For 10 years, I struggled with my sexual orientation and what to call it. I searched for labels that seemed to fit me best — bisexual, lesbian, fluid, queer? I had been with my first girlfriend for over two years but still didn’t identify as gay because I continued to be attracted to men. When […]
“You’re either gay, straight, or lying.” I first heard that oft-repeated phrase when I was an 18-year-old freshman at UC Berkeley. I was at my first meeting of the GLBA (Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Alliance). I’d recently broken up with a girlfriend, and had been dating (and sleeping with) both men and women; I was […]
Sometimes, I have a hard time talking about being bisexual. Part of the difficulty is label itself: bisexual. As soon as it’s said out loud, or implied with the abbreviation bi, lady sex pops into peoples’ minds and all of a sudden things get X-rated. The mere mention of bi conjures images of co-eds kissing and dancing on bars for male […]
I’m a 22-year old female who is about to graduate from college. From the time that I’ve been in elementary school, I’ve always had an inkling that I might be bisexual. As I grew up and went through my first serious relationship, this feeling intensified, and I became more and more attracted to women. Now […]
With the proliferation of straight girl-on-girl action being popularized in the media—from “Girls Gone Wild” and Miley Cyrus’ sleepover kiss, to Katy Perry’s hit “I Kissed A Girl” and super-babe Megan Fox admitting she had a girlfriend—there has been a great change in the way female sexual orientation is perceived. It has become more of an […]
While it’s wonderful that we’re seeing more and more Hollywood stars coming out as bisexual (or refusing to label their sexuality entirely), that doesn’t erase the discrimination that many bisexual people still face. While it can be comforting to queer people to hear stars like Amandla Stenberg and Aubrey Plaza say they date all genders, that still might […]
How much should your family know about your sex life? Most straight people will probably say “not much,” given how our heteronormative culture just assumes most of us are screwing opposite sex partners behind closed doors. But lots of other people — I’m talking gay, bisexual, polyamorous or kinky folks — may feel like openness and […]
Let me tell you a story about “bi invisibility.” A few years ago, at my first full-time job – which, I should clarify, was at an LGBT nonprofit organization – I was chatting with a gay male co-worker about a conversation he had with an acquaintance of ours. Apparently I had come up in their […]
Every man should experience a bi-threeway in their lifetime because time is too short to allow our antiquated ideas of sexuality to bind us. The way our society has viewed gender, sexuality, and the expression of how we see both has never been more progressive. Finally we are beginning to understand that who we are […]
