals are actually gay or just faking it. Male bisexuals were also found to be more stigmatized than female bisexuals, and women and people who identified as members of the LGBT community were less likely to have negative opinions of bisexuality. Keep reading »
“Well, get this. This girl from Jersey City has a knife in her boot. I pulled it out and said, ‘I’ll cut your dick off.’ You know what he did? He laughed at me.”
“Lost”‘s Michelle Rodriguez opened up to Entertainment Weekly about when she was 22 and a producer “pinned her against the wall and grabbed her between the legs.” Sadly, this kind of sexual abuse — particularly in the form of ‘casting couch’ perviness — is all too common for women in Hollywood. But after pulling a knife on him, that producer never bothered Rodriguez again.
Rodriguez also revealed for the first time publicly that she’s bisexual: Keep reading »